I have sent an email calling her on her behaviour. My DH is a spineless git who refuses to have a word even when he knows she is bang out of order.
Brief outline - she has stayed with us over a week. She came down to visit and when I asked my DH how long she was staying she said he didn't know. She seemed to have an aggrieved air about her from the off.
She has used a clipped tone, demanded to go to bed at 8.30pm and generally created a frowsy atmosphere by eye-rolling, giving one word answers and going off on huge moaning rants on other occasions about teaching/government/weather etc. ESP when you are trying to watch something. She has this habit of talking over me too.
On the second day of her visit she announced she was following a 'paleo' plan although she was still having bread/pasta/pots etc . I asked her if she could give me any idea of what she would like me to cook and she said she would have what we were having. So I tried to think around it. I cooked a huge spag Bol but let her do her pasta, cooked salmon,three bird roast, fried breakfast and did a huge spread with cheeses,nuts,meats,olives etc that would accommodate her latest food enthusiasm.
When she left she pointedly said goodbye to everyone but me. I stuck my head out the door and said 'er goodbye then' and she just turned and got into the car rude cah. Now we hadn't had words and this was weird given how much time and effort I had put into making her comfortable.
My DH has just returned from her house after working on her garden for a couple of days with my eldest son. Before they left she told him that she had told me that she had particular dietary requirements and that I had fed her the opposite of everything she had outlined to me. He told her perhaps I was confused and had thought the opposite which he knows is bullshit as he knows what we have been eating. I am really pissed off with him.
I am fuming and have just emailed her outlining all the thought that went into meeting her requirements with little notice. I have probably created a bit of a shit storm but she is routinely sulky and prone to creating atmospheres and after a week of her shit I just have reached
my limit. AIBU?