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Refused a seat to feed babies aibu?

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SoonToBeSix · 21/04/2014 14:30

I don't think I abu but am interested to know if I am wrong . I went to a busy tourist attraction and needed to feed my newborn twins. There were several picnic tables but not were empty. One table had a single lady sat at a table that would seat eight people. I went to the table and started to sort out my twins bottles. The lady announced that my husband could not sit at the table( I had a mobility scooter ). I said my babies are hungry and need feeding. She repeated that he could not sit at the table as she was saving it for her family that also included hungry babies.
I said she shouldn't reserve whole tables but her tone was so unpleasant that I felt intimidated and left the table.
Was I unreasonable in expecting the lady to share her table?

OP posts:
SoonToBeSix · 22/04/2014 17:35

Good advice forgettable thanks

OP posts:
SoonToBeSix · 22/04/2014 17:36

Thanks Bertha it was am just hormonal I think .

OP posts:
Alisvolatpropiis · 22/04/2014 18:40

Soon

Your clarification post sets the time for what happened much better than your original post. I take back my yabu. You weren't and that woman was rude. Bit of a weird reaction also, as she was astute enough to see that it would be the nice thing to do to let your DH sit down so instead erm...the opposite.

I'd have said I was in a group but you could sit to feed the babies if I'd been observant enough to notice you. I can be nice!

SoonToBeSix · 22/04/2014 19:23

Thanks Alisvolat.

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brokenhearted55a · 22/04/2014 19:28

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WooWooOwl · 22/04/2014 19:34

I don't think anyone did assume that you and your DH just plonked yourself at the table.

It came across to me like you went up to the table, positioned yourself as if you were about to use it while you sorted out things to put on the table, and that's when the woman spoke to you.

I still think you should have asked before you were right next to the table looking for things in your bag.

Fairenuff · 22/04/2014 19:43

I think you are backtracking OP.

I went to the table and started to sort out my twins bottles

has now become had not even taken anything out of my bag

And

I said my babies are hungry and need feeding. She repeated that he could not sit at the table as she was saving it for her family that also included hungry babies. I said she shouldn't reserve whole tables but her tone was so unpleasant that I felt intimidated and left the table

has now become

I did not have chance to speak. Am quite upset people are assuming I am rude and entitled and plonked ourselves down at the table that was not what happened. I literally did not get chance to open my mouth

Hmm
Forgettable · 22/04/2014 19:49

Fairenuff have a heart, no need to keep on eh.

Fairenuff · 22/04/2014 19:56

What is the point in OP posting, disagreeing with everyone and then changing her story to try and make out she was in the right? Confused

It would be better to say, 'I was an arse but I've got baby twins come and soothe my brow', or something and then posters would have had more empathy, I believe.

Thread title: Refused a seat to feed babies aibu?

Answer: Er, yes, because you weren't refused a seat.

If you ask AIBU, then you should accept the majority vote and get over yourself, imo.

feckawwf · 22/04/2014 20:03

I would be pretty peeved if I came across an empty picnic table and thought "ooh wel eat here...DH you go take the kids to the toilet/for food or such like" then while they are gone someone presumes it's ok to join me leaving no room for said husband&kids when they return.

So in that case Yabu

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