To ask whether you kept your baby same room as you for all naps until 6 months?

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It's so confusing to know what's best to do, DD is nearly 3 months and her usual bedtime she fell into is 7pm (ish) and she usually sleeps in fr room with us until we go to bed at 11pm (ish) now usually she settles well in cot at 11 but before that she sleeps but can wake up and fidget more so I wonder if noise and lights bother or disrupt her. But I would never want to put her in a room if guidance says not to as obviously must be for a reason.
Just wonder the general consensus of what others do or did?
I read somewhere that the reason is because they forget to breathe if left alone to sleep before 6 months??? Is that true?

The biggest contributor to the reduction in sids has been the back to sleep campaign. But ultimately, no-one knows what causes sids, and a baby can die even if you follow all guidelines.

You have to do what works for you. Nobody is irresponsible for not following the guidelines to the letter because they are just guidelines.

There was a mn'er whose child died of sids at age two, so it just shows that a magic button isn't pressed at the six month mark. All the scaremongering and guilt trips help no-one.

Yes because I had PND and was massively anxious that something terrible would happen. DD is now 6 months and having always fallen asleep on me is really struggling to transition from Moses basket to cot. I hate guidelines and associated mummy guilt as once I've read them I can't forget and it is yet another thing to worry about. I'd love my rational self back so I could have some confidence in my decisions.

No. DD slept in a separate room for naps and in the evening almost from the moment we got home (and she was 100% BF) and was in her own room at 10 weeks. TBH she always settled better on her own, rarely fell asleep in my arms or on the breast. We had an apnoea monitor whihc helped our worry.

DS was a different matter as he didn't come home from hospital until 3.5 months and had severe reflux so couldn't be left because of projectile vomiting. He slept in a bouncy chair even at night until 6 months. He never settled well and I often slept on his floor even wen he was 18 months. Now at 3.5 years he likes a cuddle once or twice a night.

I think "Back to sleep" reduced SIDS by something ridiculous like 90%, although maybe nowadays it's easier to say whether a death was a straight suffocation or a genuine SIDS.

Nowadays I think 90% of SIDS deaths are in smoking households. That's the next big hurdle to jump.

But imagine if SIDS deaths could be reduced by 99% in my lifetime. Or even if "they" could finally explain the causes and not just the correlated factors.

This is very interesting. My birth children are mid twenties now. My midwife encouraged me to put them in their big pram and let them sleep in the garden in the fresh air from a couple of months old, on sunny days. Which I did. Always checked on them every ten minutes or so mind you.

That was also the advice I was given for my DS 25 years ago.