Actually, I believe that it is my job as a parent to make myself redundant - in the nicest possible way! By that, I mean that I want my DC to grow up to be competent, capable,confident adults, and I believe that the best way to do that is to encourage and support them to learn skills and take responsibilities gradually and at the pace that is right for them. So my DC (aged 8 and 5) both get themselves dressed in the morning - they know where everything is and it is within reach - they put away their own clean laundry, so they know where it is! We started that by taking a pile of clean and folded laundry to their room with them and literally handing them one type of thing at a time - here are your pants, put them in the basket; here are your school jumpers, put them on the pile in the drawer; etc. We help our youngest in the evening to sort through the uniform he's taken off, and fold what can be worn the next day and put it ready in the corner - he puts the rest in his laundry basket. The next morning he gets the 'clean enough' items from the pile and adds socks, pants, vest etc. DD (8) is perfectly capable of getting herself dressed, and sees it as a privilege that she is considered capable - she gets to choose trousers/skirt, socks/tights, cardigan/jumper. She has to wear it, so she gets to choose it! She has found that it is tricky putting tights on clammy legs after swimming, so chooses socks on a swimming lesson day...
Does your DH feel this way about all the little rights/responsibilities that your DD may be old enough for? Does she have other chores at home? E.g. my two are responsible for setting the table and clearing away to the dishwasher/sink. They don't routinely wash up but can and will if asked - again, DS does the plastic stuff only for now (and it often needs redoing afterwards, but he enjoys feeling considered grown up enough to do it, and it will come with time) but DD does everything that is not too heavy or too delicate. We don't let her handwash our best glasswear, but she has started to be allowed to dry sharp knives after being taught how to do it safely. Both have helped with cooking (stirring, measuring, cutting with table knives, etc.) since they were old enough to stand on a chair to reach, but DD has been asking to be allowed to cook meals independently and we are letting her learn her favourites - including cutting with the sharp knives etc. Both get their own breakfast - toast, cereal, juice - although I help when the 6 pint milk bottle is full because it is too heavy, etc. I'm there, but it is their privilege to be able to choose their preferred cereal from the selection - much more fun than me choosing for them every day.
This has got a bit wordy, but my point is that DC love to learn - I don't feel that I'm forcing them to do anything, but just encouraging them to learn appropriate self-sufficiency. At Brownie pack holiday and on school residentials DD has to choose her own clothes every morning - am I a good parent if I have never helped her to learn to do that for herself? No teacher is going to go around every night and lay 30 sets of clothes out ready for the morning!
In year 7 DD is going to have to get herself to school on the bus, so in year 6 she'll be taking herself to school and back. Since year 3 I've been taking her to the playground and then taking DS into his classroom, just popping back to check DD has got herself into the classroom OK before I leave. And by the time they are 18 and, probably, go off to uni they'll be able to do their own cooking, cleaning, washing, budgeting, time management, and be able to think through the consequences and make choices that come to the outcome they want/need. Not because I've given them a six-week crash course over the summer holiday but because they've learnt those skills gradually and in a supported way.
Sure, they'll shrink some clothes along the way and no doubt turn a few white shirts pink, but that's part of the fun of growing up. When did your DH get the opportunity to choose his own pants in the morning? Can you think of this as a family as a good thing - a privilege rather than a punishment?