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Please tell me if i was in the wrong here, need an outside perspective

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RandomUsername · 18/01/2014 21:14

DH was at work this morning so was up at 4am

DS is away for the night so DHs plans where to get some beers in, watch the football then watch a film (both of is)

Now, DH has form for being a cunt when pissed so as soon as he mentions getting drink I can feel the anxiety.

After the football he asks me what I want to watch so I say the horror film. He says he was looking forward to the other film son I say "well just put what you want on, I'll watch either" i wasn't actually interested in the other film but like I said, I know he can be a cunt when pissed so I feel like I'm on eggshells.

He puts the horror film on. Half way through the film he's falling asleep, I say "are you not watching this with me?" He says "no, its shit" so I say "well in don't really want to watch it on my own" and knock it off.

He's absolutely fuming, slamming doors and saying I've ruined his Saturday night because I wanted to watch that film but I've knocked it off half way through, he could have watched his film, now its too late to put his film on because he's too tired.

He's made me feel fucking bad that he's been up since 4am for work, and now his night is ruined, he's called me a stupid bitch etc

Was I wrong? I told him to put what he wanted on, he put my film on

He was falling asleep, so what difference did it make to him if I carried on watching the film or knocked it off and watched Come fucking Dine With Me??

Accuses me of sitting here "with fucking puppy dog eyes" whilst he's ranting and raving. Then storms off to bed slamming the door on his way.

Honestly, is he being unreasonable or am I a complete bitch?

OP posts:
Onesiegoddess · 20/01/2014 06:28

I agree with giving him an ultimatum

BratinghamPalace · 20/01/2014 07:26

Record him. On your phone. Wait until he is sober and you are both on an even keel and then play it for him. Do not play it in anger or in an "I told you so". Play it for the sake of your relationship and your well being. What he does after that will decide your future. Good luck.

BratinghamPalace · 20/01/2014 08:05

Obviously without being seen. All you need is the audio.

Osmiornica · 20/01/2014 10:46

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HaroldLloyd · 21/01/2014 14:30

I remember reading that David Hasslehoffs daughter videoed him in a shambolic drunken state and that gave him the kick up the arse he needed to seek help.

Not sure if its true, but its a good idea if he genuinely dosent realise how awful he is.

I bet he has some idea though.

Thatisall · 21/01/2014 14:39

walking in egg shells?? OP he sounds like an utter twat, has he always been like this? I mean, was he this way when you committed to having a child with him because wow! You owe it to yourself to insist in better treatment and a more pleasant home life. What if your dc start acting this way towards you because 'daddy does it'?

Thatisall · 21/01/2014 14:40

Bratingham good call

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