To expect DH to put DC to bed?

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I sometimes (rarely) work late. I mostly start the process of putting DD to bed - I suggest it; DH does her bath; I read the story. Usually at about 7.15-7.30.

DD has recently been ill (bad cold and temperature) but had been to nursery in the day. Therefore she was very tired and crotchety.

I got home at 7.30pm, fully expecting a bathed and pyjama-clad child.

No, DH was sitting on the sofa, unable to face the tantrum of telling DD to leave the ipad alone (I never let her on the ipad unless it is a special treat; on a long journey etc) and certainly not having done her bath etc.

Am I being unreasonable to expect him to do this? He does work hard and is normally knackered at the end of a working day, but even so ...!

Thought about not biting but still got to say that's a total load of shit blah

Blah you remind me more and more of Beesimo (I think that was her name) every time you post!

blah, on this occasion the OP was working later than her husband. He may work full-time, but this time he was the parent present and bath- and bedtime. THIS is 'the way it is'.

Your view is very offensive to men. It presupposes that you have to protect female children from their own fathers seeing their bodies, which heavily implies that you think fathers might have inappropriate responses to their female children's bodies.

Do you think the same about mothers and male children?

And if the OP's household isn't Muslim, then it matters not a jot what would or wouldn't be allowed in Muslim households. (and, as an aside, I don't know if I buy the notion that this is the case in all Muslim households).

I bet if you all ask your parents who was responsible for bathing you when you were younger it would be mum - And it's nothing to do with abuse (?) just the way it is. Why is being traditional so wrong these days?

And if you normally do the bedtime routine then he probably just thought you would do it when you got in, it's hardly a late night was it.

Both mum and dad, in my case. Sorry to screw up your bizarre hypothesis. And how do you feel about lone parents, if they have a child of the opposite sex? What do you think happens then?

Can you explain your phrase 'the way it is' in the context of your argument, please?

My dad always did bath time, if he didn't he would have seen us in the evenings as he got home so late. My dh does bed time, including baths for the same reason - your views are very odd!

No one has actually said traditional is wrong just sexist that is all.

You just keep propping up the patriarchy with all the shite you are spouting blah

There was absolutely no need to bring religion into it, it is irrelevant. But FWIW you are not helping Muslim sisters who argue for the right to wear the hijab and that they are not trolled and suppressed in their marriages. So do fuck right off

comtrolled

n even.

Getting told to fuck off cos i think mums should bath their kids when dads work full time - Only on mumsnet!

Actually my husband has asked me to postpone bathing DD for ten minutes on the few nights he has got home late as he looks forward to doing it.

Our dad bathed me and my sister 30 years ago.

Blah but if its the only time in the day they get to do something productive with their child surely its best that the poor hard working dads do actually do bath time?

I must apologise to my DH as I didn't realise this was such a chore - but then he enjoys spending time with his DC so perhaps he doesn't mind too much?!

And most men of my parents generation have never bathed their kids, changed a nappy or been hands on - It's fact that men are now expected to be more hands on, a new generation thing as more mums work

piano yes we do this sometimes and dinner so that my hardworking DH can see dc's

blah you are not being told to fuck for that reasons! you maybe have a point if one is a ash pans the other works. But roles were reversed this day. You are being told to fuck off by me for you sexist attitudes. It is women like you who hold equality back.

My dad always did bathtime.

My DH was a single parent to a girl (always did baths)

You are spouting offensive bollocks!

It's fact that men are now expected to be more hands on, a new generation thing as more mums work

Yes. That is pretty much what this thread is about –a female OP who was later home than her husband and so expected him to be 'hands-on' in the care of their daughter. So is this new generation thing bad, in your opinion? If so, why?

And I echo kotinka's comment above that there were quite clear implications of it not being appropriate for men to bath female children ('it's not a man's place'). Can you expand on that?

We'll let that new generations be then blah and share it all out as and when not because of what's between our legs eh?