WIBU to say something to DS1 teacher about this?

[NewLisaLife]

Or should I keep my beak out?

DS1(7) told me at tea time tonight that one of his friends - lets called him T, had only a sandwich and a chocolate bar (chocolate biscuit) for his packed lunch. T has a brother, who also had the same for his lunch.

DS1 gave him his crisps and his chocolate biscuit out of his lunch so T wouldn't go hungry, his other friend also gave Ts brother his crisps and a biscuit from his lunch so he wouldn't go hungry.

I know the boys mother - not well but well enough to stop and chat to in the playground or if out in town I'll say 'hello, how are you etc etc?' So don't want approach mother iykwim?

WIBU to mention this to DS teacher?
DS thought id be mad that he gave away some of his lunch but I'm actually quite proud that he and his friend gave them some more food so that they wouldn't go hungry.

Keyboard warriors are out in force today I see.

Op has said, thanks to this thread, she realises she was being U.

Resolved. Nothing more to see here.

School binning home made flapjack part of a packed lunch!!! Outrageous, and just because it happened to contain a few chocolate drops.

Fideline, I would have been furious. You took time to prepare that, and as an energy giver in the middle of the day there is nothing wrong with it. I would have loved it.

All this lunchbox snooping and policing has gone way too far. I blame Jamie Oliver myself.

I am just sooo glad now that my children are of secondary school age. There are some rules, that is true, but it is so much less "in your face".

Just so bizarre to be making fascist examinations of packed lunches, while the school dinners were laden with sugar, topsey. It does still make me remembering it.

It is double standards. The world has gone mad.

This is very strange. In Ireland most schools do not allow any junk food.

So your lunch ,OP , surprises me more. Crisps and a chocolate bar in a lunch box?

Surely that's enough treats for a whole week!!

My kids get two portions of fruit,a sandwich or wrap and a bottle of water.

That's normal.

I've only had a sandwhich for lunch. I'm stuffed! I'm guessing a 7 year do us smaller than me...

DS1 (8) takes a tiny packed lunch to school with him - sandwich made from 1 round of bread, usually hummus/ham/cheese in it, along with a couple of olives. Chunk of cucumber, couple of pringles/tortilla chips/twiglets and occasionally a biscuit (think penguin, twix single, flapjack, etc). Most of the time half the sandwich and the chocolate bar will come back. If somebody looked in his lunch box they would think it awful that he was given so little - but I got so fed up of throwing stuff away that I just put in the normal amount he was eating and then a bit more (eg biscuit is a wrapped one so it can go back until eaten rather than have to keep throwing something away).

DS2 on teh other hand is 5 and eats loads more - sandwich made of 2 slices of bread, with ham or cheese, olives and cucumber in, bag of cucumber, red pepper, grapes, apple, mushroom etc - whatever's around, he likes the variety, a few twiglets, a biscuit and a pack of Boots vitamin drop gummy bears. His lunch bag comes back empty - I'm now sending in more. He's also tiny for his age and more of a book worm than a sports fan, whereas ds1 is fairly average size and races around lots. Both are skinny things. Because ds2 is so tiny (less than 1st percentile) he's been seen by the doctor about his size and subsequently by the dietician. She reckons that if a child is always eating all their lunch it's a good idea to make sure there is a bit extra in it so you know that they are eating what they need (although obviously need to check that there isn't some dodgy school policy about eating everything sent in as that makes a mockery of eating the right amount for your needs). She's also said to make sure it does include plenty of things with good fats and protein in as they're needed by young kids to develop properly - obviously in my case the ds are about right but bordering on the skinny side so this is right for my dc, different balance of foods needed if dealing with overweight issues.

Just shows how different kids have different requirements and it is difficult to judge purely on what you see in the lunch box without knowing the full story.

But it was very sweet of your ds to share his lunch - maybe he could encourage his friend to talk to the teacher if he doesn't have enough food again so that the teacher could talk to the mum to say that the friend is getting hungry in the afternoon?

Gosh OP you'd best report me too! My DD only had a sandwich (ham salad) and a packet of mini cheddars once...she wouldn't take an apple and I dind't have any cakes in! Sorry...please tell the authorities!

