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To expect guests to use the downstairs GUEST toilet

124 replies

bubbawubba · 19/03/2014 19:06

And not the upstairs one? It really narks me. I have a 3 yo ds and whenever we have friends over, invariably, the upstairs toilet gets used by someone when there is a perfectly functioning one downstairs. I just don't understand it. Even when I've requested that people use the downstairs one the upstairs one gets used. The upstairs bathroom is carpeted because we haven't got round to tiling it yet (lack of funds) and I'm sick of cleaning piss off the carpet when someone can't get their child to aim properly. Angry

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Sparklingbrook · 19/03/2014 19:09

If the DC are playing upstairs they would use the nearest loo wouldn't they?

Famzilla · 19/03/2014 19:12

Is the downstairs one small?

As an adult I hate using downstairs loos, I have IBS and am too worried that people can hear me er, break wind.

phonebox · 19/03/2014 19:12

Put an outside lock on it and lock it when people are visiting, if you're that bothered about it.

Janethegirl · 19/03/2014 19:16

Suggest putting a sign on the door saying loo not working, please use the downstairs loo.

gordyslovesheep · 19/03/2014 19:19

put a toilet mat round the toilet ...

SuburbanRhonda · 19/03/2014 19:20

YABU.

You actually call it the "guest" toilet? It's the downstairs toilet, surely?

Count yourself lucky you have two toilets Hmm

Yika · 19/03/2014 19:20

YABU. Any loo is fair game if you need to go, and you should make your guests feel comfortable, not like half the facilities are off limits.

HellomynameisIcklePickle · 19/03/2014 19:21

Yanbu

Sparklingbrook · 19/03/2014 19:23

I am not getting the angst at all. Confused

soverylucky · 19/03/2014 19:27

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Burren · 19/03/2014 19:27

I gather from Mn that the rooted preference for using the upstairs loo is (except for cases such as Famzilla's) down to nosy people wanting to poke around your upstairs. Especially if they're gone a suspiciously long time and come down asking questions about your birth control or the wallpaper on your feature wall.

NormHonal · 19/03/2014 19:29

YANBU for adults, YABU for children if playing upstairs.

We have a grown-up family member who invariably, usually not long after arriving at our house, takes himself upstairs to use our family bathroom...and stays in there a loooong time. He is relatively young and has no medical problems. But the DCs complain it still smells at bath time. This is not reasonable behaviour. He lives nearby and should go before leaving home!

Our upstairs bathroom also has a difficult-to-keep-clean floor and I hate people trudging around it with shoes on.

We have found that installing a near-impossible-to-open stair gate helps us to control this issue somewhat. Grin

Overnight guests are free to use whichever toilet they wish.

BlueJean · 19/03/2014 19:33

I hate using a downstairs loo in friends houses.I just dont feel right sitting there while within inches there are adults having conversations and children playing.

bubbawubba · 19/03/2014 19:34

Kids generally don't play upstairs, the majority of ds's toys are downstairs. It just winds me up a bit, mainly because the upstairs loo is carpeted and the downstairs one isn't.

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hugoagogo · 19/03/2014 19:37

I would always go upstairs if I could because of noises, I vividly remember hearing people use my mil's downstairs loo and also the one at my dad's house.

Saying that, I would never pee on your floor or nosey round your house maybe a quick peek in the medicine cabinet

WorraLiberty · 19/03/2014 19:37

Lol @ 'guest toilet'

I'm thinking Mrs Bouquet here Grin

bellablot · 19/03/2014 19:40

Going upstairs specifically to use the toilet when there is one downstairs is rude IMO, obviously kids don't know any different so if they are upstairs and need to go, you can't hold that against them. But for adults to do this, is completely out of order.

SaucyJack · 19/03/2014 19:41

Another one here who isn't comfortable using the downstairs loo in other people's houses due to the acoustics.

ItsSpringBaby · 19/03/2014 19:45

I think it's slightly unreasonable and a bit uptight.

Sparklingbrook · 19/03/2014 19:46

It doesn't make sense to go upstairs if they are downstairs playing. Confused

Multiple loos are luxury for many though. Grin

tunnocksteacake · 19/03/2014 19:46

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 19/03/2014 19:47

Oh good Lord, how on earth can you have rules about which toilet a person uses?Confused

Sparklingbrook · 19/03/2014 19:48

Do you remember Denise Welch wouldn't let Tim Healey poo in the downstairs loo? Grin

RabbitPies · 19/03/2014 19:49

I wouldn't allow guests to use my en-suite. Is that really so odd?

Bowlersarm · 19/03/2014 19:50

I would use the one furthest away from everyone else if I could, especially if it's a modern house with thin walls. Nothing worse than hearing people peeing or farting when there's a lull in the conversation or lack or noise in the rest of the house.