To expect guests to use the downstairs GUEST toilet

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And not the upstairs one? It really narks me. I have a 3 yo ds and whenever we have friends over, invariably, the upstairs toilet gets used by someone when there is a perfectly functioning one downstairs. I just don't understand it. Even when I've requested that people use the downstairs one the upstairs one gets used. The upstairs bathroom is carpeted because we haven't got round to tiling it yet (lack of funds) and I'm sick of cleaning piss off the carpet when someone can't get their child to aim properly.

Not that I've ever had to tell someone that they can't use it. But I wouldn't like them to do so.

I have had problems with urgency since I had ds. That means I will inevitably have to poo half way through my polite visit.

I go upstairs so you don't have to hear.

yanbu wrt adults, just lock it from the outside.
Yabu wrt children, better they use any toilet than wet/poo themselves and you have to clean it up!

Norm can you be 100% sure he doesn't have IBS or something?

I'm just jealous of those of you who have a 2nd toilet!

I have a second toilet downstairs. Guests normally do use it due to convenience, but it isn't specifically designated as the "Guest Toilet". That seems pedantic to me.

Each to their own though. I love a good toilet thread.

I'm with Denise, no pooling in the downstairs loo allowed.

Why not Dolly?

No Poos In The Downstairs Toilet was my rule in the old house for DH and I. Didn't have the nerve to tell guests as that would be rude.
Wish I had when a guest had explosive diarrhoea just as I served breakfast for everyone. No one wanted my breakfast burritos after that. Blech.

It's not just noisiness, is it? If you do a poo in a downstairs loo, the chances are the smell will waft out in the hall. I think it's really odd to invite people round and then get narked when they use the loo. It's not like they are going upstairs and tucking themselves into your bed for a nap.

Having rules about which loo guests use sounds a bit bonkers, but not wanting children to pee on your carpet is reasonable.

And if you have asked people to use the downstairs loo, and they ignore you, and go upstairs, that's rude (unless there's already someone in the downstairs loo, and they can't wait)..

I think the problem is guests don't realise that you have a dedicated guest toilet, or quite how precious you are about the upstairs toilet.

On a separate note you should just get some lino laid upstairs, it won't cost much and is far more hygienic. Save up for tiling later if you wish.

I've got six bogs. I don't expect people to use the one's in the en-suites unless they are sleeping in there as a guest, ie, DS's girlfriend . Apart from that people can go where they like and I would assume anyone would always use the nearest. We have a kitchen/family room on the ground floor and a reception room on the 1st floor. There are loos on both and it depends where people happen to be. I wouldn't expect people to go beyond the first floor unless specifically invited but that doesn't extend to the children's friends (19 and 15) and they usually are invited anyway.

Our main loos have piles of clean large flannels so it's one hand dry and they go in a basket - I don't like sharing hand towels in the bog with any one other than family.

I have never had someone go upstairs and not use my downstairs loo, how weird.

Kids may go upstairs if they are playing upstairs though.

I don't like it when people just take themselves off upstairs. We are due a stairgate so hopefully that will stop them. I know full well it's for a nosey.

Having said that, I hate using our downstairs loo

Yanbu. We have a downstairs toilet that guests can use. But no one is allowed upstairs. There's a blanket ban on guests going upstairs unless they are staying overnight.

Why frying? What have you got hidden up there?

I don 't mind if, when we have a party, guests take themselves upstairs because there's a queue for the downstairs one. Knowing that this might happen, I ensure that everything is 'right' upstairs. For instance, bedroom doors are closed except for the one where coats have been taken.

As for guests leaving a toilet in a smelly condition, why not check occasionally with an air freshener at the ready? I cleaned our toilets yesterday before the cleaner arrived.

sparkling ha ha nothing! Just (sorry to bring the thread down) i was sexually abused when a child by someone just going upstairs to use the toilet. Well, that's what he said. So the whole family have that rule.

I gather from Mn that the rooted preference for using the upstairs loo is (except for cases such as Famzilla's) down to nosy people wanting to poke around your upstairs. Especially if they're gone a suspiciously long time and come down asking questions about your birth control or the wallpaper on your feature wall
This made me laugh, just picturing the scene

Wow, people are free to go to whichever toilet they like in my house. Heck, one of my friends doesn't even bother closing the door sometimes, which can be off putting when we're about to serve up the Hors d'ouvre... ;)

Are there really that many people that are so nosy they deliberately go upstairs to the toilet so they can look?
I've no interest in other people's upstairs,why would I?
You must all have really, really interesting houses.

Oh sorry frying That is a very valid reason. Apologies.

Do you have one of those doll toilet roll holders?

It's ok sparkling you had no way of knowing!

it helps because downstairs is normally a damn sight tidier than upstairs too! Matching towels in the downstairs toilet :)