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to cry over hotel bridal policy?

409 replies

PrebendsBridge · 06/02/2014 16:43

Getting married in 4 weeks v cheaply. Registry office, two guests as witnesses, no flowers, haïr dressers, cars or any of that stuff. £200 cream L K Bennett dress.

The only 'treat element' of the day was booking a night at a 5 star hotel, with dinner for our two guests.

That's all we can afford, and I didn't want to have to wait years saving to get married.

Only problem now is that I can't wear my dress to the hotel. They have a bridal policy of only one bride (their wedding package) at the hotel. So despite my not having anything ostensibly bridal, as my sheath dress is cream I can't wear it incase I offend a bride who can afford a massive wedding package.

AIBU to think this sucks??

OP posts:
SilasGreenback · 06/02/2014 21:31

I'm going for a weekend there later this year (family party) and staying the Saturday night before - if I eat nothing until then I might fit into my wedding dress!

GlaikitFizzog · 06/02/2014 21:32

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Please wear this, someone, anyone??

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 06/02/2014 21:40

Get everyone to turn up in white. They are being twattish. I'm sure your small intimate party will not put off anyone else having a big do. Find another place.

Mellowandfruitful · 06/02/2014 21:44

There might well have been another bride or person dressed in white at my wedding reception venue. I honestly didn't notice as I was busy enjoying myself. As someone said back on page 1, it's a sad reflection on human nature to think that one person's joy could be thought to ruin the joy of someone else who just happens to be in the same place. So glad you have now resolved it and found a better venue for you. Have a wonderful wedding.

Pimpf · 06/02/2014 21:52

Have added a tweet, ridiculous policy, and I wonder if those supportive ones are from employees or friends of the hotel

Caitlin17 · 06/02/2014 22:09

www.lkbennett.com/Clothing/Dresses/Detroit-Notch-Collar-Fitted-Dress/p/DRDETROITPOLYESTERMIXCreamLight Cream

In case any else couldn't get link to work I'm assuming this is the dress.

It's beautiful but it's not a wedding dress.
Have a great day OP.

Littleen · 06/02/2014 22:20

That's a nonsense rule really. Could you put a coat on, I know that's not really what you should do, but if you don't want the trouble, it could be an option. Good luck!

BOFtastic · 06/02/2014 22:24

I have tweeted them an enquiry...

StealthPolarBear · 06/02/2014 22:43

OP we had our meal at judges which was lovely. Crathorne hall also nice. Headlam Hall in Darlington meant to be good - we looked round there.

StealthPolarBear · 06/02/2014 22:44

Get everypne to turn up in white? It will be like some sort of cult!

StealthPolarBear · 06/02/2014 22:45

Not sure if Whitworth Hall does evening meals but I love it there, fancy feeding the deer and ducks in your wedding dress? :o

mellicauli · 06/02/2014 22:58

This sucks big time! And was your partner allowed to wear a suit like the groom? course he can! Sounds like sex discrimination to me!

DinoSnores · 06/02/2014 22:58

BOF - you'll need to Tweet @RockliffeHall (you've spelt it wrong and I would hate for them to miss your very important question!)

BOFtastic · 06/02/2014 23:06

Thanks!

BOFtastic · 06/02/2014 23:10

Sorted Grin

bisjo · 06/02/2014 23:13

Love the photo you tweeted BOF. Very funny.

superram · 06/02/2014 23:23

Go to seaham hall

Fifilosttheplot · 06/02/2014 23:32

I live very near rocklife and have a wedding dress in a box on top of the wardrobe if needed

BobaFetaCheese · 06/02/2014 23:35

I can see this making the Mail website, like so much of mn does!

isisisis · 06/02/2014 23:43

Thanks for twitter link. Our good friend Chris Naylors 'skills' on linked in are listed as hotels & online marketing. Handy he just happened to stumble across a few twitter comments from Mumsnetters & casually step in to support the hotel Grin

Fantail · 07/02/2014 00:07

Beautiful dress, you will look stunning, especially if you accessorize with an I-pad case rather than bouquet of flowers as suggested.

What would they do if they hosted a wedding between two males who wanted to wear suits...

I can understand a policy of only hosting one wedding per day, but surely having 4 additional covers in your restaurant and one room booking is good business.

legoplayingmumsunite · 07/02/2014 00:35

Was just about to post to say what a beautiful and elegant dress then saw it was Rockliffe Hall that were being twunts. Since I live nearby I am tempted to wear a white dress next time I go there (I might even get my very obviously wedding dress out of its box in the attic). What an over the top decision, especially since your dress is not a wedding gown. If a mother of the bride or maid of honour turned up in that outfit would they tell her to leave? Maybe that would be allowed?

iloveny001 · 07/02/2014 01:32

Can't get their twitter yo work, bugger

Preciousbane · 07/02/2014 08:57

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