OP did you realise that the major content of all of your son's packed lunch, apart from the ham sandwich and tomatoes, is refined sugar (in the yogurt, choc bar and mini roll) and fat (in the choc bar, mini roll & crisps)?

I think you are over stuffing your DC with crap mini roll, crips and a chocolate bar so yours and your DC's ideals are skewed.

A lot of adults only have a sandwich when working all day

I will add to the judgemental twatness, but only because i can't understand how you are getting so worked up about another child's packed lunch when your own child's packed lunch is full of processed crap. Maybe someone wants to have a word with the teacher about the junk you send in for your DS?

Oh gosh, there are days when my ds' take a sandwich or wrap, a piece of fruit and a snack bar (cereal bar, penguin or cake type of things). I hope people don't think I am starving them. In general I send them with 4/5 items, normally 2 pices of fruit included. Mostly, I get at least 2 items back home, uneaten at all. Hence, I don't worry to much if they only have 3 items as that is often the most they eat anyway.

I hope my daughter wants school dinners because this packed lunch business sounds a nightmare. Back in my day everyone had a sandwich, crisps, chocolate bar ( trio or club ) and a piece of fruit. Job done.

back in my day the only people who were allowed to bring packed lunches had a good religious reason for it - the rest of us ate spam

I sent my 5yr old with a chunk of cheese, 2 falafels and a few strips of pitta, plus a carrot and 2 clementines. It looked so little in his lunchbox and I was worried that school will think I'm not feeding him enough, but I can guarantee that some of that will come back uneaten as he'll be too full to finish. Rather that than filling his lunch box with crisps and chocolate bars.

You could have described what I give my almost 7 year old DS in his lunch box, except the biscuit wouldn't be chocolate as they're not allowed chocolate. And he doesn't even always finish that. Fruit - barely gets touched, Yoghurt - hit and miss, gets left more often than eaten. So I only occasionally put them in now.

Not all children eat a lot at lunch, mine eat a large evening meal instead.

Oh dear. Thread gone bad.

OP ignore the posters commenting on your ds lunch. My ds is 7 and a grown man would struggle with what he can eat in a day. Your ds lunch is fine if that's what he eats. Yes, yabu to tell the teacher the mother was probably having a bad day.

Like I said I won't e discussing it with the teacher. This thread was about how little the boys had for lunch not the contents. Now I'm over feeding my 7yr old skinny DS on shit food for lunch! He eats it, school haven't said anything and I could have sent him with pot noodle and mars bar yet I didn't. He comes home to a cooked meal with veg and meat every night and wolfs it down. Every child is different,'y 7 yr old eats like a pig. He even sometimes finishes what I leave for my tea!!! I didn't aim to turn this into a bunfight on what I feed my DS I never said his lunch was healthy did I? He has FOOD that's the main thing, I was worried if what other LB had was too little. Clearly not

Foodietoo - who says that a sandwich and two portions of fruit is normal, maybe to your child but not to everyone.

Also it does not always come down to weight either as other posters have pointed out.

My DCs have to go from 12pm to about 6pm often with about 2 hours of sport in between, they would not be ok with that amount of food. I do agree the lunch is not necessarily healthy but if part of a balanced diet it is not an issue surely.

When I was at school the standard lunch box was sandwich, crisps, chocolate bar and apple. Hardly anyone was overweight.

I cant beleave you were even thinking about speaking to a teacher about this yabvvu.

Zany,sorry,should have clarified. That's normal at the school I teach in in Ireland and also among my kids' friends who attend a different school.

If someone brought a bar of any sort to school everyone would be talking about it because junk food is not allowed during school time in almost every school I know.

Also,most schools have a fruit or vegetables only at the morning break policy.

Then they can eat the sandwich at the longer break.

So yes,fruit ,sandwich and water is very normal here.
Really surprised at kids being allowed crisps etc at school in the Uk.

Some schools don't allow them but ours does

"If someone brought a bar of any sort to school everyone would be talking about it"

Some schools obviously don't have much gossip, do they?

Foodie our school allows crisps, chocolate, sweets, biscuits,etc. There is one dc who has chocolate spread every day and another who always has a fruit shoot. Either the school doesn't care or thinks that the parents can be trusted to provide balance with the rest of the meals.

(runs for cover having lobbed Fruit Shoot grenade)