To be annoyed that someone is selling clothes that I gifted to them

[lollipoppi]

So my DPs cousin had a baby

I mentioned that have tons of clothes from DD that she is welcome to have if she likes which she accepted

When I went round to give her the clothes there were 4 bin bags full. I said for her to go through them in her own time and whatever she doesn't want to just give me back as a few of my friends are also pregnant at the mo and they could be passed on

Anyway il get to the point that she has been selling ALL these clothes on a local selling site in bundles, even clothes that wouldn't even for her DD just yet!

Oh along with her DS1 birthday present that we bought him less than 2 weeks ago!

Did you get a reply OP?

Any reply?

I'm sure she'll just say that she misunderstood!

But I think if you don't see each other regularly, then the onus is on the giver to collect stuff tbh, otherwise it's just giving someone else your stuff to dispose of!

This isn't about the friend's financial situation - I have friends who are really struggling at the moment and they'd still give the clothes back that they didn't want if it meant that someone else could benefit from the op's kindness/generosity. It's not about being really hard up, it's about seeing a quick buck and it takes the absolute piss.

Any update, OP?

Ladies we have a reply!!

She is very sorry but she has given them away to friends/family and hadn't realised I wanted anything back, very sorry ect ect ect

I should probably give her the benefit of the doubt that she maybe misunderstood that I wanted anything back, sleep deprivation can kill the brain cells as I'm sure we all know!

However does not excuse the fact that I know she is lying and that she has not given them away, she has sold them

She is not financially struggling as she has just bragged about booking 2 holidays, which I'm contributing to!

I've learnt my lesson and will keep any further items within my friendship circle where I know they get passed around each other to the next babies

More fool me to think that family comes first

Fucking call her out! Tell her you KNOW she sold them on X and to forget about getting any more hand me downs. And don't buy FA from her.

Well you are a better woman that I to not reply that you can see she is selling them on so would prefer that she stopped and allowed you to have them back as you are outraged that she is trying to profit from your generosity.

Tell her you have seen them advertised.

PLEASE call bullshit to her OP!

Please tell her you know she sold them!

Tell her!

Answer her ad under a different name. Then arrange a time to collect and go get them in person.

I wouldn't be able to stop myself calling her a liar

Yep text her back and say, "that's funny, I saw pictures on x of the clothes I gave you so I know you're selling them. That's fine, you can give me cheque or cash. Thanks"

Not such a good idea to text her about the advertisement given that the OP has already texted her without mentioning that she'd seen them. It makes the OP look less than innocent because she didn't call out this woman immediately.

I'd just drop the friendship.

This happened to me not so long ago. I was furious as she actually ASKED me for my old baby stuff and clothes etc. I posted exactly what I thought on a post selling my Bumbo and the rest of the selling community have her a VERY hard time over it. Made me feel a bit better!

I think you're being very cool about the situation. Weldone OP

I'd have to reply back saying "well could I at least have back the things you've not sold yet, I see there are still some up for sale".

I couldn't just let her continue selling my stuff.

Yes to what Dontcallmedaughter said! Get your stuff back!

I really would have to text back and say that's funny as you saw her selling them. I couldn't leave it like that. She's sold them and then had the even bigger cheek to lie to you. Talk about insult to injury.

Yes, to what Dontcallmydaughter said ;)

Love dontcallmedaughter's reply! Send that, send that!!

How about replying "oh that's ok - can you contact them and say that, once they have finished with them, you would like to have them back as the owner has a friend who is going to have a little girl and she can make use of the stuff too. It's so good that all this stuff has so much use out of it, isn't it?! Can you let me know what age their babies are so I have an idea of time frame that I can pass the stuff along?"

See what she says to THAT!!

Would any of you actually send texts asking for the money from the sale or are you just egging Lollipop on?