to think a 'hide poster' option would be helpful

[fedthefuckupnowwhat]

Particularly in 'support' sections of the site, such as Relationships and
Parenting.

I'm disheartened to see supportive and helpful threads (mine and others) highjacked by a few bad eggs who offer nothing but spiteful diggs. I've seen a lot of OPs abandon helpful threads because of one or two people who comment just to tear down an OP who is already on her knees.

Hide Poster option please MNHQ. This would enable you to block a certain poster's comments from your view, but other people can still see them.

also the thread you started in relationships (which this is about) (TAT btw ;) ) was fine - you just didn't like some peoples views

a few years why ?

well you know this comes up all the time..

Sorry that sounded like I was going to accuse you of summat MAJOR like.

Surely they'd just end up hiding everyone who disagrees with them?

Quite - and what's the point of posting then?

I've only ever had one experience of being very seriously affected to the point of tears by insensitive, hurtful responses to a very personal, emotive thread I started about an issue I was dealing with at the time. It made for some very difficult reading in places thank fuck I NCd for it

But there was just as much value, if not more in those very responses. The whole POINT of my thread (and any thread, surely?) was to garner reaction from a cross section so I could get a broader perspective on my issue and try and anticipate and therefore manage the variety of reactions that I might encounter IRL. Among the many considered, constructive comments both supportive and critical there were lots of people who had completely missed the point, were having a dig for the fun of it, projecting their own agendas and so forth. But that's exactly the same as RL too, and in actual fact helped me to navigate successfully through my very difficult personal problem because I had an insight into how some people might react in a worst-case scenario.

'You shouldn't have to put up with people'...erm...yes, yes you do, that's life

Did anyone else feel mrsjay's panic there for a second?

I think it's a little pointless to hide posters, it's like living in a make believe dolls house and fabricating your own reality - why would you even post at all if you want to only hear one thing? don't waste other peoples time writing advice if you tune out everything except the bits you want. Personal attacks etc though, yes - report poster. I agree there is a line slightly under personal attacks where it can come across as being particularly mean, but not be delete-worthy. However I think any foray into addressing this would be creating a nanny state mumsnet, surely the opposite of what an opinion/comment/discussion site's ethos

i know! Sorry, I don't know why I did it like that

slinks off

Exactly my point, Hairy

I've learnt a lot from some of the posters I've vehemently disagreed with in the past, and I've now changed my views on a lot of things.

Lord

There are bullies on mn in many guises, a lot that's not always obvious, particularly on the "helpful" sites. That worries me. At least with obvious people with alternative opinions, they are What they seem

BEAKER

you have been around for a few years on here, havent you?

I'd hide you all and RUN MN.

When I was on 'Moldies" it was a bit dull without all the idiots tbh. I missed them and their shoddy spelling and tolerance of shit partners.

FAR too harmonious.

Careful what you wish for.

I think its better to report, that way if the same few posters are being spitful on supportive threads mnhq can ban em so noone has to put up with their shite

That's true actually

Hide enough posters and you might create your own version of NetHuns

"without all the idiots tbh. I missed them and their shoddy spelling"

(and further up the thread)

Fraek

Op personally I thought a few of those posters didn't understand the dilemma and telling you to get a low paid job now in lieu of a proper career investment is the sort of advice people used to give their kids about doing a degree 30 yrs ago 'students are scrougers', 'get a proper job' etc. just ignore.

"When I was on 'Moldies" it was a bit dull without all the idiots tbh"

Still, you're back now.

[innocent face]

ah fraek™ is a trademark

There are one or two very nasty poster who I do think keep a spreadsheet and stalk and rake up something someone else might have posted fairly nonchalantly that nobody else had any issue with at all at the time and was either fun or an alternative point of view with which they disagreed. MNet is very slow to deal with such imo and it would be a better forum if such things were dealt with more quickly.

Bugger

Should have gone with #lightfuckinghearted.

That woud have been better Dammit.

Bullshit

There's probably only one or two people on here I would hide, & that's not because I disagree with everything they say, ( I don't ) it's because they have an aggressive, & downright rude, 'tone' - I find them irritatingly annoying rather then interesting & thought provoking. I love an interesting mix of people & opinions, I just don't like idiots.