To ask whether you kept your baby same room as you for all naps until 6 months?

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It's so confusing to know what's best to do, DD is nearly 3 months and her usual bedtime she fell into is 7pm (ish) and she usually sleeps in fr room with us until we go to bed at 11pm (ish) now usually she settles well in cot at 11 but before that she sleeps but can wake up and fidget more so I wonder if noise and lights bother or disrupt her. But I would never want to put her in a room if guidance says not to as obviously must be for a reason.
Just wonder the general consensus of what others do or did?
I read somewhere that the reason is because they forget to breathe if left alone to sleep before 6 months??? Is that true?

No. He was still in our room til 7 months, but from about 3 months, he would not fall asleep downstairs with us any more. So then yes he slept alone in our room from bedtime until we went to bed as well. I'm not really sure how I could have done it differently, unless I went to bed at 7 myself.

Mine napped in the pram or Moses basket, then buggy.
I think we started putting them upstairs at bedtime at around 5 months. Before then they weren't really settling to sleep properly until 10, or 11ish.

My older two napped on the sofa or in the buggy until they were about 3, never put them to bed during the day.

My younger two now nap in their cot and bed but I wish they didn't because they won't really sleep in the buggy for long.

I am dubious about breathing monitors as I have never found any research saying they have reduced the amount of fatalities.
My Mum was given one by the hospital for my sister after an 'interrupted' cot death.
She was told they can't detect all forms of apnea and even if it did alert her it may still be too late to revive her and she would more than likely suffer brain damage. She has epilepsy probably caused by the interrupted cot death.

Both mine had naps in a Moses basket or bouncer in the same room as me, as they were small it was easier to finish feeding them to sleep then transfer them to the bouncer or basket. This wasn't done because of the SIDS guidelines though, just because it was easier.
When they were older, about 7/8 months they were more comfy in the cot so Id put them in there.

We had a breathing monitor (this was 10 years ago) but there didn't seem to be firm evidence that they were any real use, we had a few false alarms where DS had rolled off the mat thing, we reverted to a normal monitor fairly quickly.

The thought of SIDS terrifies me, and I have so much sympathy for those who have had to go through this hell. I have done everything I can to make sure this didn't happen to my baby, and had the benefit of modern advice which obviously not everyone could follow in the past. (And you can follow every bit of advice and still lose your lo) The fact that your baby was fine despite being left up the Andes or whatever is meaningless.

I should also say that from 3 months when DD2 was tired she made it very clear that shred just wanted to be in bed. she wouldn't be cuddled or rocked just cried. we soon realised that once we left her alone in her cot she'd be asleep within minutes

Peak age for SIDS is 10 weeks and trails off dramatically after 6 months. Kept all mine in same room. My aunt was a SIDS death.

Rikalaily there's "normal household noises" and then there's a 2yo prodding you in the face shrieking "ARE YOU AWAKE, BABY?!"

1st child, in our room in our bed till 2.5, on my tit all night till about 16 months. Never again. All naps in my arms on the sofa.He slept dreadfully and so did we. Never ever again.

2nd child, own room for naps since day 1, own room since 12 weeks. Sleeps beautifully.

Nope. Dd would scream with over tiredness at 6 weeks but didn't realise that's what it was until she was 8 weeks. Then it was bedtime routine initiated.
She still slept in our room until 6 months.

Ds mostly sleeps in the sling during the day so yes. We've just started to put him to bed before us at 26 weeks.

You can have a bedtime routine with the "bed" being in the room you're in - eg carrycot/pram in sitting room till you go to bed.

Mine didn't but not because we wanted rid of him! It became clear around 3 or 4 months old that he'd never settle downstairs so had to put him in his cot in our room for naps. Don't know how we could have done this differently as he needed the sleep. He's six months now and will be in our room for the foreseeable future as it's easier with breastfeeding.

Horatia - hah! yes.

Also, although putting them in a separate room for naps and evenings might increase the SIDS risk, for me this had to be balanced against the decrease in Throwing-Oneself-Off-A-Bridge-In-Hormonal-And-Exhausted-Craziness risk.

As far as I understand it's not to do with the baby hearing the parents breathing but the proximity of the parent. The theory is that the carbon dioxide that the parent exhales stimulates the baby's own breathing

That's my understanding, too. Which is an argument pro-co-sleeping (is co-sleeping still contentious?) and is not supportive of the 'in the same room as you' dictat - because they cannot be breathing your exhaled air if they are in a Moses basket at the other end of the sofa.

Presumably the carbon dioxide concentration of the air in a room with two adults in it is still slightly higher than in an otherwise empty room?

The carbon dioxide theory is one of many many theories out there about why the correlation exists. Nothing has been conclusively proved.

No. I think with ds1 we had him downstairs for the first month then he went into our room for all naps and night sleeps. With my subsequent children they have all been in their cot (accept for a bit of middle of the night co sleeping) from day one. If they are downstairs the other dc's wake them up.

With dc1 I put her to sleep upstairs during the day while I was downstairs. I did not know you were supposed to keep them with you for first 6 months . She slept in our room until 2 years old.

With dc2 I read the guidelines - he sleeps wherever we are. Obviously I am not in the room all the time but I pop in every 15 mins to check his breathing.

Or perhaps just a poorly-ventilated room.

No, I think it is about the baby breathing in a rhythmic variation in CO2 levels. Ie being right next to a parent.

Naps were downstairs for first 8 weeks but not necessarily in the same room as me. Own bedroom at night at about 3 weeks.

No. First couple of weeks maybe. It wasn't practical after that with a toddler in the house and I won't stick to the advice just because its given.
So much of it recently is utter tripe.

Think it's far better to ignore the advice, read the actual research and then make your own decisions based on that and what you think is sensible.

Absolutely impossible for me with dc2 and a toddler, he was far safer upstairs.