to not want to entertain dd all week?

[Fuckeroo]

I work ft and have three children. I love them dearly and want them to be happy. But equally I do not want to spend every minute of my previous week of work entertaining them.

My 11yo and 2yo are happy pottering today. 10yo DD has not stopped mithering to 'do stuff' all day. I am exhausted. I am now on the sofa (on hold to the bank so still doing stuff) and she is having a strop because I said I don't have anything planned for her.

Help me.

Being at work is so much easier than this...

op, you said it.

Anyone bored in our house gets a list of chores to do. Quickly, they find they aren't so bored after all.

What exactly is your problem, ssd?

Are you sad? Would you like a hug?

Seriously, Fuckeroo, pay her no mind. It is totally normal for adult to be driven to madness by a child who cannot entertain herself.

YANBU Op, a 10yo should be able to occupy themselves.

ssd

Yanbu she is old enough to spend some time entertaining herself.

I am asahp, I don't take them out every day and I don't spend all day making sure the 11 year old has something to do. Bloody hell if they cant spend a few hours entertaining themselves at that age there is a problem

As s

As someone pointed out up thread, some kids are easier than others. My daughter is very easy company, can amuse herself, can be sociable, whatever. My son (10), is always demanding attention. He's funny, smart, good fun- but totally self centred and totally exhausting! These people who moan about ft workers and their mummying skills or lack of, should try a few like him! It's the old adage- please don't judge until you've walked a mile in someone else's shoes.

I recognise you from your previous nn.

Isn't dd quite tricky anyway, or have I got it wrong?

She'll be arsey regardless of what you do.

Bless our kids!

Mothers looking after their own brats, whatever next! They will want money for popping them out next

oh wait .....

What is it these days about having to entertain them? I don't remember being entertained by my parents..

I know. My family never felt the need to 'entertain' me in the holidays, especially not by the time I was ten. When did this whole idea that it was a parent's job to fill their child's every waking moment come from?

Bloody hell. Take them to the cinema and they have to be quiet for two hours!

DD is my tricky little sausage,yes.

Bless her cotton socks.

Tomorrow's a new day, have you moved yet?

You're good with kids, you know you don't need to keep her 'entertained', can she sort boxes for you in return for a quid.

If I did stuff with my kids every day I would be peeling them off the ceiling!!

I don't think children should be constantly entertained either. My job is stressful and I need some down time to recover, I also suffer from fatigue related to a chronic health condition, so sometimes I just have to stay home and rest sometimes, and my dd finds this boring but that's just how it is. Eventually she goes off and entertains herself as I won't constantly entertain her. Mine don't like going out either, so when the cry of boredom goes up I suggest going out to the shops or something and they soon scuttle off and find something to do. It seems the OPs crime is working full time and not feeling guilty enough to provide 24/7 style entertainment for her kids when she is not at work!!

From your post it sounds like your staying in the house all day today, that's a bit unreasonable when you have kids.

Really? We stayed in all day on Sunday, didn't even get dressed. We had breakfast and lunch together, the kids helped dh cook dinner, we watched a DVD, played a couple of board games and built a cardboard boat-thing that ds2 had for his birthday. It was a very slow-paced, no-plans day though.

It's not ur to have an odd day in!

I never felt I had to entertain them or take them out each day. I was too busy clearing up , making beds, cooking meals. They seem to have grown up OK; their children have grown up OK. Too many parents seem to think if they are not all-singing, all-dancing entertainers for their children they are failures. Relax, tell them to shut up and find something to do.

Blimey ssd.

I can't remember my parents taking me anywhere, ever. I was just thinking this the other day, how we all do a lot more entertaining that I ever remember.

Please don't entertain your child, it would be much better for her if you give her things to do. Crayons and paper are a good start.
No wonder children turn up at school expecting teachers to be entertainers.

Today we are emptying the loft in preparation for moving house in a few weeks.

DD has been my chief bag catcher and organiser. Not a single moan of boredom out of her.

I have neglected the DSs however, DS1 is watching tv and DS2 is eating Easter Eggs....

I've been "entertaining" my 12 yr old dd by "letting her" defrost the freezer today.

I'm so kind