To find this offensive

[JingleMyBells]

As I was leaving my neurology appointment, I have epilepsy, the receptionist loudly said to her colleague "I nearly had a fit the other night when I saw the state of the house".

To me wrong in many ways. Firstly, wrong terminology secondly, demeaning to people who have SEIZURES, could be upsetting for those newly diagnosed plus just generally inappropriate.

I am upset at the suggestion from many posters that I am not "allowed" to feel this way.

Okay. I owned a bell in childhood that broke. This massively upset me. I am therefore offended by your username. How dare you?! Am I not allowed to feel this way?! Of course I am. Much good may it do me.

Meanwhile, in Rational Land....

It is a turn of phrase many people use, it means absolutely no offence whatsoever unless twinned with epilepsy/similar.

My DCs have had probably 25 "fits" (febrile convulsions) between them and my mum, my sister, my grandmother and probably generations before had "fits" until they reached puberty (genetic condition GEFS+). I dont find the word used in other contexts offensive at all and cant imagine any of my family do either.

You're "allowed" to be offended, by anything you choose. However, as this thread has shown, everyone else is "allowed" not to agree with you. Even those who share your ailment.

OP, are you ok?

YANBU. I work in MH and there are terms that I wouldn't use whilst at work as they could be taken as offensive. They may be common words or terms but it's all about the time and place.

IMO it's more about where it was said rather than what was said.

You've got a lot of stick on here .

YABU!

"Sorry but I don't care what a dictionary says, to me, my feelings are paramount."

Unless you're planning to become the sole editor of the OED I'm afraid you're going to be permanently offended and disappointed.

I'm offended by women in bad bras. Just thought I'd share.

Bob are you also offended when people say 'cough up' ?

you are allowed to feel what you like. But you asked, on a public forum, if you were being unreasonable to feel that - and a lot of people reckon you are. And now you're not happy about that.

I honestly wouldn't post about things on AIBU that you feel very sensitive about. If you're confident that you weren't U then you hardly need to know what a bunch of strangers on the internet think.

Why are people being so ridiculously and incorrectly literal? E.g "you'll hear from us" being offensive to a person with hearing problems?.

I usually told service users I would 'give them a ring in a day or two' or 'be in touch soon'. I neither meant that I would be giving them an actual ring nor was I going to literally touch them.

I'm sure 99% of people wouldn't expect me to either.

I don't think everyday phrases need to be explained to most people, are not meant in an offensive way and shouldn't be interpreted as such.

I'm not snarling, just coughing. Yes gordylovesheep I don't like "cough up" or "sniff up" for that matter.

Or people with biscuits in their teeth.

We are not dogs JingleMyBells and I find that very offence. I am a human being!

However I will just be quietly offended as I am sure you meant no harm and was just using a term of phrase

You're just looking to be offended. It's a common phrase and could also have meant a hissy fit/ temper tantrum.

People use phrases like "I nearly had a heart attack" all the time too.

JingleBells - why are you hanging onto this feeling of offense? Is it making you feel good? I doubt it. Wouldn't you feel better if, as I suggested in my entirely-unsnarling post, you took a deep breath and let go of this negative emotion?

I think the OP knows she is being unreasonable but is just be argumentative now.

Sometimes I think we should rename AIBU? to "Am I Being A Bit Of a Tit?" or AIBABOAT

Give over OP is not that upset she is over there>>> starting a fun thread about Yoni massage.

I think the receptionist was very insensitive to use that phrase when he/she works with epileptic patients.

I hate the phrase "it's a car crash" as I lost someone very close in one. When I read or hear it, it feels like a kick in the stomach. But I know I can't change anything, so just have to accept it.

Patients who have epilepsy, ExcuseTypos. Fits are epileptic, people have epilepsy.

Sorry, sorry, "seizures" are epileptic. I forgot fits were verboten on this thread.

Funnyfoot- maybe she's trying to distract herself from this bullying thread?

When working as a support, I accompanied a deaf client to an audiology appt. The HCP ended it by saying "You'll be hearing from us soon" and yes, I did pull her up on it.

That really is bizarre. If I send an email to someone saying something like "I look forward to hearing from you" it is absolutely clear that that means I'm expecting a response, it doesn't mean I expect them either to phone me or come and speak to me. It surely must have been obvious that the HCP meant that they would be sending a letter or report, and I'm sure the deaf person knew that perfectly well.