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To take DH cake at work?

77 replies

Aworryingtrend · 19/02/2014 10:49

DH is having a really hard time at work at the moment, one of his colleagues (who went for the promotion that DH got) is making his life a misery and his boss is too busy to care. I only work around the corner from him so would really like to take him some cake at lunchtime just to show I'm thinking of him and I support him. But worried it might look a bit...I don't know, interfering? Inappropriate? I never normally go to his work apart from to take DS in when he was born 16 months ago.

WWYD?

OP posts:
WTFlike · 19/02/2014 10:50

Noooo! Just text him something nice.

MrsMagnificent · 19/02/2014 10:52

No, don't do it. Send him a nice text/email. Buy something nice for dinner and cook for him.

crazykat · 19/02/2014 10:53

I'd text something nice and get the cake for after dinner tonight.

FoxesRevenge · 19/02/2014 10:54

This happened to a male colleague of mine. He felt totally humiliated.

sadbodyblue · 19/02/2014 10:55

ffs take him the cake. what's the problem. if you were his mother fair enough but you are his wife.

good grief are we in 1955 and women stay away from the husbands busy and serious office?

HerGraciousMajTheBeardedPotato · 19/02/2014 10:55

Send him a text.

But if youworkso near each other, couldyounot meet up for lunch every so often? Give him a break frontage office pressure.

londonrach · 19/02/2014 10:55

Husband had same problem few years ago. Please dont go near the office. Instead take yourself to a nearby cafe and text him saying if you have time your wife and daughter would like to pay for a cake and drink at lunchtime. Good luck x

sadbodyblue · 19/02/2014 10:56

ok guessing friends how old you are. past 40 you really really don't give a crap what work colleagues or anyone rise thinks to be fair.

Nanny0gg · 19/02/2014 10:56

No!

Either meet him for lunch, if that's doable, or as others have said, nice dinner in the evening.

Please don't!

DustyBaubles · 19/02/2014 10:56

I'd really rather my husband didn't show up at my workplace, with cake or otherwise, unless someone had died or something.

CoffeeTea103 · 19/02/2014 10:57

Definitely not! Do it after work. What would that achieve?

sadbodyblue · 19/02/2014 10:57

glad we are old. Grin very liberating.

londonrach · 19/02/2014 10:57

Sorry son not daughter x

Reminder · 19/02/2014 10:58

No, really, No

Loads of other ways to show you support him. Good ones suggested here

MrsCosmopilite · 19/02/2014 10:58

I think it's a very kind gesture. However, you might be better to meet him somewhere and give him the cake, or meet for coffee.
Alternatively, provide enough cake for everyone and let him take the credit for supplying it. That should satisfy anyone stuck in a 1950's mindset (!)

rosesareredvioletsarepurple · 19/02/2014 11:01

What?! My DP would love to see me at lunch time and would love cake even more!

Totally bizarre.

Rupertandfifi · 19/02/2014 11:01

I would if you knew he would enjoy the cake.
Why not go the whole hog and drop off a large sharing cake for them all to share?

TheDoctorsNewKidneys · 19/02/2014 11:03

If you work round the corner, why not text him and offer to take him out for lunch or for a coffee? I really wouldn't show up to his work. I'd be less than impressed if DP turned up at my work with cake because I was having a bad time.

Cigarettesandsmirnoff · 19/02/2014 11:04

Dh would love the cake - he would take it in a share it.

GoatsHaveStrangeEyes · 19/02/2014 11:04

My dh would be over the moon if I surprised him with cake at work. But I don't think I would do it anyway tbh.

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 19/02/2014 11:04

Yes, but the nasty colleague is not allowed to share the cake.

In fact... why don't you get a cake made with a portrait of nasty colleague's face on it with a big bird poo dripping down his nose (on rice paper, the poo could be fondant icing).

Drop it off in a box, anonymously, at the reception desk Grin

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 19/02/2014 11:05
  • then your DH gets to have cake, be cheered up, AND see nasty colleague in bird poo situation. Win-win-win.
sadbodyblue · 19/02/2014 11:06

well she's not going to announce it is she?

just turning up with a cake at lunchtime and maybe going for a quick walk/coffee.

gosh wouldn't think twice. and it wouldn't bother me at work either as long as I didn't have to share the cake.

maras2 · 19/02/2014 11:07

It doesn't matter what age group ; this poster's DH is having a rough time at work , with one bloke in particular . Why risk his life being made more miserable by doing such a nice thing . OP , probably best to meet DH alone for cake and cuddles as ratbag colleague may use your lovely gesture to be even more of a pig . Send him a nice txt perhaps telling him of something nice that may happen tonight < and I don't mean cake > :)

falulahthecat · 19/02/2014 11:08

Your DH may not want this person to know that he's getting to him so much.
So if I were you why not give him a text and, as pp poster said, save the cake (and a cuddle) for later.
Perhaps start a new thread with some of the things this man is doing?
For one thing I know I and DP have 'dealt with' some difficult (jealous, butter) colleagues and we may have some advice for him on dealing with a new, difficult situation.