to produce a checklist to find out if people i know are nice or not?

[drivenfromdistraction]

It might save lots of time.

Question no. 1 (prompted by a current thread) would be 'Do you think that wheelchair users should always have priority over other users on buses?'

I am so stunned at the number of people on the thread who think the answer is 'no' that it is making me wonder how many people i know in RL think the same thing!

What questions would you put on your checklist?

Sorry mardy I should rephrase that to, 'are you nasty to animals'

So does it mean that when you ask these "screening" questions, that if you dont get the exact answer you want, you really will write the person off as "good" or "bad"?

Phew, that IBVU.

Or is this a [light-hearted] AIBU

Fair enough, nursey. I get a bit fed up with the MN stance that non-animal lovers are lacking in morals. I once lost a whole weekend arguing that it's more ethical to save a human from a fire than an family pet.

Do you want an independent Scotland?

If yes then you are crossed off the Chen Christmas card list immediately.

martorana yesterday a very fast cyclist nearly hit my pram while we were on a zebra crossing (the cars had stopped but he didnt see the need), so yes I do think its occasionally ok to shout fuck off sometimes..

Oh no Gossipy, I do talk over other people when I get excited. Sometimes I really think I need a zip on my mouth. FWIW I don't spread rumours, nick dafs or knock and run!

My Q would be, do you ever use the phrase 'It's political correctness gone mad.'

I think it could get messy if you start judging someone on how much makeup they wear, Objection!

mardy Oh it's nothing to do with morals, it's just if you came round my house and my boxer was trying to sit on your knee you might not like it

Do you park like a twat i.e. are you more important than everyone else?

Do you use appropriate restraints for your children in the car, or do you think a 2 year old in the front seat in a booster seat (no highback) is acceptable?

Curly, I overtalk if I am anxious.

So maybe mine would be, when somebody acts poorly, do you give them the benefit of the doubt and think theyare probably just having a bad day?

Do [you think] a person's personality is determined by the amount of slap they've put on their face? hmm

It's as relevant as any of the other questions.
It says a lot about how vain they are, their own insecurities, their perception about beauty etc.
I find it an interesting question.

Nursey My friend's dog always sticks its nose straight in my crotch and I'm not at all keen on that. It's quite a bit dog and I'm quite short, so there's no escaping it really. I'm afraid your boxer wouldn't be welcome on my knee.

MardyBra Exactly! Trick question. You pass!

Yes I suppose it is an interesting question Wicked. I've never been a great make-up wearer, but am starting to wear a bit more now I'm reaching my half century, so I don't frighten the horses as it were.

I recently had a foray into Boots to buy my first foundation for a couple of decades and I did feel that the heavily made-up assistant was probably judging me for looking old and haggard and having hairs sticking out of my chin. And maybe there was a bit of me that was judging her for looking artificial. But only a little bit.

She sat me in the stool and did a skin match. One of the shades she suggested was way too dark for me, and I blurted out: "Oh no, not that one. I don't want to look like an oompa loompa" before realising that was exactly the look she was going for.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I suppose I've always thought that heavy make-up wearers do so because they want to boost their own esteem, but there is a vanity issue too.

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necessary but unsightly
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no i patronise tea shops
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interesting questionnaire you've put together. thanks.

Do you eat at least 7 pieces of fruit/veg a day?

Do you like cats? The answer to this must be yes.

I 've got a long list.

Have you any clue about politics?

Do you join blindly EVERY facebook campaign?

Do you read the DM?

Do you pretend to like certain foods because you perceive them to be 'middle class food'?

Do you cross exam the children who come at your house on their veg knowledge (poor soul he didn't know what a courgette is)?

Do you envy every neighbour/friend who buys a new tv or car or a new jacket?

Do you go out to the shopping centres and supermakets looking at every pram to check if the poor soul is parented well?

Do you visit your friends and instead of chatting to them you count the books on display?

Do you throw litter in the street?

Do you pick up after your dog if you have one?

Do you tut at mothers with small children who are having a tantrum?

Do you think trying to raise a family on benefits pays 30k pa and entitles you to a free goat?

The make up question is horrid. I wear a lot of make up and think I am a nice person. I try to be kind to people and help someone if they have a problem. I am not vain/insecure nor do i judge others for their looks.

If you think it is a defining feature of whether a person is nice or not, then it says a lot more about you than them. I would hate someone to think that I am not a nice person because I wear a lot of slap!

I do this in real life, well kind of subtly, very effective. I have no twats as friends only good eggs:)

YY to pick up after your dog?!!

I agree FormerBabe.

I concentrate on areas of importance like kindness, tolerance and humour rather than makeup and feelings about animals. I think it is important to remember if a person reveals the self to be a prize arse once than they are indeed a prize arse. This is at odds with being tolerant but I don't mind a bit of contrariness.