WIBU re bus?

[prettypleasewithsugarontop]

Every day after school we have to get bus home. It is normally a busy bus but as we get on at start we always get a seat. There are not normally seating issues when the bus is running to time.My children are at an age where I have to pay for them both.

Today the bus is 15mins late at the first stop, so by the time we get midway home and to the stop at local secondary there is a large queue of pupils waiting to get on. There are approx 5 seats free with all standing room available. bus driver let's pupils on then proceeds to try to arrange everyone imho he had let too many people on at this stop. He comes up to where I am sitting with dd2 (dd1 is on seat infront of us with a pupil beside her) and asks me to put dd2 onto my lap. I say 'will I get a refund for her fare?' he says no. I refuse to have her on my lap on the principle that I paid for that seat.

WIBU?

The bus was overloaded there would been no need for me to move dd2 onto my lap had the driver not let all of the pupils on.

I didn't think to put it I my op

I seem to have been unreasonable then! I am hopeful it won't arrise again though we've been getting bus for 10mths and this is first time.

Surely you could have sat both of your children on one seat then? An adult and 2 young children would fit on a bus seat and still allow someone else to sit

So the driver should have let a load of children wait on the side of the road for another bus because his was almost full? Would you have been happy if one of these children were your child?

YABU. Love the drip feeding, about her being heavy.

pretty I'm sure it's something like 12 people standing on a bus. Could be more.

You should be thankful you've had a seat everytime in 12 months :)

More reasons to never travel by bus.

My bus was late - there would have been another due in 10mins - the one the pupils would normally get.

She is heavy she is 6 and not a toddler. I forgot I had to give a life story when posting on AIBU

Weren't you embarassed by your poor behaviour?

I think it's nice to see a bus driver trying to make the best of a bad situation and trying to allow as many passengers to travel as possible.

It would have been all to easy to just drive past the stop.

There were a lot more than that Nursey the bus was very overloaded

Anyway OP hopefully next time you'll realise you pay for travel and not a seat, and maybe allow someone else to sit down. I'm struggling to see how a 6 year old can't sit on their mums knee

I can't see why a 6 year old can't sit on your knee.

Or like I said earlier but both children on one seat together.

And really unless you're going to drip feed and say you're not able bodied or your 6yr old is morbidly obese, I can't see how she was too heavy to sit on your lap for a while.

Having read all your posts YANBU. I'd not put a 6 year old on my lap. I'd have probably stood up and let someone else sit in my seat though if they'd needed it.

Seems like you were being deliberately awkward because you objected to sharing the bus with a bunch of school kids.
Let's hope your kids won't have to travel to school by bus when they get older.

Given my 9.5 year old can easily sit on my lap, I can't see the problem. As others have said, you pay for the travel not the seat so the comment to the bus driver was needlessly arsey. So the bus was very full for once - so what? Public transport is much more pleasant for everyone if all travellers are a bit accommodating to others, and getting young children to double up/sit on laps is common courtesy.

To be honest I think YANBU. Surely the bus has a capacity for X seated and X standing. With your DD on your lap, that would mean one more person could get onto the bus which would technically take it over capacity. The seats are first come first served, if you don't get one then you have the option to stand or get the next/less busy bus if you prefer not to. It's up to the drivers discretion as to whether they allow people standing on the bus at all as it can present obvious hazards due to sudden braking for example.

I am at the people who would have a 6yrs old on knee on packed bus - she wouldn't get a seat belt then.

re sitting both dds and myself on 2 seats we wouldn't all fit side by side so that wouldn't have solved the problem.

I am prepared to accept that iabu just hope I'm not in that situation again.

You don't get seat belts on buses.

If she were a toddler YABU

As she is 6 then YANBU. I couldn't wedge my 6 year old on my lap with someone sitting next to me in any way that would be remotely comfortable on a bus.

Presumably the you pay for them at that age and not as toddlers is for the very reason that toddlers would be expected to be placed on your knee were there a shortage of seats but six year olds wouldn't be.

2 children and an adult should easily fit on a bus seat!

And you don't get seat belts on a bus anyway

lady you do on ours it's a coach/ex coach

You hope you're not in that situation again?? It's a bus seat op - honestly, you get a seat every single day and you wouldnt give it up just once to enable someone else?

I give up. Selfishness defined.

The person next to you would also of been very uncomfortable.