If you could pay someone to carry & deliver your children for you, would you?

[Queeniethecorgi]

I read an article with Oona King's surrogate today where she stated that Oona told her that 'she felt lucky as she didn't have to be the one to push it out'.

I'm childfree, but have read on here what childbirth and pregnancy does to your body, even when it goes well-- and the long lasting effects of when it goes wrong.

I think the only biological benefit for women is a reduced risk of cancer from breastfeeding?

So if you could still have your children but not have had to carry & deliver them yourself, would you? And as we've already suspended disbelief once, let's say you could feed them breast milk as well.

Yes, I didn't enjoy being pregnant one bit, especially towards the end.

I hated pregnancy but giving birth was never too bad. My tooth abscess was more painful.

I think being pregnant with and giving birth to your children is an irreplaceable feeling, it is the only time you will ever feel that way and its wonderful when they hand you the baby. I don' think you get the same if you don't do it yourself.

Have to say I thought this thread was about some sort of child butler/chauffeur service.

Never. I loved being pregnant and was gutted I didn't get to push baby out as I had an ECS

No, I loved being pg.

I wouldn't let anyone else carry/deliver them. There are lots of benefits to being pregnant...I felt like I was bonding with them even whilst pregnant...it was an amazing time for me.

I am a jealous type of person and would be insanely jealous to think of another woman being pregnant with my children.

I feel quite sick also at the thought of someone else bf them.

I hated being pregnant, but I would not like someone else carrying my baby. One of the few things I liked was the kicks and watching my stomach grow. Giving birth was amazing experience

I hated being pregnant, had HG, protein in wee, induced labour, very quick and overwhelming labour where I thought I might actually die, baby got stuck, forceps, infection etc etc, but the feeling you get when they move inside you is worth it ALL. Doing it all again right now and crying some days because I feel so shit, but the feeling of the moving is just incredible. So even though I would like to have a surrogate, no I wouldnt

I had shitty pregnancies, was hospitalized many times in each for hyperemesis, my liver started to fail, my teeth fell apart but I'd still rather do it myself although I did think twice after the first one

I liked being pregnant and for me at least , [those 3] 9 month pregnancies were spent building up the bonding process, wouldn't have missed it for the world.

I hated being pregnant, I hated what it did to my body, the constant joint pain and inability to sleep, peeing every five seconds. The only thing putting me off having more children is the thought of being pregnant again.

However I didn't mind the labour I had a pretty long labour (about 30 hours) but I felt it was quite easy. I wouldn't mind doing an exchange where someone else was pregnant for me and then I gave birth for them.

This is the thing, I'm not sure I could ever sacrifice my teeth. They're really precious to me! As is my continence, ability to walk (spd?) and general health...

No. Liked being pregnant. Liked giving birth. :)

Lighthearted answer, yes - where are they delivering them to??
Serious answer, no - I didn't have really easy pregnancies but no major complications and I wouldn't have missed any of it for the world.

I clicked this thinking you meant 'do the school run etc'. In that case it would be a resounding "YES". Oh God, yes.

Maybe. But if I had the money, I would get a round the clock nanny(ies) to help. The first 3, or so, years KILL.

Sacrifice your teeth??

My teeth, continence, and general health didn't seem to have suffered. I also never got joint pain.

No. Loved all of it. Apart from DD1 being premature, I didn't like that much, but that could have just as easily happened with a surrogate.

I wouldn't pay someone no.

But I would gladly share the morning sickness, heartburn, labour and nighttime weeing with DH in a heartbeat.

I've already made and delivered one baby so he can do the next thanks.

This is it, you don't know what kind of pregnancy you'll get, most of my friends have sailed through it.

If I had the money I'd rather get a full time night nanny and a cleaner. I found having a newborn much more of a sacrifice to my health what with the sleep deprivation (still on going) and never having enough time or hands to eat.

I hated being pregnant. I hated labour (even though I was lucky and both were very straightforward). But I wouldn't want someone else doing it for me because I am a control freak and it would deny me nine months of self indulgent whinging

Well my daughter is a surrogate baby so .....

No way. There is something so incredibly special about looking at my dd and knowing that I was lucky enough to be able to grow her. I am in awe of how my body put her together cell by cell until she was this perfect little miniature human. It was worth the awful sickness, spd and my ruined body. I feel so blessed to have experienced pregnancy I would never give that up.

I would. Hated being pregnant and what it has done to me body. And I had x2 carsareans and an intact fanjo. Can't even imagine how much worse id feel about it if there was a tear thrown in too. In fact I'd go so far as to say if we have dc3 it would probably be either adoption or surrogacy. I like the idea of having another but really really don't want to go through another pregnancy.