Is your DP your best friend?

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Title says it all ! I would consider DH mine, am curious about other people

Oh tunnocks

Yes, he is my best friend. After 25 years I am closer to him than any other living being - dc excepted. That isn't to say that my best girlfriends aren't still my best girlfriends but I never just had one of them and certainly wasn't close enough to sleep with them even though I might have shared a bed with them iykwim.

I luffs him as my partner, my lover, my friend, my soul mate, and the miserable old sod that I married.

Yes, absolutely. He's my best friend, my lover and my rock. I have a group of very close female friends but me an DH are each others best friends.

Sorry to her that Tunnocks and Brian :(

Oh Tunnocks, I'm so so sorry.

Yes, DP is my best friend in all the world. I can't imagine losing him- Tunnocks, my heart goes out to you. We aren't much substitute, but I guarantee that you'll find love and support here when you need it

Yes, totally. He totally gets me.

Brian- you too. I didn't read past Tunnocks' post. Much love to you both.

Absolutely not. He's my husband not a friend.

Yes, he is. I could happily spend all day every day in his company and never get bored.

Absolutely 100%

I guess to me a friend is just a different relationship, steady, I rarely if ever have cross words with friends even in 20 years, low expectations in some ways, don't mind if they have different values, ways of living and so on. I have a passionate relationship with my husband, more intense and involved than a friendship.

I need my best friend to listen while I go on about my husband!

Absolutely. 100%.

I think it's lovely that DP says I'm his bf even though he has several close friends that he's known since school and others who he's close to (best man types). I feel very honoured that I rank up there with them after a year and a half!

I have a small group of close female friends, 2 of whom are 'best' but I do still watch myself with them, I can't be 100% my filthy self.

Thetallesttower, I rarely have cross words with DP either. I really don't like the idea that (not saying you do, btw!) you should treat your partner with any less respect and consideration than you would a much-loved friend. It's not a case of lowered standards, but of being with somebody you know shares yours. I wouldn't dream of 'sounding off' to a pal about him, because I would be able to talk about any frustrations with him, and as we both want each other to be happy, we'd sort it out between ourselves.

I agree with you on the point that your friends don't have to be held to the same standard, and I dearly love mine and will let lots of stuff slide. My DP is still the person I expect to rely on above all others though. It certainly doesn't mean we lack passion.

He's my best buddy! But yes he can be an almighty pain in the ass. But strangely so can I!

Yes. The very thought of ever hurting him with an affair or lies terrifies me (just been on the relationship thread which saddens me to read) He is the kindest, sweetest and most gorgeous person I have ever met and I would go to the end of the earth for him.

I am a loyal friend and have often been a foul weather friend to mates in trouble and will always be there for them.

He is the one I turn to and would trust with my life.

BoF we just don't have the same kind of relationships then, I do sound off to my husband from time to time and we do have cross words as we try to navigate through life's decisions, where to send the kids to school, how to cope with difficult relatives and so on.

I don't have to make big life decisions or deal with money worries and so on with my best friend, and I don't live with her every single day.

It isn't about less respect, it's about living a day to day life with another strong minded individual in a passionate relationship. That is not to me a friendship where we chat on the phone and see each other a couple of times a year!

I agree with siblingrevelry and others who say the same.

My husband is my husband. We like each other, spend a lot of time together, are able to talk about everything so I suppose LIKE a best friend but much more than that because we're committed.

I get what you're saying, Thetallesttower. Maybe it's just about how you frame the question? If it was 'Who are you closest to?', I daresay we'd be saying much the same thing.

Yes, you are right, closest but it's not always friend-like. I do appreciate people have different types of relationships, increasingly as I get older the more companion best friend type looks more attractive.

I don't think it's weird though to talk with your best friend about your husband. It's not to me anyway. I am very respectful of him and she is very supportive of the relationship but sometimes a moan to another person is very much appreciated!

Yes he is!!! My rock ,my lover , father to my kids . And he is so smart ,and that's make him so sexy. We've been together 20 years ,married for 14. And my biggest nightmare is when I am loosing him ...I would die too. But he don't know everything about me , I have few secrets ,cos I think everyone need to have little secrets .But maybe it is just me??

No - I think we all need different relationships in our lives, and it would be a waste to invest all one's love and closeness into one person.

Friendship is very important to me.

God, no! As much as I love him my DH he is not my best friend. This came up when we were looking at wedding vows. We both discounted any which promised to be each other's best friend. Probably good we felt the same way really!

He is a very, very good friend. But I don't think I have a "best friend". Haven't really felt like I had since school really. Then had a massive fall out with her and never saw her again :(

We do totally "click" and understand each other but I don't think it's the same as a best friend type bond. It's different :)

yes for the last 32 years anyway.

Absolutely yes!