Cowbag

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First of all, I only have myself to blame because I snooped through Fiance's emails (in my defence i was trying to access my hotmail and he'd left his open). MCame across an email between him and his Mum. My parents have invited his parents (only met a few times) and grandparents to an informal engagement tea at their house which is happening in a few weeks. No fuss, but Mum sent little notes to them all inviting them to join. I noticed in an email exchange his Mum wrote - "see you at the staging!". This is a p1sstake right? I am feeling very prickly. Am i being unreasonable??

Thanks everyone. Pah - Fishfinger that is so true!

It was a private email between a mother and son. It wasn't obviously rude and maybe you are taking the meaning out of context.
If your MIL to be is usually ok, I wouldn't take it to heart or feel offended / hurt. Maybe it's a little nerve wracking or ark ward and she is being lighthearted?

Good luck with the tea.

I think you are fretting about nothing and I agree with Fishfinger - it could be an entirely innocent family slang for being on best behaviour and giving the right impression.

Or your Mum has a small tendency to come over a bit Hyacinth Bucket on these occasions . I mean that nicely - my MIL and my parents don't entertain much anymore and so are totally out of practice. When they it's a huge stress, all the best china out and furniture rearranged so everyone has a seat at a drinks party etc.

If you are the kind of family where there are guests for dinner every other week and everyone gets rat arsed at a scrubbed kitchen table it can all just feel a bit formal. It doesn't mean that she is being mean, it just might mean that she knows she needs to not get too giggly on the sherry!

Take it as a lesson - don't snoop.

Sorry op but I think you're over reacting. It may not have been meant nastily at all and even if it was it wasn't meant for you to see. She can still be a great mil and she can still like you even if she thinks you're being a bit "showy", she doesn't have to agree with everything you do. It's not like she called you a cowbag in the email is it? You shouldn't have been snooping. If your relationship with MIL to be is generally good then just forget about it, don't let something so trivial spoil it.

It was a private email. How would you feel if somebody took you to task for something you wrote in a private email to somebody else? Back off, and don't snoop again.

It was a private email. How would you feel if somebody took you to task for something you wrote in a private email to somebody else? Back off, and don't snoop again.
I agree with this I also don't like your use of sexist language.

Sexist language??

i don’t know what a cowbag is. I’ve been told it’s to describe someone being a cow, some of my friends changed my nickname on this group chat to cowbag. I have no idea what it means. I feel like it’s an insult to anyone.

10 years on, the OP probably doesnt care any more