to wear my HUGE judgypants in MacDdonalds.

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Took dd to MacDonalds today. For us this is a holiday treat as we enjoy the odd burger, although dd is really just lured by the plastic tat in the happy meal TBH. She is slim and eats normally rest of time.

But, bloody hell, the people in there were beyond belief really. Makes me realize how other families actually live and why the health of the country is as it is.

Family 1- all huge, and the youngest dd (aged about 9) was definitely the fattest and not only that she was eating a full sized meal, and worst of all was wearing a full red velour lipsy tracksuit with gold embroidery!!!!!

Family 2- Two boys with their dad, all sat vacantly staring at their food and munching away. First boy opens his (supersize) fries and says "wheres the salt?" Dad doesn't say anything, just fishes in the papers on his tray and passes packet of salt to child. The chips are ALREADY covered in far too much salt, especially for kids, and if the child asks for salt this makes me think this is a regular thing for him, to cover his food in salt.

Don't these people take any responsibility for their health AT ALL?

Misspixietricks, no I have not sniggered at an overweight child but I do have a very intense internal monologue that is deeply critical of their parents.

This kicked in yesterday in Aldi when there was a truly massive and very grumpy women near the cleaning materials. I was there with a list, primly ticking off my cleaning and laundry requirements, she commanded her (rather drugged up?) partner to walk the two steps to the bleach because presumably her blubber wouldn't let her. Now I know the sociological context of why she might have ended up like that, and I know about disability as well, and I really do appreciate you can't wave a wand at this stuff, but one rather large bit of me thought, "In the 1970s you never saw people like this in the UK, and now they are wobbling about bloody everywhere. Why can't she get a grip?" I am sure that was rude and unfair and exceptionally judgypants, but at the end of the day, if we are too nice about this stuff we are bloody well enabling what is an atrocious lifestyle and the root of much misery.

Well maybe I should start by telling the summy mummies to stop smoking and texting whilst their little darlings run amuck round the park - least they were at the park in the fresh air.

Ah but the difference is Boffin. You weren't thinking this about a child and as Lets I think it was said. Most people let that kick in before they get close enough to a computer screen.

Well there's not being too nice and then there's referring to people as "having blubber".

Its unusual that just being obese would lead you to not be able to walk 2 steps.

Far more likely that someone would become obese quite easily if they are immobile say from arthritis. You cant eat very much to stay slim if immobile.

Fanjo, I do take that point but I was trying to describe a kind of sense of genuine revulsion. Bear in mind that you are getting some innermost thoughts here.

Yes it was rude and unfair boffin - we are now onto third generation drug users, many will not know what life is like without drugs having known nothing different

I really am sick of the leafy suburb brigade on here - they haven't got a clue how some people live.

Fanjo, I've actually got arthritis so I am sort of understanding on unsympathetic at the same time, IYSWIM. I go to a lot of effort to stay mobile but some people just let it get on top of them.

Well I think its wrong to feel revulsion at another human being. Unless they are a paedophile or murderer or something.

but one rather large bit of me thought, "In the 1970s you never saw people like this in the UK

Was that the wobbly, blubbery bit, Boffin

I really wish we could ditch the twee term 'judgypants' and call it what it is. Have the courage of your convictions, if you judge then judge, don't give it a "cutesy" name to make yourself sound vaguely more pleasant or something!

Borsetshire, that's not actually true about me in particular.

And they might be innermost thoughts but you are putting them down here where people may well be hurt by them.

See Ronald..can disagree with people without name changing.

I meant the rolls of fat over the stretchy clothing thing, with the wobbling and general physical condition.

Yes, it makes me cross sometimes when I think that a) people don't have to live like that, and b) we make excuses for them.

It is hardly surprising that people name change in order to make a comment that doesn't go with the flow given the reactions of many posters on here.

Some people seem to think that Mumsnet should have thought police. Never be proud of your views - you should always be open to having them challenged and that includes reading comments that you disagree with. What would be the point of this site if everyone shared the same opinions?

It can just creep up on people though especially if they are immobile.

And then be extremely hard to lose.

Fanjo, you can't help how you feel.
I get revolted by loud parenting as well, and people hitting children in public. And man boobs, and all sorts of affronts to human dignity.

Who says they should have thought police?

Not me..I just personally think it's not right to talk of obese people as repulsive.

People are free to disagree with me, and will.

It's kindness not "PC gone mad".

I think I had better hide this thread before I say even more, and everyone tells me off more. Bye folks.

Boffin. I am not telling you off.

I am just disagreeing.

Oh come on Migsy, only a coward name changes to 'go against the flow'.

No-one's going to type them to death.

If you have an opinion you might as well own it, rather than changing NNs to goad and then slipping back into a usual name to be all sweetness and light again.

Then you should understand why it takes so much more effort to dig yourself out of a hole when you are living with deprivation and poverty then Boffin.

Plus "everyone" isn't.

I predict it's me who will get a good roasting noe.

Or even now.

I feel disappointed by BoffinMum after my previous posts and always having credited her with good sense in the past. DDs arms are shocking - very blubbery and upsetting to see but I know why they are like that. You would see them and automatically think this:

I am sure that was rude and unfair and exceptionally judgypants, but at the end of the day, if we are too nice about this stuff we are bloody well enabling what is an atrocious lifestyle and the root of much misery.

How sad that my DD feels forced to cover up because this is the shit that she automatically gets and people aren't good at hiding what they think. I know and I pray she doesn't notice.

Not every big child is as a result of medication, but how do you know?

Sick of bullying attitudes by seemingly intelligent people.