to buy DP separate food?

[lola88]

because he eats so bloody much he's not leaving any for us?

It's cereal, biscuits, crisps and milk and it's driving me mad he seems to think all biscuits need to be eaten within 24 hours! I went to get DS some weetbix for breakfast and DP has eaten the last 4 not leaving DS one so then I decided to make DS porridge with honey and there's no honey, then I look in the fridge and there is not enough milk for porridge anyway. So Toast and nutella it was except there's so bloody nutella either!!! I only done a food shop on sunday. His excuse is there are other things we can eat but why should we not get some because he's so greedy!

AIBU to buy him his own things put his name on it and tell him when it's done he can't have ours? I'm sick of not being able to get a bloody custard cream when I want one.

Is he stoned? Sounds like the munchies to me?
14 pancakes?

Dh ears lots of cereal too, massive bowls of the stuff at night.
If I do the shopping I buy copious amounts of Aldi cheap museli or branflakes so he can fill his boots!

I must admit I did think munchies but some people are just greedy gits.

He needs to see a doctor if he's eating like this, but you can't make him do that any more than you can get him to eat more filling food.

You are not his mum.

Divide out the food and lock up yours.

But the type of food he's eating is munchie type food!
Is he a stoner op?

Does sound like stoner eating.

Or bored eating.
Or emotional eating.

All I think needs doing is keeping less in the house at any given point, squirrelling away an amount of it, and trying to get him to see the cost.

I don't think it's necessarily fair to guilt trip him if he has a problem.

Bulk buy cheap stuff for him - sounds like he just wantsto eat and isn't particularly bothered what it is.

Buy decent treats for you and ds and cheap bulk for him.

This reminded me of the 18 year old son of an ex colleague, who took a full pre-cooked chicken out of the fridge as his packed lunch. It was earmarked for an evening meal for the whole family, she wasn't happy

Does he have worms?

Regarding the pancakes though... why doesn't HE just cook some more if he wants more? They're cheap enough.

Lola, if he is doing heavy work, and he is snacking on all that crap you buy (sorry, from what you list you buy crap unhealthy fatty and carbfilled shite that does not make you feel full) you need to buy more proper food that fills you up.
Cereals for breakfast just wont do it. Youghurts, desserts, crisps and biscuits just wont do the job. You need protein rich food, like eggs, meat, etc. If he eats good and filling dinners and breakfasts he wont need to shovel down all the snacks. Bananas, fruit. Whole meal bread.

my dh exactly the same who eats 6 Weetabix at a time? ffs

I think some of it is down to sheer laziness. My husband is like that. He's not a greedy man but he will eat what's convenient, ie. can just be grabbed and eaten whether it's made by me or sold at a shop - he just wants to be able to eat it and go. He doesn't cook, ever, but doesn't grizzle if I don't either.

Greediness I cannot abide.

Humous and wholemeal pitta breads toasted are really filling. I don't make humous myself but I know it's quite cheap to do that.

Is he insisting you buy those types of foods?

I think it is boredom and laziness he's bored so he will wander in the the kitchen and comes out with random stuff he mindlessly eats.

He's not a stoner either

If he is bored, perhaps he could go out and buy some more crap food instead of eating yours and DS share?

the man needs a hobby

The man may also need more protein, to fill him up properly. Lentil, beans, eggs are all cheap sources of protein. Maybe start adding to existing meals. Also slow release carbs, such as porridge rather than cereal.

But he seems to have similar attitude to food as a young (greedy) boy. Were there any issues with food when he was growing up? Were treats limited or withheld?
It sounds very schoolboy-ish to be bugging you for your pancakes. After eating 14 of his own!!

He lacks consideration for you and DS. I can't imagine the dads I know leaving their child and wife without because he won't restrain himself.

It is not a case of filling himself up, junk food is rarely filling. Lola has said he eats out of boredom, and needs a hobby

He needs to find something better to do and stop making Lola's life difficult

With things like cereals, nutella ect I buy a new box as soon as I open one to avoid these arguments. Milk we buy the kids blue and us green. He knows better than toeat the bananas as our boys would riot.

he goes into the kitchen and mindlessly eats stuff

so, what about having cooked chicken legs, ham. cheese, yoghurts (full-fat), nuts (snack pots made up of different flavours of nuts), humous, avocado, hard boiled eggs etc in the fridge for when ge wants to snack?

he's going to do snacking anyway no matter what you do, but he's eating better stuff, he might not eat so mich and it'll be better for him

crikey i think my husband has moved to your house! except he is still fecking here eating everything)

seriously i DO buy my husband his own food and he still steals the kids and BLAMES the kids too (who ate that? it wasn't me it must have been ...dd1 shouts for her to come downstairs before i point out a, she has been away for two days and b, the wrappers were on his flippin sofa) i used to have so much food before i got married now he goes on diets makes me buy loads of diet food then eats the kids food

im thinking maybe a staple gun? would duck tape leave a mark? hmm

I don't know what you should do.

You are not responsible for trying to fill him up, he is responsible for what he eats & what fills him up. If you're the one that does the shopping then it's his responsibility to ask that certain foods and meals are put on the shopping list. It is his responsibily to make sure that the cost is covered at no detriment to the rest of you. It's his responsibility to take into account the extra cooking and shopping his eating requires and to take up his share.

As a parent it is his first responsibily to make sure his children are fed, and then you. It doesn't take much empathy and intelligence to know that if you take the last cereal / bread / milk then it needs replacing. It needs replacing before your child needs the cerel.