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...to feel strongly that women should not wash their private parts with soap, nor use feminine freshness wipes?

364 replies

Needlesswidow · 21/03/2014 19:06

And the reason this is bothering me now is because I have had an argument with my (otherwise lovely) "waxing technician" because every time I go for a brazilian she insists on wiping me, inside my vagina after every spread of wax, with these packeted wipes.

How is it that we are in 2014 and the medical profession has not done a good enough job to make women aware that using products which remove the oils/mucous from places like the urethra/vagina/anus, causes problems with bacterial infection?

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Minnieisthedevilmouse · 21/03/2014 20:53

Oh good grief. Unsure where or how to start.

The therapist is potentially wiping you to ensure that you have no body lotion on as this can stop some brands sticking properly. It can also make certain brands go a bit "ball like" and be difficult to pull away in one swipe. Redoing a swipe can cause tears and bleeding.

Now, most therapists I know just remind you not to use perfume or body lotion before attending. If she's wiping you as intimately as you are suggesting I'm shocked. I can only think she's a bit 'by procedure' except that ain't bloody procedure!

I really hope this isn't too upsetting. I'm a bit concerned for you really as you trusted this 'professional'. Please don't return. It isn't what is supposed to occur.

Minnieisthedevilmouse · 21/03/2014 20:53

FYI I am trained myself.

lavenderhoney · 21/03/2014 20:54

This thread has made me laugh, thanks:)

My beautician gives me any wipes or cream for after a waxing. She doesn't get busy herself. And yes, you do get to take your pants off.

The wax isn't that hot! And they don't drip it on you, with a candle or anything. its all very quick and professional.

If you want your bum to look really clean, you can get your anus bleached. Its very popular in the USA, I believe expectations of American men scare me

pettybetty · 21/03/2014 20:54

[I still don't believe that I should wash any part down there with soap]

Op, do you really not think that at least the surface should get a once over? What do you do about your armpits? I would think that the nethers should at least get the same treatment as your armpits.

I cannot imagine using water alone, unless you follow up with a vigorous scrub with a flannel or sponge at least. I'm really curious as to whether what you do actually gets you clean, as I can't picture it - sorry for asking if too tmi.

squoosh · 21/03/2014 20:55

Thank you Johnny.

Did you have an 'ewwwwwww, that's not my fanny' moment (a bit like the beloved That's Not My.... children's book series) or did you think, 'hmmmmm, interesting, muskier with a sour top note'?

KissesBreakingWave · 21/03/2014 20:55

I'm just going to throw out there, for the general edification of all, that a long time ago I knew a lady who generalised from 'you shouldn't put soap up inside yourself' to 'you shouldn't use soap outside the holes you shouldn't be putting it in' and went from there to 'shouldn't be using soap anywhere'. Which, you know, you can do, but you have to put some work in to stay clean. She didn't.

She was known - hardly ever to her face - as 'swamp donkey'.

phantomnamechanger · 21/03/2014 20:56

did you read the thread Minnie?

OP has backtracked somewhat - she was using the wrong name for her bits and her vagina was not being disinfected against her will after all

fatlazymummy · 21/03/2014 20:58

Sorry OP, but you are being U. By all means use what you want on your own privates but allow other women to do the same on theirs,
I wash mine with soap or shower gel every single day,I also use a baby wipe every time I go to the toilet. I've never ever had thrush, so I'm going to carry on using them.

JRmumma · 21/03/2014 20:58

Thank you all for cheering me right up!

Half a bar of shield twice a week....brilliant!

phantomnamechanger · 21/03/2014 20:58

you want your bum to look really clean, you can get your anus bleached

^^nah, toothpaste is all you need for minty freshness and all day confidence, according to MN, which is the fount of all knowledge and never ever wrong......

TheNumberfaker · 21/03/2014 20:59

cassoulet

JohnnyBarthes · 21/03/2014 21:00

Yes squoosh, yes I did. This happened in about 1994 btw.

Minnieisthedevilmouse · 21/03/2014 21:00

Most of it. Got a bit bored tbh. Brain couldn't get past the initial post. Just. Wow. Poor therapist.

Yyy to handing wipes to client to do themselves. Oh god brain can't focus. Ugh....

susiedaisy · 21/03/2014 21:00

Original source tea tree and mint shower gel also stings my bits and makes my eyes water, as did the lynx shower gel I used once when I ran out of my own shower gelConfusedConfused

EBearhug · 21/03/2014 21:05

Original source tea tree and mint shower gel also stings my bits and makes my eyes water

Didn't let it near my bits. The way it made my head tingle, I knew that it was probably going to be worse than the spilt perfume incident. (Tip: perfume can also really sting down there, to the point that you do actually stop swearing about the cost of half a bottle of perfume literally going down the drain. You don't actually stop swearing, mind you.)

squoosh · 21/03/2014 21:06

Now I'm dying to use tea tree and mint shower gel on my fanny.

daisy0chain · 21/03/2014 21:07

Only on mumsnet Grin

happyyonisleepyyoni · 21/03/2014 21:07

WTAF is it not ok to wash your vulva with soap and water, but it is ok to pay a stranger to coat your pubic area with hot wax and then rip all your pubic hair off????

Speechless at the yoof of today

Mintyy · 21/03/2014 21:08

Amazingly, Body Shop tea tree and lemon body wash is brilliant if you have thrush. It sounds like it would be too harsh, but it really isn't. It is nothing like that Original source stuff which is, indeed, very stingish.

Pleasejustgo · 21/03/2014 21:08

I once tried to do a DIY wax and dropped some 'down there'. My good god it was worse than chilligate...

Oh and I thought I'd all let you know I'm still in the bath and have done nothing to my nethers bar float around in some sort of organic foaming oil. That's a fair balance I think?

MooMaid · 21/03/2014 21:10

Jeeez Original Source Mint down there makes my eyes water too! Love the smell but WOW that's fresh!

NeedsAsockamnesty · 21/03/2014 21:12

Having recently recovered from what will be burned into my memory as the coal tar soap incident

Combined with the memory of the "my vulva is on fire lets sit in a bowl of water and bicarbonate" that I believe was triggered by shower gel and scented always.

I would rather be buggered with a coconut than advocate the use of either products.

ComposHat · 21/03/2014 21:13

I am staggered at the lack of clarity about the names of her own body parts
Yes I did enjoy how the origial poster came on here with a hectoring superior tone (does being addressed as 'people' set anyone else's teeth on edge) and was revealed to not know her arse from her elbow (figuratively and quite possibly literally).

Op here's a tip. There are lots of people on mumsnet who are cleverer than both you and me. If you try and patronise and lecture people who are a lot cleverer than you, they will make mincemeat of you .

andsmile · 21/03/2014 21:13

Oh I have used the mint one, yes tis a bit tinglish, needs a bit if extra rinsing does that Grin

...i dont find one gets too dry either....ahem.

TheBody · 21/03/2014 21:14

I am drunk!!

but just saying are you in my bathroom?

if so I need more wine. thanks xx