To not want to buy or receive any Easter eggs for my children?

[AJayne48]

I have had a very unhealthy relationship with food my whole life, I am obese and although I have lost 8 stone I have managed to put all of that back on and more.

I am very obsessive about what my children eat and nothing unhealthy passes their lips. My family have expressed there opinion many times letting me know how unfair I am being.

I have told them that I will not accept Easter eggs as I don't want or think my children need them.

I haven't banned everything, cake on birthdays and special occasions they can have something unhealthy but nothing more.

My children will not end up like me and I am doing everything to make sure of that but my family think that I am being extremely rude to say that I am not accepting Easter eggs because they want to buy them some.

AIBU?

YABU

You are enforcing the unhealthy relationship you have had with food on to your children.

I should add they I have said that a little gift would be lovely for them, I've offered to put money towards these as I know Easter eggs can be cheap and finding a gift for the same amount would be difficult but they have flat out refused to do this.

I can understand how you feel, but it must be really tough when your children see all the chocolate at Easter time and they're not allowed any at all. Can't you accept them graciously, let your children choose one or two, and donate the rest? No one needs to know which were donated. You can control what they eat up to a certain age, but if they're never allowed to eat something you'll probably find when they get older they'll buy all sorts of rubbish on the way to school.

How old are your children?

I don't know how I'd feel in your circumstances but I don't think the occasional sweet or chocolate matters.

People do go a bit crazy at Easter though. When DS was younger he got huge amounts of eggs but quickly forgot about them after a couple.

Yabu and forcing your obsessiveness about food onto them. You are projecting an unhealthy attitude towards food even though you are trying to achieve the opposite.

I think you have good reasoning and can understand your fears and I am no psycholgost but there may be a chance this could have the opposite effect?
My mum had a strictly healthy upbringing and when she moved out binged because she could! And never could before.

My son has an extremely healthy diet for medical
Reasons, but I worry that if he doesn't have the fast of something sweet he will go the opposite way when older - so I buy him 'healthy treats' these are chocolate, cakes etc without refined sugars, wheat,, gluten. Additives, couloirs and flavourings. IME it is a crime some
Of these things are added as they are bad for our health, cause addictions, binging and they are completely not needed. His treats are as tasty as any others - just more expensive

Maybe ty to avoid these chemicals that cause us to overindulge and make it hard to stop. Wheat containing foods are one of the worst culprits for over Induldging as it contains morphins

By treating it as such a rare item you will be fueling an unhealthy habit I'm afraid.

You need to chill out. Once a year on birthdays, and perhaps the other odd occasional special day is too rare.

I think YABU

Completely denying your children will only make them look elsewhere for it?

Why not compromise and let them have the eggs at your families homes, so that you are not tempted to them?

Sorry for all the typos on the iPad hope you can make all of that out!

I am currently losing weight with Slimming World. So far I have lost 4.5st but still have about 6st to go.
I have 3 ds and I watch what they eat but I never stop them having treats.
Ive got so many problems with food that I have made a big deal of not making food an issue to them.
I think depriving them of these 'naughty' foods might lead to problems in the future.

YABU, you are probably going to pass on your obsessive behavior about food to them.

By depriving your kids of "normal" treats you are guaranteeing that as soon as they are able to exercise some control over their eating, they'll go wild.

I had a friend like that at school. Her Mum was massively into healthy eating, so when she came to my house for tea she just ate and ate, as much cake etc as she could get her hands on, and clearly did that wherever she went, and became a morbidly obese teenager.

My Mum allowed cake and chocolate etc, but no processed food, not even ketchup or squash. When I left home age 18 I ate nothing but junk for about 5 years, because I had a lifetime of rubbish to catch up on!

You need to educate your kids that everything is fine in moderation.

So yes, YABU. So much so that I wonder if this is a reverse AIBU?

Yes. You are.
Your children aren't you. They don't have an unhealthy attitude to food and they're not responsible for your's either. Allow them to learn how to make their own sensible choices for food.
I agree, having 20 or so easter eggs in the house is OTT, but having a few small ones won't hurt them. If you ban them you will make chocolate seem more desirable. You really do seem a little bit obsessive.
Why not allow the family to buy them eggs and allow them a small amount each day.

yabu unreasonable.very

You are going from one extreme to another.

Neither extreme is healthy. It really is about moderation. You're making food into an issue.

When your children get their own money there is a risk they might stuff themselves silly with unhealthy food.

YANBU

Read the recent obesity thread, anyone?

When I was growing up children received one egg from their parents. Now it seems to be the norm to get 5 or 6. Why do they need so much?

Buy them one chocolate egg and then celebrate Easter in other ways through craft, stories, egg decorating etc.

I think YANBU to not buy Easter eggs for them yourself but YABU to tell others not to- it's their choice what they give. Even if they get given loads off eggs they last months and months and they can have small amounts at a time. I would worry about restricting things dramatically that they will get an unhealthy relationship with food, there is also the risk that as soon as they are old enough and have money of their own they will go out and have what they're not allowed at home.

YABU
If you don't let your DCs have unhealthy treats at the appropriate seasons they will remember.

The day they go to senior school (or however they get to walk past shops on their own), they will start buying treats for themselves and the stricter you are, the sillier and more secretive they will be.

Senior school food is also awful.

If they are genetically programmed to put on weight this teen silliness is liable to be regretted.

They too will end up seeing food as a reward, dieting to compensate and you know that isn't healthy.

Loads of eggs!

I am sorry it is so difficult for you, and you are not entirely unreasonable to not want your kids to eat too much chocolate.

But surely they can have a bit?

mine can have some of their chic after lunch or dinner, for example. And if it is too much, I will keep it for them (for later)

it is precisely this all-or-nothing approach that is disordered. A bit of choc is fine.

Obsessively "healthy" eating is not actually healthy. You can eat a few chips, cake or some chocolate every now and then as part of a balanced diet.