to cry over hotel bridal policy?

[PrebendsBridge]

Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

Ooh that's odd, I can still see the twitter comments from us all - have you expanded? I'm crap at twitter so god knows if what I'm telling you is correct :)

whoever tweeted them and asked about the 2 bride policy and Lesbian weddings
Brilliant.

Just seen the twitter activity from last night ...loved the husband in the white 'not-wedding' dress pic.

Soo....as we've all established my dress is not bridal, guess I'm quite okay to wear it to a wedding of DP's friend in June! That is if the lovely penis dress isn't available instead

Umm, not sure it is the done thing to wear white to somebody elses wedding?

Haha, I wouldn't if I were you. One thing to wear it at your wedding or a special night out but not to another wedding!

I was, of course, joking about the possibility of wearing it to friend's wedding.

Maybe the huge red velvet number suggested up-thread instead?!

My friend was getting ready for her wedding in a hotel, not getting married there but in another venue. They wouldn't let her out of the hotel as another wedding party had arrived and were having photos, so it made her 45 minutes late for her own wedding.

Also it meant I missed the entire ceremony, as my carefully planned timing with feeds and sleeps with tiny DD1 went out (she was literally asleep until my friend finally arrived then woke up needing comforting and another feed and I had to take her out). Glad it was all sorted, OP!

I don't think in this case I'd have taken the trouble to tell them what I'm wearing. I'd have said "No, I'm not wearing an actual wedding dress." and have left it at that.

This is bullshit! Sorry OP. What a stupid policy.

I am glad you got a full refund, at least they did that. Terrible publicity for the hotel, they should hang their heads in shame.

Ok, so Hotels and Estate agents are the scum of the earth.

Jayzus.

I'd be cancelling and rebooking elsewhere - and telling them exactly why. It's a ridiculous policy, and that beautiful dress doesn't look remotely meringuey!

Looks like they've closed their Twitter page for now... wonder why!

Hmmm.
Your dress is lovely. And your plans sound lovely too.
They should have made you aware of their policy when booking.
But it's not uncommon for hotels to offer this exclusivity to wedding parties and although your event is subtle and small scale it is indeed, still your wedding reception.
So, no. YANBU to be upset, especially as you found out after you booked it.
But YAbu to expect them to make an exception for you on the grounds that your dress/ reception is smaller scale/ more tasteful/ less traditional than another might be.
Good luck with finding somewhere perfect.

Can still see twitter page. Are you spelling it right (I didn't last night) @rockliffehall

I just sent them a tweet, and it works.

OP, your dress is so beautiful and classy. I wish you the happiest of wedding days!

Very strange - even when I refresh the Twitter page it says

"Sorry, that page doesn’t exist!

Thanks for noticing—we're going to fix it up and have things back to normal soon."

Ah, just ignore me, my link is all wrong

At the end of the day if the hotel has as 1 bride rule then they should not be taking bookings for the restaurant - it should be exclusive use.

I'm getting married this summer and I might well get the same dress, it's gorgeous! You don't mind do you OP?

I accessed their Twitter account via their FB page, first 2 are about their bridal policy :)

Just tweeted this @Calonogi: @RockliffeHall banning cream-shift-dress-wearing bride for post wedding dinner to protect 'one bride policy'...she was the only bride! Poor!

Prebends I have actually just written to Rockliffe to complain after a friend abd I were treated appallingly at a spa day last weekend.

Can I recommend Headlam Hall or The Morritt Arms? Both lovely and have staff who can't do enough for you.

Oh RH is near us. dH has been on about going to their restaurant for ages. They can now fuck the fuck off with their attitude. Or we can both turn up in white.

Your dress is beautiful OP, I hope you have a fabulous wedding and I'm glad you have a great alternative. Congratulations.

You found somewhere. That's great. Well done and have a fabulous day.