to feel a bit disgruntled when people claim they couldn't cope?

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I probably am.

It's just like most people have had some rubbish thrown my way, but I unfortunately have NO support network whatsoever, so as a result everything comes down to me.

So I do feel a bit fed up when people say they couldn't cope with working long days plus DCs plus cooking plus work at home ... or say "I couldn't cope without my DP/mum/neighbour."

I know what they mean, but if they had to they would cope, mostly. We all would. Aibu?

Everyone has different levels of resourcefulness so Yabu

twos I'm really sorry to hear about your troubles.
I hope you get much better soon x

Actually some people couldn't cope. If they are on anti depressants and struggling, they may be right that without the support they get they would have a breakdown.

Good grief, it's taken me an age to catch up with this thread .

As I said upthread I kind of 'get' where the OP is coming from.
But I also see how much misery and poor mental and physical health a lot of you have been through .

I think a lot is in how the word 'cope' is being deployed. If I can use a totally unrelated example: 'flu'. "My nose has been running for 3 days, my throat's sore and I feel terrible - I think I've got the flu" - probably not, you're using the word 'flu' but have a 'bad cold'. "I had flu last year and was unable to even crawl out of bed unaided for 10 days" - you probably did have 'proper' influenza.

It's sloppy use of language (which is fine btw, I have no issue with commonly used terms of phrase) and 'coping' can with among them.
Of course some people by their very nature are more resilient than others, some people have a more positive outlook in life, some are more optimistic and able to take a certain amount of adversity on the chin. Others are not and these are often people who feel things very acutely, have very exacting standards on themselves and others.

I once deeply offended somebody by using the word 'personality' as in 'we all have different personalities' which she took to mean that I was implying some kind of personality disorder which I was not. But (whether that's nurture or nature is a whole other discussion to be had) IMO and IME some people are more of a 'glass half full' kind of person and they tend to have an easier life. And must be intensely irritating to those who feel more 'glass half empty' or who have more shit raining down on them.

I admire anybody who keeps on trucking in the face of one blow after another, I really do.
But the social chit-chat of 'Oh, I don't know how you cope, what with not having your finger nails done every 2 weeks', accompanied by a giddy giggle, is just nonsense and irritating. Equally the 'admiration' for what I would consider my fairly 'normal' and in many ways very gilded life just jars with me.

So, to all you survivors of Much Awfulness, but personally from me also some understanding too wrt what I think the OP was getting at.