To be told that it's a suprise that my daughter is in nursery this week..

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Im teacher, my daughter attends nursery 2 days a week (Monday and Wednesdays) I turned up with her today on the first day of the holidays and the deputy said to my daughter "oh I'm surprised to see you here today with your mummy being a teacher"...I responded with "oh I'm going to clean the house and do some ironing" meaning I'm going to have a day doing fuck all without my beautiful but very bossy 2 year old ordering me around.
She does this everytime I drop her off in the holidays and I always, stupidly justify my actions- I wouldn't mind but I have two older children (who are in footy club today- their choice!) so it's not like they think I'm dumping running and resting (even though I am today).
What annoys me even more is that In the holidays I drop her at 10 and collect at 3- she sleeps for 2 of these hours and I pay £44 a day anyway! Do they really think I'm going to pay for nothing when she loves going there?
Grrrrrrr anyway I'd better get on with my ironing (switched on the electric blanket)

When I dropped my daughter off on weds, the deputy said "have a nice lunch" just as I walked out of the door! I said nothing because by this point she was locking the door.
I had said that I would collect her at 3 but when I turned up at 2.35 my daughter was standing by the door with her coat on..... I was livid! I spoke to the manager and told her I do not appreciate comments made about what I do in my own time or that my daughter is ready to be collected at least 25 minutes before I said I would pick her up (god knows how long she as standing there or how she stood so nicely- she wouldn't at home .
Manager apologised profusely and said she would speak to the deputy....will update next week if anyone is still interested....

I would be raging at that too. How dare they do that!
I turned up to pick up dd and she was out playing in the garden. They were surprised I came earlier, even in my holidays. You are paying for a service. Probably paying a large fee. What your plans for when your child is there is not their concern.

I suspect the comment has more to do with you wandering in at around the time if their mid-morning snack, when they usually see you much earlier in the day. They probably would have assumed by that point that you were not coming. I imagine this would disrupt the morning routine somewhat - as a teacher yourself you must empathise?
I think the simplest answer to the comment is 'she enjoys it'! They get an ego boost, and you do not need to tell them what your plans are for the day.

Well done for saying you went to bed. I still send my DS into pre-school when I'm off and also pay extra to have him stay their until 3. I'm very blasé about it being so I can chill out and enjoy my holiday especially as we have no money to go anywhere anyway.

I get some looks off the other parents but then they don't work full time in shifts and are not single parents so I just smile.

Justtoomessy- are you sure other parents are giving you looks? It seems a bit odd considering children go to pre school whether or not their parents work.

Well done on addressing it with the manager. Sounds like the deputy has a real 'attitude', that needs to be nipped in the bud.

I adore the holidays and spending time with DCs. They grow up so fast. I wouldn't even have considered farming them out when they were younger.

YANBU and shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone. I'm off work today and have 'farmed out' my DCs to the holiday club while I piss about on mumsnet. I do not feel a single shred of guilt. You don't need to spend 24 hours a day with your kids to be a good parent.

Windchime, I don't "farm dd out" every day. We spend quality time together too. It is just easier to get some things done without the "help" of a toddler.
It is also nice to have some time to do things alone - like showering, having a hot cup of tea etc.
This holidays I've also been into school twice to write reports. It is either do them now or not see dd for a few weekends too. Surely it is better that I use the paid childcare, where she has fun with friends and lots of interesting activities than taking her to sit and draw in my classroom whilst I work.
Or perhaps this was a dog at working parents. If it was, well I'm sorry but I quite like having a roof over our heads and eating. I wouldn't be able to afford such luxuries without working.

*dig not dog.

I would actually change childcare provider op! Cheek of them. Poor girl having to stand at the door as if she's not wanted anymore. I'd be fuming.

You should say you were just there to collect the £44 you had paid them to look after your child Cheeky buggers!

Well, good for you, windchime. That's very nice. Are you a teacher?, or a SAHM?

OP - the pickup thing is awful. My DD was regularly the last one there at nursery (not sure why, it's not like I was late - just everyone else seemed to be able to pick up very early ) and whilst the 2 staff remaining were pottering around tidying up, etc, they were always doing so whilst engaging with DD, and she loved having 2 carers all to herself for the last bit of the day.

Was your DD "last man standing" by 2:30pm ? Even if she was, there is no excuse whatsoever for having her standing by the door half an hour before you are due (and 2.5 before they stop being paid to have her, FGS). Even if it was her idea the staff should have been distracting her into some other activity. Did you get any sort of explanation?

Just read your update, she has some attitude on her! I'm glad you spoke to the manager.

I love this post! My mother in law once told me I was cruel for putting my child in daycare when I took a days annual leave to sort out some things at home. I don't think she liked it when I told her she was welcome to look after him for the day whilst I did what I had to do...

Wow! Glad you spoke the manager. I hope it does some good. First she passive-aggressively says something to your DD instead of you, and then makes her wait by the door for what is expected to be at least 25min -- and you don't know how long she was there beforehand! A 2 year old! My 2yo wouldn't stand like that for 5 mins... I would quite worry that your DD might get the message she's not welcome there if this sort of thing continues.

Yes they were giving me looks whatever5 because I was paying extra so he stayed until 3 rather than 12:15.

I'm doing this today. Just done 2.5hrs of planning and now I'm off for a bath. Our nursey encourages you to send them in over the holidays, to keep up the routine. Not to mention my DD loves it there. And we're just getting over 2 weeks of illness. We both need a break from each other!

It's a long time since my DCs were in nursery, but I put them in on days off, both to keep them in routine and to get things done when it wasn't practical having little one around.

I never had even a hint of the attitude the OP is getting from this deputy, and it's good the OP has had a word with the manager. I hope things improve.