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to ask if you all chose your favourite name for your DCs?

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goodmorningtoyou · 03/03/2014 12:19

as it looks like DH and will never agree on a name for our new baby DD and will both have to compromise and decide on a name which is both way down on our lists. Our surname also rules out others which we do agree on

Will I get used to the name? Will it become DDs name? Questions, questions. I always thought I would automatically call our DCs my favourite name, but no.

The name we're thinking of is nice but not one of my absolute favourites. Does it matter? Your thoughts please.

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Seeline · 03/03/2014 12:24

My DCs aren't called my favourite names - they didn't really work with our surname, and we couldn't agree on others. We had a list of about 20 names for each DC before they were born - some we both liked, and some favoured by one/other. We didn't know what sex for either so that complicated things too!
We really didn't choose finally until both were a couple of days old and we had got to know them, we found a name sort of became more obvious then.
If you have a favourite name that can't be picked for whatever reason, would it be possible to have it as a middle name?
TBH after a day or so I couldn't imagine either child to be called anything else. I still can't adapt to my DS having adopted a shortened form of his name now he is 12!

Leviticus · 03/03/2014 12:25

No, neither time. They are called the names I liked best from DH's lists. I'm happy with them though and can't imagine them being called anything else.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 03/03/2014 12:27

DS was given our favourite boys name and second favourite as his middle name.

Consequently if dc2 is a boy he will have no name!

We can't think of any we love enough to name a person, so I don't know what we'll do.

Adikia · 03/03/2014 12:31

DS was given my favourite name (Dad had walked out and my maiden name was a nice easy one to work with) DH chose DD's name and it's a nice name but wasn't one I would have picked, it's grown on me and suits her.

redcaryellowcar · 03/03/2014 12:31

ds is five days old and unnamed . we are in.similar position. lots of nice boys names but none we love!

IneedAwittierNickname · 03/03/2014 12:33

Nope. Neither ds has my favourite boys name. It didn't.work with their surname, and (ex) dp hated it.

However, I love he names they have got, and my fav name wouldn't suit them imo.

Sillybillybob · 03/03/2014 12:34

DH thought my favourite name for DD sounded ridiculous so no, she's not called it. She does have a lovely name though which probably suits her better not that I'll ever admit that to DH !

Beavie · 03/03/2014 12:35

Yes both times.

I had to squeeze them out of my fanjo, I got to choose the names. End of.

charleyturtle · 03/03/2014 12:37

my dds name was not my favourite at all. The names I liked were all a bit more unique and went with my surname where as DP liked traditional names which goes with his boring, long surname so we just compromised and went for a name that we both liked but wouldn't have picked if it wasn't for needing a compromise.

Now I think it suits her perfectly and although I still think she could pull off the name Coco, hers probably suits her better.

BrokenToeOuch · 03/03/2014 12:38

Yes to the dds, no to ds (name chosen by dp). Still don't like his name now and he's 2! He suits it though.

shouldbedoingtheironing · 03/03/2014 12:41

DD has my favourite girls name ever and there was never going to be any decision making needed about her name!

DS was more of a struggle! His name was my suggestion and one I love but wasn't the one I really wanted when we were deciding. DH and I had to compromise on it as I really didn't want his first choice for a boys name and vice versa!

Writerwannabe83 · 03/03/2014 12:43

I don't have any names that I class as a 'favourite' and I haven't particularly felt strongly about any name I've seen or heard. My DH has chosen our boy's name (due in 3 weeks) and it's nice enough that I'm happy to go along with it

Locketjuice · 03/03/2014 12:44

Ds i went to my scan with my mum they said it was a boy I said 'aww my little finnley' called dp said he was a boy and he also said 'finnley' so that was was fate, my dd i suggested a million names he only liked the one I said no when she was born it really really suited her and I fell in love with name so yes and no

Locketjuice · 03/03/2014 12:46

Broken toe- what's your ds' name I'm curious

LayMeDown · 03/03/2014 12:46

Yes and No. Before we had kids we discussed names and DD's one was one we agreed that we loved. Neither of us had thought of it before but as soon as we said it we both agreed we loved it.
So years later when she was born thats what we named her.
DS1 has my favourite boys name. It was after my grandfather and it was an absoloute non negotiable for me. From before I met DH, my first boy was going to be this name. So he was. Luckily DH liked it as well.
DS2 was trickier, we really struggled to get a name. The name was neither of our first choice. It is a lovely name and made both of our top 3. It does really suit him. Still not as good as the one I wanted though!

Mim78 · 03/03/2014 12:54

Yes but also was a consensus both times iykwim. Happened we liked same names.

I let dh choose middle name for ds as I had chosen dd' s alone. It is nice name only not much meaning for me.

SwayingBranches · 03/03/2014 12:55

Yes and No. Yes for ds1, a name we both loved at the same time a few years before. And with ds2 Dh and I listed 50 names each we liked, listed the five names that were on both (we have very different tastes) and then agreed on one from that.

I think if we have a third and it's a girl it'll be similar as we both have favourites that are very different.

In the end it doesn't matter. You love your child who is that name.

BlackeyedSusan · 03/03/2014 12:58

yes. we did a lot of negotiating though. for dd we chose her short name easily then wanted a formal name to go with it and there were a few options that we tried out. we love the one we chose. she can get to choose other short forms of her long name when she is older if she decides we are terrible parents and have saddled her with something hideous...

ds was more difficult. we went through a lot of suggestions before deciding on a favourite. he was baby surname officially for a while as I had a last minute wobble about his name and nearly went for our second choice.

DeWe · 03/03/2014 13:03

My favourite name was already used by my favourite teddy. Dh said no child of his would be called after a teddy bear.

I like all my dc's names, but I don't think I would have totally chosen them if it was entirely up to me.

TinyPawz · 03/03/2014 13:08

No, my favourite name was vetoed by then DH. He wanted something ridiculously ghetto (imo). I ended up giving him a list of 5 beautiful Irish names and he picked from that list.

BrokenToeOuch · 03/03/2014 13:46

locket, it's Archie! Seems like a trouble makers name

CuppaSarah · 03/03/2014 13:50

We both had a lot of favorite names. In the end DDs name isn't my top choice or DPs, but when we first looked at DD we both just felt it really suited her.

Thurlow · 03/03/2014 13:53

No. DP sort of chose the name, and I quite liked it so we went with it. I never imaged having a DC with that name, particularly the abbreviated version she gets called all the time. In fact, in some ways I don't actually like it, which I know sounds weird but it's her name, and it suits her. I just imagine if she was called something else, and someone suggested that name to me, I'd be a bit 'meh' about it.

I know think that if I had given her a name I'd loved for ages, it would come with expectations, or baggage, as opposed to find a name for our child. If that makes any sense.

tunnocksteacake · 03/03/2014 13:53

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Burren · 03/03/2014 14:03

By 'favourite', do you mean, the one you liked best when you started thinking seriously about it during pregnancy? Because 'favourite' to me smacks slightly of little girls naming their dolls and saying 'When I'm grown up, I'm going to have six girls and six boys and their names are going to be etc'. Which was not my case.

I thought of my son's name while getting 'morning' sick in the gutter on the way home from work one dark winter night, and loved it instantly. His father was more in favour of something very generic, which my name wasn't, but I was as persuasive as an expensive barrister. It's a lovely name, and we both adore it.

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