To be told that it's a suprise that my daughter is in nursery this week..

[Rowood]

Im teacher, my daughter attends nursery 2 days a week (Monday and Wednesdays) I turned up with her today on the first day of the holidays and the deputy said to my daughter "oh I'm surprised to see you here today with your mummy being a teacher"...I responded with "oh I'm going to clean the house and do some ironing" meaning I'm going to have a day doing fuck all without my beautiful but very bossy 2 year old ordering me around.
She does this everytime I drop her off in the holidays and I always, stupidly justify my actions- I wouldn't mind but I have two older children (who are in footy club today- their choice!) so it's not like they think I'm dumping running and resting (even though I am today).
What annoys me even more is that In the holidays I drop her at 10 and collect at 3- she sleeps for 2 of these hours and I pay £44 a day anyway! Do they really think I'm going to pay for nothing when she loves going there?
Grrrrrrr anyway I'd better get on with my ironing (switched on the electric blanket)

Do they expect you to juggle marking, lesson planning etc with caring for a toddler (whilst paying the nursery to look after her)???? Ask them when the last time was that they tried it!

What a silly comment. There's no conceivable difference to the child between childcare or playgroup- and most toddlers get sent to playgroup for their own enjoyment, not the parents.

Fortunately nobody has commented to us! The nursery DD goes to knows I'm a student and will know it's easter holidays. However, we're due to move very soon so she's in nursery whilst I pack.

Reminds me, I have to make an easter bonnet for Thursday. Bugger.

Mine are in as usual over the holiday. It's full rate for the 3yr old as the 15 hrs don't apply, plus baby room costing more. I'm already out of pocket as my temporary contract leaves me unpaid over the holiday, so I'm getting my full money's worth out of it, other than having to pay for no service on Good Friday. Hmph.

Entering a new part time, local teaching job is a demanding set of criteria, so the only way to maintain my career is to accept what's on offer even if it is financially dubious.

Apart from anything else it's not the sort of thing a nursery worker should say to a child or in front of a child.

God I actively look forward to days off when DS is in nursery and I am off work. They are a rare treat. That occasional bit of me time keeps me sane. I adore him but I also adore a little bit of peace

YANBU - she was rude and judgey.

My dd always goes when dp and I are off work! It's the only time we get anytime together!

In fact op, my dp is a teacher and our dd is in nursery all week even though he's off work. I'd be annoyed if nursery workers started commenting on it. Enjoy your day off!

Oh, DC1 goes to nursery even though I'm on mat leave!

Next time I'd be tempted to say something like "oh gosh I didn't know that term time only contracts where available here! I figured as I'm paying I might as well get my jobs done in peace, but if I can just have her in for term time that would save us a fortune and i'd pay a cleaner to do it for me instead, is that something I can discuss with [name of manager]?" [innocent smile]

DC1's nursery have never commented.

it's part of their job not to comment

just like it's part of a check out person's job not to comment when someone buys a pregnanct test, condoms etc

Apart from anything else it's not the sort of thing a nursery worker should say to a child or in front of a child

hear hear !

Just seen your update op, good for you! Btw, the other week I some annual leave to use up so I booked a day off, took dd to nursery that day and then went back to bed for a 2 hour kip! I am planning something similar for a few months time

Just picked my partner up from station (he finished work early ) and was telling him about this thread and what the deputy said. He laughed and said "did you tell them you had five kids"- I replied with "oh if forgot about that!". I have two step children too who I care for in the holidays as their mum works (didn't intentionally miss them out, they are on a day out today with their mum) anyway, had a lovely day, albeit brief and am now going to round up the kids and then off to the park with a football and scooters...wishing I was back in bed...

"Utterly saved my sanity. I'm not designed to do DCs 24/7 they do my head."

This. I'm a SAHM but my daughter went to nursery one day a week from six months. I was struggling with PND at the time and it really did save my sanity. Anyone who didn't approve was obviously jealous!

I think I'd just smile and say 'oh well, since I'm paying for it, I might as well take advantage if it...'

I used to sometimes send my children to nursery when I (or DH) were taking annual leave. Why on earth not? You still have to pay full rate whether your child attends or not, it keeps them in routine and my two loved going anyway. Very unprofessional of the nursery worker to comment on it as if it was unexpected.

She said it to your daughter? That was really out of order :(

And even if she'd said it to just you -- echo what everyone says above! It's not their business to judge when you use their service, especially if they charge you for it anyway. And the fact that your daughter enjoys it makes it even more bewildering. She should be denied an activity she enjoys simply because you're not heading into work?

I'm a teacher and dd will be doing her usual 2 days this week. We've paid for it.

I work every evening and a large part of each weekend in term time.
I'll be using this week to clean my house, do admin, service car, go to dentist and optician and get my hair cut. Just like many other teachers I expect!

Don't teachers work in the hoildays, what do they think happens to the children when the teachers have planning and marking to catch up with.

There is also nothing wrong with having a few hours to yourself.

It's none of the nursery business.

Wow a nursery with a farm and a playbarn. We have nothing like that near us, what part of the country is that in?

You're so not being unreasonable. You're paying for nursery. It's out of order for nursery to say something, although maybe they didn't mean it as a criticism.

I work shifts. I work 3 days and pay for 3 days nursery. However I work shifts, therefore if I work the weekend, my days off are in the week on DS nursery days. And yes, he goes to nursery when I'm off. I have little control over my shifts and last autumn I worked every fucking weekend between September and Christmas. In fact I almost never get my shifts on the days he's in nursery, so pretty much every week I get a day off when he's in nursery.

I do feel a little guilty, but he loves nursery, and when its a rainy cold day it's so much better him being in nursery having fun singing and making a mess with his little friends than me trying to entertain him at home.

It's a bloody expensive way to get a day to myself though.

Sometimes, DH takes a days annual leave and we go to the cinema and out for a nice lunch while DS is in nursry. We don't have anyone to babysit usually so it's bloody great.

Make the most of it. It's so hard to get anything done with a toddler. And sod the housework make sure you have some time to yourself and enjoy it!

How bloody rude and unprofessional.

I was a cm and felt great when my parents dropped them off and were doing something nice.

Absolutely none of my business though.

Thanks for your feedback everyone! When I went to collect my daughter the deputy asked if I'd got my ironing done!!! Lol! I said "nah I couldn't be bothered, I went to bed instead!"
I would never have said that if it wasn't for you lot because she had me feeling quite guilty.

My sister goes on mat leave soon and HAS to keep putting her 2 y/o daughter in childcare or they'll lose their place. It's a coveted child care centre in the city and she'd be paying anyway so she's going to take the time to bond with the new baby as well.