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AIBU to think drum kits should be banned in flats?

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nocutsnobuttsnococonuts · 17/03/2014 22:24

as title really... our neighbors likes to practice around 8pm! just glad dd's are pretty heavy sleepers!

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BlackDaisies · 17/03/2014 22:32

How long does it go on for? That would drive me crazy. Yanbu!

drnoitall · 17/03/2014 22:40

Oh fgs I thought they were banned years ago.

gertiegusset · 17/03/2014 22:41

YANBU.
Is killing them all an option?

OlympiaFox · 17/03/2014 22:44

What a nightmare, they should be banned from anywhere that isn't properly soundproofed!!!

BlackeyedSusan · 18/03/2014 01:01

ex suggested that ds could learn the drums.... we live in a flat. I was really cross as if ds decides he wants to learn the drums ex has just landed me the job of strict parent.

Zingy123 · 18/03/2014 06:33

We live in 1930's terrace. My next door neighbour but one has drums that we can hear over our telly up loud.

FrancesNiadova · 18/03/2014 07:22

My youngest DC plays the drums & has to practise at home. We bought an electric drum kit, with a silent option Grin

bluebeanie · 18/03/2014 10:47

I'm livid for you. I live in a terraced house. Having grown up in a detached, I miss it.

Latara · 18/03/2014 11:03

Awful. My mum used to have a neighbour who played electric base guitar; not only was it as loud as if he'd been playing at a gig but it was also tuneless!

hunreeeal · 18/03/2014 11:06

YANBU. I was going to suggest electric with a silent option / headphones too!

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jacks365 · 18/03/2014 11:25

Suggest they invest in silencer pads. They don't totally cut the sound but they do reduce it drastically and soften it. You have my sympathy as my dd plays drums no neighbours

fuxache · 18/03/2014 11:36

I spotted a guy many years ago in London in a black cab, playing drums in the back. It was his cab, not sure if it was a working cab still or not.

He would park up in an industrial area near a train line away from houses and bang away to his hearts content!

I used to see him during early morning walks pre 7am!

How anyone could cope with that noise so early I have no idea! But he had the perfect set up!

HippyPottyMouth · 18/03/2014 13:08

Recommend these - they've quietened my DB no end!

themadcaplass · 19/03/2014 22:40

YABVU. Have you tried negotiating with your neighbours, and asking them to practice when DD isn't asleep?

supermariosmum · 19/03/2014 22:57

I am in a terraced house with neighbours on both sides that have and play drums regularly. Might show them the drum pad things!!

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 19/03/2014 23:02

If it's a block of flats, there should be a head lease which will have some reference to noise in it. Can you take that up with the managing company?

BackOnlyBriefly · 19/03/2014 23:24

I understand how you feel really, but 8pm is not an unreasonable time.

Flats should be banned. There's no way to live in them without being disturbed by neighbours and disturbing them with your own activities. As it is you pretty much just have to learn to live with it.

Tell yourself that at least it's the sound of someone having fun. Less depressing than listening to people scream at each other.

NoodleOodle · 19/03/2014 23:42

To people without young children, 8pm isn't late though - it's just time to be home from work, had your inner, then sit down for your music practise. That's not to say you shouldn't try communicating with them or offer to but them some noise reduction product to make your lives more comfortable.

NoodleOodle · 19/03/2014 23:43

*buy them

HillyHolbrook · 20/03/2014 18:42

YANBU. DP is a drummer and his kit didn't even come in our flat as he wouldn't have used it to avoid upsetting neighbours.

Even in our terraced house he has a 'studio' in the shed with soundproofing so he can play as loud and as long as he likes. He's a heavy metal drummer so isn't always nice to listen to!

LetZygonsbeZygons · 20/03/2014 18:53

AFAIK 'live' music is illegal in flats. at least that's what we had when we lived in a flat and the guy upstairs would have his band round for practices.

I and a load of other neighbours tried to have a kind word to no avail so we took it further, they were warned, didn't listen and then had their things taken away by the noise police.

as for 8pm.....well, word fail me. that's too late.

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nocutsnobuttsnococonuts · 20/03/2014 19:15

sorry haven't replied sooner! he normally plays for between 10 mins to hour on and off, its not every night about 2 to 3 times a week. just unlucky seems to coincide with sleepless or difficult to settle dd2 evenings!

thanks for everyone's opinions, I was beginning to wonder if I was right in my thinking as partner sees no issue with it as our dd's are pretty noisy!!

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chrome100 · 20/03/2014 20:47

8pm is NOT late! As a poster above said, if you work it's often the first opportunity you have for "leisure time". I agree drums are antisocial but the time certainly isn't. What do you all do, creep around whispering until bedtime?

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