BEGGING for some reinsurance!!PLEASE

[RalphLaurenLover]

So you all know my 'mother' and I have a strained relationship. Today it all blew up she was suppose to see my son tomorrow 11-12 but wanted it moved to today as she was 'busy' for what turns out she isn't going to be.

I told her to leave my home as she was distressing my son and she wasn't worth the argument. She refused after 5 minutes she told me she was going to take me to court because she didn't want to see me any more only my son (I've been offering her contact as she NEVER asks to which she is always 10 minutes late at least)

She then told me she's going to call her friends in Mental Health (she works for the NHS) and have them contact Social Services to get my son taken off of me and given to her (she works from 8-8, goes to the gym 4 times a week then to some married man's house where she stays)

She's said she's already got people to look into me at Social Services and they're things on my file and with her word I'll loose my son for sure.

How do I stop her from seeing my son she is Toxic and I'm not prepared to put up with her any more. If there were things on file with me with SS wouldn't I know about it? Had visitors etc? because I haven't had any.

Majourly pissed

Stay strong Ralph. Your mother is a toxic bitch.

So glad you sound so determined

Is this the first time she has been in touch this week? Have you spoken to PALS or are you keeping hat option in reserve?

For someone so young, you have so much 'wherewithal' about you! Well done!

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Go completely NC

I'm about to have some cake

Yeah it is the first time since last Sunday. Tbh I hadn't given her a thought since about Tuesday.

she's blocked from text and calling my home and mobile. I haven't been on Whatsapp since 3pm yesterday so she can see I haven't logged on to read it.

Sounds like you've managed to get some peace and quiet from her at least. Really glad you've been able to block her from your mind - that in itself is a big achievement.

Have you got any other family who can support you?

I don't really talk to anyone else. I have a brother whom I don't talk to as he lives with my mother and smokes weed, whilst living in her conservatory treating it like a doss house and sister whom just recently married and lives about 30 miles away who I don't really talk to

You are doing really well, keep chatting to us we are all behind you :)

You can block from WhatsApp too, you know?

It doesn't tell them they're blocked, but they can't see if you change your status, they can send messages but they don't come to you.

Block her from everything.

You seemingly have to go this alone kiddo, but you can do it. Make good friends wherever you can, and I promise that you'll get more out of life than you would do from your family.

We're all here for you too! :)

Absolutely, mn is a constant source of support x

If she has accessed your records, or asked anyone else to, she (and they) would be in massive trouble!!

My son spent time in foster care. I (NHS HCA) looked his address up to see if they changed it back when he came home. They hadn't. I got very upset. My boss and another colleague then changed it (without my consent, although I knew as they were doing it)

I got a final written warning, and was incredibly lucky to keep my job! That was for looking at nothing more than the address.

Just written as an example. As a senior manager, if she's accessed anything, they can trace it.

Sounds to me like you're doing great. Well done you!!