To ask whether you kept your baby same room as you for all naps until 6 months?

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It's so confusing to know what's best to do, DD is nearly 3 months and her usual bedtime she fell into is 7pm (ish) and she usually sleeps in fr room with us until we go to bed at 11pm (ish) now usually she settles well in cot at 11 but before that she sleeps but can wake up and fidget more so I wonder if noise and lights bother or disrupt her. But I would never want to put her in a room if guidance says not to as obviously must be for a reason.
Just wonder the general consensus of what others do or did?
I read somewhere that the reason is because they forget to breathe if left alone to sleep before 6 months??? Is that true?

I always had ds downstairs with me until i went to bed when he was a baby also when napping i had him near me.It did take me a while to start putting him in our room and going downstairs probably 7mnths but it was getting unsettling for him carrying him upstairs when asleep and he would wake up upset because we had moved him.I have never put him upstairs to nap really because I never set him a time for a daytime nap it was more if he wanted one so he would just fall asleep downstairs.

Baby 3 is 3 months old and this is the first time I have ever heard this. Thought it only applied to sleeping in same room at night. Is there a link to official guidelines on this? Can they really hear you breath if in a different bed?

Mine went in carrycot but I don't think that they are popular anymore. Yes kept down with us til our bedtime then we all went up together. Til prob 8 months with pfb. Nsc was more like 5 months.

Yes I did, she just napped at the back of the living room in her Moses basket.

My DD slept in her own room from 7 weeks. She has always been a good sleeper but sensitive to noise (she was a 7pm bedtime too)

Naps and bedtime from 12 weeks old in his own room. Angelcare monitor helped my nerves at night.

No, I didn't realise it was meant to be daytime as well as night and from about 6 weeks he was put upstairs in the evenings too. Even if I had brought the Moses basket down with me I wouldn't necessarily have stayed in the same room all the time, might have been in the kitchen some of the time and the living room (not adjacent) other times. With DC2 I bought a second moses basket for downstairs, but didn't necessarily stay in the room with her all the time.

No we didn't. They both slept in their own rooms before 6 months old. Although our house is a small house so we could actually still hear them.

My Dh at the time was a smoker (never in the house) but I worried that the baby would take on his smoke during sleep. So they went into their own room from day one with different versions of one of these.

She did. More because of space issues...we live in a shoebox.

yes

No. DS had awful reflux, colic, tummy troubles and spent the first 12 weeks bolt upright on DH and I - literally the only way he would sleep. Beyond that we found the only thing that worked for sleep was a really dark room and white noise so napping in the living room during the day was simply not going to happen (as much as I'd have liked it to). He does not deal with tiredness well and would simply scream endlessly if we didn't let him nap so we simply had to go with what worked for him.

No DS1 own room for naps and nighttime from 3 weeks (easier to keep cat away. DS2 different room for naps in the day but still in our bedroom at night - currently 4 months.

How do people with 2 kids do it? My DS1 is 2.5yrs and would just wake DS2 up.

It's a loads of nonsense about regulating breathing - the daytime naps guidance is based on research that basically found that those SIDS that died in the daytime were more likely to have been put to bed sleeping on side and found lying on front or found with blankets covering them - therefore the guidance is issued so people can keep an eye to check that this can't happen.

Guidance is guidance though and not full proof black & white. It doesn't take into account your family, rowdy toddlers, cats that want to jump in with warm baby's, a baby that is a super light sleeper and just won't settle in the front room etc.

At the end of the stay do what is best for you and your family - don't follow these guideline religiously (they often aren't based on particularly good or extensive research anyway)

My 2 yr old carried on being his noisy self but luckily dd was a right little sleepyhead ( like her mother) and slept through him playing.
At night he had his own room and she was in with us so again not a problem.

Really interesting to read the replies, it is a lot more evenly split than I would have thought from real life conversations. Most friends seemed to have baby in their own room from day 1 and I thought I must be really odd. Thanks op, this thread has made me feel more normal at least!

No, didn't realise you were supposed to until past their 6mo and had moved them into their own cot.

In practice I probably did quite a lot of the time as we had a bedside cot so once they got a bit wriggly if by some miracle I'd got them down for a nap there I would have to stay to make sure they didn't wriggle out.

Can't really remember what else I did and it was only 18mo ago . But I did have twins and that's why i can't remember my own name and always wondered if the remembering to breath thing was less of a risk because there was another one there, breathing next to them.

Yes... he napped downstairs with us, and we put him down properly at around 11 when we went down.

It worked well, as he slept more from 11-5 when we wanted to sleep!! plus, I never would have relaxed if he wasn't with us that early on.

I was rare though, lots of my nct gp put their dc in their own rooms early, and that worked for them...

Yes we did. All naps and evening.

My understanding is that by the time a monitor picks up an issue it's too late.

They don't know exactly why it helps reduce SIDS but it does.

I am in the "once I knew I couldn't not do this" but that's my nature. Six months goes so quickly anyway.

dd has been going to bed in her crib since about eight weeks... She would scream and refuse to settle on the living room. After a four hour screaming session we decided to try putting her down... She slept like a log.
She's six months now but I'm in no hurry to put her in her own room

No - napped upstairs from 6 weeks and went into his own room at night at 5 month's as no-one was getting any sleep. We always play the radio in his room so he doesn't het into too deep asleep as I thought that's was the main reason for them being with you.

Yeah i did. My two year old only recently naps upstairs.

No, I didn't not know I was supposed to. My babies have always slept in their cribs, in their own rooms, with the exception of our daughter. She occasionally slept in the pack n play in the family room. But she also mostly slept in her crib in her room.

Yes and dd mostly slept in my arms. Have you tried a sling?

Generally, but not obsessively. If they fell asleep in my arms then the rest of the nap would be wnith thrm in the basket or baby chair in the same room. If tgry fell asleep in the pram, they'd be left there in the hall. I'd be in and out anyway.

DS1 roomed in until we moved at 22 weeks then went in his room so one big transition rather than lots of messing, he was outgrowing the crib snyway. DS2 was 7m. When he got to the point of being ready, he got bronchiolitis so we kept him roomed in longer as I was concerned about his bbreathing. He had to sleep in the baby chair as he'd outgrown the crib.

It's one of those bits of guidence that suggests a best practice based on current research, but, you have to do what's practical too. There's less benefit to following the guidence if everyoneIis exhausted by a baby who can't sleep in the suggested method. I just found that for pre 6 month naps that keeping them in the living space worked better for me and the babies I had.

Dd went in her own room at 3 or 4 months

We have the angelcare monitor which reassures me