To be utterly confused, irritated and upset that my dh will NOT discuss baby names?

[mameulah]

This is our second baby and it took nine months and three days to name our first baby.

Please tell me that my husband is not the only person like this. I absolutely do not understand it.

Meh. I think you are over-reacting a tad. I'm over 38 weeks and DP only mentioned a name he likes last week.

I may sound as though I am overreacting but after last time I just want to be prepared.

My dh has a habit of doing everything in 'emergency mode'. Christmas presents bought late afternoon on Christmas Ever. Birthday presents bought on your birthday. Valentines card bought on the evening of Valentines Day. I don't work like that at all. Our pfb ds was born late November. By October I had bought, wrapped and prepared for posting ALL of our Christmas gifts. And I had written the addresses on all of the envelopes for the Christmas cards. I know I am like that, and I know how did it didn't work for me. I know that the first two initials of our pfb's name don't sound so good together. And I know it made me really unhappy.

All I want is some clue that it won't be like that this time. And to no avail.

I like the idea of telling him, 'this is my favourite name......come up with something better before I am in labour or that is what we are calling our baby.' But I also think that if I put too much weight on it then it makes it too important and might put him off.

It is good to hear that I am not the only one in this kind of situation. Thanks for all your comments.

My oh is rubbish with names and hates the whole name discussion. I make a list and keep it on the fridge, I alter it through my pregnancy depending on how I feel. Iv told him he picks one of the names on the list, comes up with is own or I choose.

He actually suggested a names for the first time ever with dc3, I fell in love with it, he then decided he didn't like it but tough. When I was lying down after giving birth I told him we were using the name.

My husband didn't really want any of our pregnancies :( so he mostly pretended they weren't happening and didn't engage in name discussions at all for the third child. I was sad that he could never once give me a pregnancy like on tv where the dad is surprised but happy and supportive... But when they were born he loved them all completely. He just felt no bond till he held them.

The third time I didn't bother discussing names - just picked one I liked and told him that was going to be his name, and here is a short list of middle names he could choose. He picked both the first two's names.