to be annoyed that dp wants a takeaway?

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so im in the middle of cooking tea (honey glazed gammon) and dp has just woke up, come in the kitchen and said he wants a takeaway. I told him ive got gammon on and he said I can have that, him and ds1 will have a takeaway - so I threw a strop! AIBU to be utterly pissed off with him?!

I'm going to go against the grain re: the gammon and say if you just started cooking dinner while I was asleep without checking if I wanted it first I wouldn't be that happy about it.

I also wouldn't want to eat straight after waking up.

canny - I always start cooking tea when hes asleep, he generally wakes up starving and eats everything in the cupboards/fridge if tea isnt ready!

last night has made me realise though that im not happy with the way things are and im not prepared to carry on being his skivvy. I think maybe he has realised today as well (I hope). hes done so much cleaning its unreal - and he genuinely seems really happy about doing it!

If that's the way it is in your house then fair enough.

I just know in our house we have a quick discussion first about what we want to eat before either of us starts cooking (we do meal plan, but the days each thing are eaten on aren't set in stone).

canny - im hoping things are going to change for the better so I think it would also be a good thing for us to discuss tea before I start cooking

seriously, canny? Why on earth wouldn't you be bloody delighted to awake refreshed from your nap with nothing to do only eat one of your favourite meals which is being handed to you.

That's royal service in most homes and I fail to see how on earth anyone wouldn't be happy about it, much less roaring and stropping over takeaways.

thanks sinistersal - but I do think it will be better for all of us if we discuss tea before I make it, will certainly make my life easier anyway than having to second guess everyone!

If he won't whinge at you for waking him while he's asleep.

I'm can't comment on the roaring and stropping, since I didn't say that was reasonable.

What I did say was that I prefer to have some choice about what and when I eat.

Then make it yourself Canny, and don't ruin the family budget while doing so! Otherwise it's acting a bit spoilt.

Why on earth are you having a go at me, sinistersal? You do realise I'm not the OP's husband, don't you?

I'm not at all.

didn't mean it to come across that way - just opposite viewpoints I guess. I'd be grateful if my spouse let me nap and then handed my favourite dinner to me on a plate - so would my DH, luckily enough

its fine, he comes home from work, we have a brew and a chat so a quick conversation about tea shouldnt be too hard. I meal plan when shopping for the week but it generally doesnt make much difference what day things are cooked (unless something needs eating up!) so I guess it is a fair comment that some people like to be consulted first rather than just handed a meal (although im sure plenty would be grateful for anything they get)

and a lot of time OH does get a choice, just sometimes I dont think he needs consulting if im cooking something I know he likes

Wow how threads change...never thought my DH was abusive because whined at wanting chinese ...