Foreveronadiet- you arent a single parent though, are you? I recognise your user name and you have never been a single parent.
Im a single parent, I was married when i had my DD, my ex husband was a cheating, abusive arsehole. I found the strength to leave and thus was rewarded with stigma for being single, a lifetime of being skint and never being able to get out of that trap, loneliness and shouldering all the responsibility.
Nice, huh.
I work. I have always worked. I had a good career pre DD, but being on my own, i just cant manage it, so shoot me that im not superwoman. I dont have the support network and cant be a decent parent to DD, do everything i need to do in the house and hold down a big career job. Something had to give and since there werent really any other options, it was my job.
I now work in a shop. Its a nice shop, but its still a shop. I like it, it fits around DD and i can earn a pittance and try and still be a decent parent.
The logisitics when you are a lone parent are things that people cannot fathom if they havent experienced it. From comments on making a social life ' go out and join a club, or evening class', when you have no babysitter and cant afford one anyway, to times for childcare dropping off, picking up, trying to fit in clubs, homework etc etc. Unless you have done it, you have NO idea.
I work just shy of 23 hours a week. 25 hours a week is the point where my life unravels and i cant function.
theres the whole workfare is a pile of shit argument too, which has been gone into, and i couldnt agree more.
Pile of shit.
I cannot HATE the stigma more, it still makes me see red, and ive been on my own for years.