WIBU re bus?

[prettypleasewithsugarontop]

Every day after school we have to get bus home. It is normally a busy bus but as we get on at start we always get a seat. There are not normally seating issues when the bus is running to time.My children are at an age where I have to pay for them both.

Today the bus is 15mins late at the first stop, so by the time we get midway home and to the stop at local secondary there is a large queue of pupils waiting to get on. There are approx 5 seats free with all standing room available. bus driver let's pupils on then proceeds to try to arrange everyone imho he had let too many people on at this stop. He comes up to where I am sitting with dd2 (dd1 is on seat infront of us with a pupil beside her) and asks me to put dd2 onto my lap. I say 'will I get a refund for her fare?' he says no. I refuse to have her on my lap on the principle that I paid for that seat.

WIBU?

I've never been on a bus with a seat belt I've always wondered why they didn't have them though

Fef - she was next to her other child.

You're obviously determined to be right, OP, no matter what anyone says.

I wasn't next to my other child bob she was on the seat in front of me with a school pupil sat beside her

. He comes up to where I am sitting with dd2 (dd1 is on seat infront of us with a pupil beside her)

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Yes dd2 is beside me dd1 is in seat in front of me. bus driver came to me and dd2

Nice people would've:

Put the dd next to you on your knee, prodded row in front dc to come sit next to you.

Not difficult, just nice. And normal. My mum would ring my ears if I'd refused like you did and I'm 36! What a lesson to teach your dc.

Yes sorry OP but I think you were being unreasonable (and a bit uncharitable). Other people on the bus had paid for seats as well, and if there was a way you could have accommodated them sitting down then you probably should have.

Op, I don't think you are in the wrong. The bus wouldn't have been able to take an extra passenger regardless of where your child was sitting. It clearly states on the side of the bus how many people can travel. It doesn't say 'this many people can travel but if a child is on a knee then fit an extra person on the bus'. The majority of school kids being picked up at the bus stop are perfectly capable of standing up for the journey home. The bus seats round here are quite small. I wouldn't like to try and fit myself, two dc and all the school bags on to a seat.

I thought you weren't allowed to stand on a coach. How many were standing? Doesn't sound very safe.

I would've been so embarrassed to have spoken to someone the way the OP spoke to that driver. So rude.

I wouldn't have moved my child either, we have seatbelts on local buses here as well.

I would not have unstrapped my 6 year old to sit on my knee as it wouldn't be as safe.

Would you ride a bus without a seatbelt then?

Can't remember last time I got on a bus with no seatbelt tbh.

I've never known a bus to have seatbelts, it's strange isn't it. But still, if you moved would you get on a bus then?

I guess If i had no choice as I don't drive.
But if I'm on bus with kids and there are seatbelts then I will be using them.

The bus dd's get to school is a coach, with seatbelts. I used to catch it with them, there is no way I could have got one of my dd's on my lap (they are 6 and 7) - there wouldn't have been enough room, and I am under 5 foot with shortarse children!

I'm nice and normal, I wouldn't have put a six year old on my lap and prodded my other dc, who was sitting quite happily next to her friend in front to move through an overcrowded bus so that she could also be very uncomfortable at the driver's request because he had made the error of letting too many people on.

Does everyone on this thread travel by bus? Are the seats elsewhere(I live in london) really so exceptionally spacious this wouldn't cause a problem? The seats are small enough on the buses I get on that I can clearly see the person next to me is made uncomfortable enough when I've just had a little one on my knee. I don't think anyone would even bother trying to sit next you me were I to try to wedge my long limbed 6 year old in there.

Yes YWBU. You don't pay for a seat, you pay for travel.

YABU sorry. I would always put the kids on my lap if it meant someone else could sit down, I have a neuro condition which makes standing up on a bus really hard and you can't tell these things by looking at someone, I don't want to make someone's life harder by being petty.

YABU and what an example to set for your DDs about being charitable. Unless you have a medical condition there's no reason your dd couldnt have sat on your knee, yes you might have been a little uncomfortable but it's not the end of the world. and you still would have been more comfortable than the people standing. Poor bus driver, hope he doesn't have to put up with this every day.

Just accept YABU and a bit of a mardy cow rather than trying to come up with more and more justifying excuses.

And await the day when karma bites you and leaves you at the bus stop on the pissing rain due to someone else being as selfish as you.

I travel by bus and am often in a similar situation to the OP. We get on near home, then a bit down the road, when the bus is full, people get on.

Someone gets on with her two young DC and a baby in a buggy. We always make sure the buggy space is kept free for her and my DC (age 7+8) put her DC on the inside of the single seats they are in, then sit next to them.

There are no seat belts on our buses. The buses with seat belts have to be used for the 'school transport' buses, paid for by county and part of the contract.

Yabu. I had my 11 year old on my knee the other day and I am 5"5. And she is not far behind me.

You gave your daughter a very powerful message there OP.