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To be annoyed that someone is selling clothes that I gifted to them

190 replies

lollipoppi · 22/01/2014 10:32

So my DPs cousin had a baby

I mentioned that have tons of clothes from DD that she is welcome to have if she likes which she accepted

When I went round to give her the clothes there were 4 bin bags full. I said for her to go through them in her own time and whatever she doesn't want to just give me back as a few of my friends are also pregnant at the mo and they could be passed on

Anyway il get to the point that she has been selling ALL these clothes on a local selling site in bundles, even clothes that wouldn't even for her DD just yet!

Oh along with her DS1 birthday present that we bought him less than 2 weeks ago!

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 22/01/2014 14:51

I'd post on her ads, too.

kitsmummy · 22/01/2014 15:21

Lollipoppi, you have to pull her up on this, it's unacceptable and she needs to know she's been caught out. There's no need to go in all guns blazing, but do let her know that you know about the clothes.

IneedAsockamnesty · 22/01/2014 15:25

Grabby rude behaviour YANBU but you would be if you don't say anything

sebsmummy1 · 22/01/2014 15:32

Thing is by trying to let it go you are still going to lose out as you will end up simmering about it and the resentment will grow.

I think you are going to have to tackle it but I'm not exactly sure how best to do that!

Creamycoolerwithcream · 22/01/2014 16:11

I'd message her and ask for everything back as she clearly doesn't need them as you have noticed she is selling all of them. I would do this quickly before the stuff gets sold.

Original poster
lollipoppi · 22/01/2014 16:20

Ok, I've text her (we're not really the calling type friends/family so she would think its odd if I rang)
I've basically said that one of my friends that I mentioned has found out she is having a girl so if you've finished going through the clothes and kept what you would like then please could I collect the rest at the weekend?

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NewtRipley · 22/01/2014 16:22

Oooh that'll put her on the spot Grin

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking · 22/01/2014 16:25

What a cheeky mare. I would be seriously pissed off if someone done that to me. Good on you for texting her op, Cant wait to hear her reply!

picnicbasketcase · 22/01/2014 16:32

Well done OP. When she tells you the truth, you can tell her how hurt you are that you gave her the clothes for her child to wear and she has repaid the favour by profiting from your kindness. And that you won't be giving her anything else in the future.

Whereisegg · 22/01/2014 16:34

yanbu, and well done on your text!

THERhubarb · 22/01/2014 16:40

Pleeeeeease update when you get a reply!

StealthPolarBear · 22/01/2014 16:41

Lurking to hear the replt

sebsmummy1 · 22/01/2014 16:46

Check the ads to see if they suddenly disappear Grin

Original poster
lollipoppi · 22/01/2014 16:46

Ohhhh the suspense is killing me already!
I promise I will update when she texts back

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RobinSparkles · 22/01/2014 16:55

I could never sell something that had been given to me. I was given some clothes for DD2 off a friend, whose dd had grown out of them and wouldn't be having anymore DC. She told me to do what I liked with them when I was finished.

I did sell some of the DD's old clothes on ebay but I could never have sold the ones that were given. I always donated them to charity or passed them on to other friends. It wouldn't feel right pocketing money from someone else's kindness!

YANBU. I would be upset too.

RobinSparkles · 22/01/2014 16:57

Ooh, I like that you texted her! Well done! I would do the same.

givemeaclue · 22/01/2014 16:57

What if she just says she is keeping it all, thanks v much

yorkie11 · 22/01/2014 17:02

Cheeky mare. Please update when you have a response op please.

NewtRipley · 22/01/2014 17:02

give

Then you hit her with the fact that she's a liar liar pants on fire as well Grin

HMG83 · 22/01/2014 17:05

Well done on the text!

I think it's incredibly rude!

I have a 'friend' who does this. All the baby shower gifts, clothing etc has been put up on a local selling site.

It's just rude. At least put them on ebay so you don't offend the gifter(s)!

Dillydollydaydream · 22/01/2014 17:07

I wonder if she'll tell the truth or make up some story of them accidentally being thrown out mistaken for rubbish or done such nonsense.

sebsmummy1 · 22/01/2014 17:17

Omg dolly. If she blantently lies that will be so much worse!!

zipzap · 22/01/2014 17:18

But la guardia - sury she should have said at the time that she wanted to do that. If somebody says have something if you want to use it but if not, I have somebody else that I want to pass it on to, you don't take it all and sell it without so much as a do you mind...

If anybody is going to profit from the clothes it should be the op - I hope that you ask her for the money to be returned to you, even if it is to buy a nice present for the friend's you were going to pass some of the clothes on to.

If the op had wanted the clothes to be sold she could have done that herself.

And even if she does have need of extra money - in this day and age, don't we all - it doesn't excuse the her rudeness and basic dishonesty in taking something that wasn't hers to take.

Creamycoolerwithcream · 22/01/2014 17:23

I think I need to get out more as I really want to hear what she says.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 22/01/2014 17:23

If she makes something up or tells you she's keeping everything, then you can tell her you know full well she's sold them and you want the money!