To expect guests to use the downstairs GUEST toilet

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And not the upstairs one? It really narks me. I have a 3 yo ds and whenever we have friends over, invariably, the upstairs toilet gets used by someone when there is a perfectly functioning one downstairs. I just don't understand it. Even when I've requested that people use the downstairs one the upstairs one gets used. The upstairs bathroom is carpeted because we haven't got round to tiling it yet (lack of funds) and I'm sick of cleaning piss off the carpet when someone can't get their child to aim properly.

Well as I said at the beginning, it didn't occur to me before this that a host might mind. They've never given us any indication that they do. I would certainly not "insist" if they asked us not to.

Maybe because I've never owned two toilets I've never considered an upstairs toilet to be a private or personal space. Now I know some people get uptight about it I'll be more careful.

Well tbh I wouldn't care either way, would just wonder why someone feels the need to go upstairs if it's not necessary.

I prefer people to use the downstairs loo just because upstairs is usually a mess. Last person to visit snuck upstairs for a crafty poo but didn't mention they were going to use the loo upstairs. If they had I would have mentioned it was broken so they were v v when they had to come downstairs and tell me they couldn't flush it

I am shamelessly marking my place for what I think might feature, in years to come, on one of those "do you remember downstairslooGate?"

I actually thought this thread was a windup, now I am a bit on seemingly missing out on people rummaging through my drawers whilst pooing and pissing all over my shagpile.

I've led a sheltered life.

Thinking about it, friends of ours have a downstairs loo, but I always go upstairs because yes, it's the cupboard under the stairs, and if anyone is in the kitchen or the living room they can hear me as I aim my widdle carefully all over the bathmat.

I'm moving to a house with two loos next month. I'll definitely want adult guests to use the downstairs loo if possible.

I noticed when we viewed the house that the upstairs one is carpeted and large enough to put my laundry airers in without it feeling cramped. In the winter I'm not sure I want guests gawping at laundry in winter. It'll be a year or two before I can afford to put down lino or buy and run a tumble dryer.

Kids are a bit different, cos if they gotta go, they gotta go but parents WILL be responsible for cleaning any spills on the floor!

Really looking forward to having a garden with a loo by the back door - so nice for summer, and guests. It's a key reason we chose the house, so I'll be miffed if my wishes aren't respected.

WHY are people so damn nosey? I've gone right off new acquaintances having seen them poke into other people's bedrooms etc when visiting. It's just so rude! I agree about boundaries!

YANBU OP.

The downstairs loo is for visitors. No one needs to traipse upstairs and poke around.

The upstairs toilet is for me (and DS if he is lucky). I don't want to have to clean it after every visitor.

visitors can use the loo in the Utility. FIL pisses everywhere - but as it is DH's loo he can clean up.

Also we have a 'no shoes upstairs' policy - so I would get v stabby watching visitors trampling up the stairs on my naice cream carpet in their shoes.

I think letting a child choose which toilet to use in someone else's house is rude and unnecessary. Choosing your toilet shouldn't be turned into an exciting game. Children should be taught that in someone else's house you ask where the toilet is and use that one, not play games with them.

I'm quite impressed by all these 3 year olds who just use somebody else's toilet when they are in a strange bathroom. Left to his own devices DS would start running a bath…

No shoes or dogs upstairs here too!

I can't afford to be replacing the stair carpet to often.

Having read this thread I'll be putting a stair gate on the bottom step when we move.

A two year old should be using the downstairs loo with Mum, as kids need to learn manners and boundaries. I was thinking of tweens who may upstairs in a child's bedroom for a time, (esp as some of DS's friends have SN's.). A personal bug bear of mine is people who let their brats jump all over other people's furniture and sofa's, especially in outdoor shoes!

I guess Most family friends we met when the kids were babies so they'd automatically offer the upstairs bathroom for nappy changing. So we'd naturally go to the bathroom we were previously shown the next time.

I certainly don't go rummaging in drawers

YABU and 'guest' toilet just sounds so ridiculous.

However, I just knew that someone would come on here and say 'just count yourself lucky that you have two toilets' and I wasn't disappointed!

And not guilty on the shoes front, we take shoes off when we go in someone else's house. Sofa jumping is up to house rules, we allow it within reason in our house but assume not allowed unless told otherwise.
We're really not awful guests, honest!

I usually go upstairs because often people have no bin in their downstairs loo, maybe due to lack of space. I have endo and truly apocalyptic periods and really really need a bin and a proper basin in the room. I also avoid loos that are separate from the bathroom and have no basin for this reason, otherwise I end up unlocking the door crossing the landing with my hands looking like something from a horror film.

I have the same problem! I honestly don't get it

I feel a bit like going upstairs at someone else's house is a breach of their privacy. I am not particular about this in my house but I do have one very good friend whose bedroom I have never seen - from this I've inferred that some people view upstairs as off limits.

I think it's your house, your rules, for adults or children. Why should you have to deal with piss on carpets? It's not up to the guests to choose which rooms they're allowed in - they wouldn't go and piss in your bedroom just because they preferred it, even if it were more remote and they'd be less likely to be overheard.

YANBU

We only have one upstairs toilet. If anyone is desperate, they go in the garden.

I don't mind using a downstairs loo if its big enough...far too many times I've politely used the downstairs loo only to be squashed in with a family's worth of out door coats (usually inches from my nose once the door is shut and I am in situ), the dyson, a potty, no soap and a skanky old hand towel that no ones remembered to change because they are busy using the upstairs loo!

For the reasons above I try and go upstairs!

Crikey, I hope guests bring their own loo roll! Though why they can't hold it in till they get home is another matter. :)

Personally, I think having a wee is a fabulous opportunity to have a nosey around ;) I would feel very hampered if I was made to use the bog under the stairs... I'd have to keep popping out to get things from my bag otherwise so I could satisfy my curiosity!!!

I will hasten to add our downstairs loo has loo roll, a spare loo roll, a toilet brush, a hand towel and soap!!

no bin though, I feel bad now. Runs off to get a tesco carrier and stick it on the door

Agree that I don't know how some people manage without bins in their toilets, particularly any house with menstruating women, but I guess that's why our sewage system still gets clogged by ignorant people flushing sanitory stuff down the loo, they can't be bothered to provide a bin.

Blimey ! A toilet is a toilet for chrissakes ! You need the toilet, you use the toilet. WTAF.....

Having a nosey around ? Fair game ! People are usually only interested in the bathroom cabinet anyway. Never mind that, go find the porno stash and the sex toys, NOW COME ON !

This thread is going to go, 'Penis Beaker' at any moment.