to produce a checklist to find out if people i know are nice or not?

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It might save lots of time.

Question no. 1 (prompted by a current thread) would be 'Do you think that wheelchair users should always have priority over other users on buses?'

I am so stunned at the number of people on the thread who think the answer is 'no' that it is making me wonder how many people i know in RL think the same thing!

What questions would you put on your checklist?

'Do you think food allergies are funny and make stupid jokes about them even though they can be a life threatening medical condition?'

I actually use that one in real life - i don't ask the question obviously but I do judge people who make the jokes as not being very nice/empathetic/sympathetic.

nobodysbaby yeah, you could totally be in our quiche.

Do you judge on appearances?

When ordering a drink do you say "Can I get.....?"

Do you gossip behind other people's back and justify it by saying things like "everyone does it" or "it's just human nature"?

Do you think everything was better when you were young, that young people have no respect and we all survived without health and safety so why do we need seatbelts/car seats/crash helmets?

Do you make stuff up to support your (failing) argument?

Are you a story topper?

Do people who talk A LOT annoy you? If so I will get right on your nerves and we should probably just call it quits now.

Do you assume the best or the worst of people?

Do you think that your music is very important and the whole world needs to hear it blasting out of your flat or car?

Do you think that if you smile and shrug, or wave an apology to me as you sail past me halfway across a zebra crossing, that that's totally ok?

Do you steal shampoo from swimming pools?

Do you keep your baby in a nappy for six hours to save money, yet smoke and have Sky tv?

Do you tell me, in great detail, about a close friend's betrayal and imminent divorce, even though I've only met her twice (DSil I'm looking at you!)?

Do you spit in the street?

And yes, the 'would you save your pet or a child in a fire' thread was unbelievable. Someone even dithered over whether they would give their dog or a child a lethal injection when the scenario was changed to up the ante!

The facebook posting of meals is just bizarre and should be high up on the list. I also like the makeup one question and would tag on it false eyelashes and those awful high eyebrows that wouldnt be out of place on star trek.

Whilst i love reading but hate clutter, i'd like to know they are onboard with a kindle rather than believing i cant read.

do you go around digging up malicious gossip about someone and then repeat it all to the child of the person it is about, then when the person tries to discuss it with you,you say rudely 'I can't be doing with this'?

sorry can someone just reassure me that the above is bang out of order?
it just happened to me...

Will you make me take of your shoes when I visit you?

Sorry, can of worms I know, but if someone asks me to remove shoes I just know we will never be best buddies (that doesn't make them a bad person!)

Ditto the do you like animals question - I am more likely to be pals with a fellow animal lover (although I would save any random child over an animal, no matter how loved).

Do you iron your sheets & tea towels? If yes, then I would be polite as I gently backed away from you.

Do you say "I speak as I find" or "I call a spade a spade" as an excuse to be really rude/offensive?

Do you leave a reasonable space between you and the person in front of you in a queue?

Do you say 'I'm not racist but......(insert offensive racist statement here)?

Do you always have to have the last word on any given subject?

The Make up judgements are fascinating.

I am just in the final stages of recovering from a EA relationship. I also have time for me, after being a Carer and main problem solver/holder together in my family. My youngest is 17 this year. I have recovered and developed my sense of what I like and how I want to live, the EA chipped away at that.

I enjoy painting/colouring myself (choosing and applying make up). I have always enjoyed this, this wasn't the norm in the women in my family, I wasn't influenced.

I'm entering my late 40's. I know myself well and don't see why I should change my behaviour and not do something that I enjoy and is harmless to others, because of the incorrect assumptions and judgements directed at that behaviour by others.

I don't judge others who don't wear make up, I don't even notice, tbh and I have never mixed with other women that do, whether they fully make up, or don't.

Nigellas- be reassured. My jaw actually dropped reading that.
Re animals- I'm sure can be nice if they are not animal lovers, however I could never love them.

Do you post things like "well, I know who my true friends are now" on FB and when people ask what's wrong, reply with "I'll PM you hun"?

Do you truly believe all, or even most, illegal immigrants are benefits scroungers in six-bedroom mansions?

Do you refuse to move your bag on a crowded bus or train unless someone asks, and then do so with as bad grace as possible?

If you answer "yes" to any of the above, we'll never be close.

Is your name Simon? I've never met a nice one. Even the one I thought was nice turned out to be a cunt in disguise.

Oh and I am one of the biggest animal lovers I know, have had pets my entire life, actively fundraise for animal charities yadda yadda and I don't have children of my own, but of course I'd save a child - any child - over my pet. How could anyone not??

who gets food priority children or adults?
do you facebook? if yes do you know how to work your privacy settings? so i dont get spammed by bowel movements

I once lost a whole weekend arguing that it's more ethical to save a human from a fire than an family pet.

For me, it would depend on the human. In some cases it wouldn't even have to be a family pet. Or have fewer than six legs.

about the pets and the fire thing my ex left something in the oven the house was filling up with smoke my cat broke the lounge door got to me woke me then ran to my dd room he didn't leave the house he could have saved himself...........i miss him rip bob

I'd save my goldfish rather than DS in a house fire. No contest.

Yes but your goldfish would boil solesource whereas DS could run

My goldfish are my life limited. How insensitive of you!