To ask if you have ever been the OW

[MeepMeepVrooooom]

Not a TAAT but it has been inspired by another thread.

After reading another thread the ladies in my office got chatting about whether or not we had ever been the OW.

We all have by some standard have been in the position of the OW. One example from myself, I slept with a married man. Silly one night stand at around the age of 19 with a man I vaguely knew and had met a few times. Didn't find out till after that he was actually married. The other ladies stories vary between them knowing, knowing they had been married but told they had split when they hadn't and then not knowing.

How many of you have either knowingly or unknowingly (at the time) been the cheatee?

No. I wouldn't. And I judge people who do. How anyone can act in a way that they know has the potential to cause enormous pain and devastate someone's life I just do not get. It is black and white. Anything else is just excuses for selfishness.

Never. Have had loads of approaches - esp in my teens & 20s - but have always felt revolted by the idea.
I doubt this thread is representative. Most people read threads relevant to them so most posters here are likely to have been either OWs or cheated on.
I clicked on this as my good friend has just told me he's cheating on his lovely wife and is going to leave her. It's really rattled me tbh.

Nope.