to call this person out for this?

[BunnyLebowski]

I realise it's FB and therefore a silly problem but.

Jeremy Fuckface Clarkson posted a vile picture to his twitter today of his equally hateful Top Gear colleagues holding a sign saying 'Gay cunt' next to his ugly sleeping mush .

He promptly deleted the photo.

A relatively new FB friend (fellow mum on school run) has just shared it. With a smiley face.

I am livid and tempted to comment. The use of gay as a pejorative term is one of my major bugbears and is, imo, completely unacceptable.

She has form for making me . She referred to a little mixed race boy in our DDs class as a 'half boy' in a conversation we had and I was too to even process let alone challenge what she said.

I have to see her every day. She seemed like a nice person.

WWYD?

Just unfriend her, it's up to her what she puts on her own page even if it does make her look like a knob.

ugh, what an ignorant woman. I would unfriend her and distance myself from her socially. I couldn't be friends with someone like that and it's not because I'm gay, I wouldn't anyway.

It's so shocking to me because she really does/did seem like a nice person. I have basically no friends and was delighted to find someone a bit alternative like me who I had stuff in common with.

These FB incidents indicate that we might not have some very basic things in common .

I'm quite a principled person and have a history of instantly deleting anyone who lets their inner sexist/racist/homophobe show through.

But our daughters are friends and we meet them on the school run every morning and walk into school with them so unfriending would lead to inevitable awkwardness.

Gah!

Defriend.

Just because she is friends with your dd does not mean you must be her friend too.

Just hide her posts and continue as you are. You have realised that the potential good friendship isn't going to work out, but that doesn't mean you can't just rub along with her. You just change your expectations and this person becomes a acquaintance rather than a friend.

Life would be very boring if we never had to come across people with a different attitude to our own.

I would over something more trivial WooWoo but I am really struggling to accept casual homophobia and racism as acceptable different opinions.

some people find the picture funny just because its not your humour doesnt make her not a nice person.

I think you'll actually feel better if you defriend her. But if that really will cause lots of problems you can hide her fb posts so you don't see them. And of course keep her at arms' length in RL.

I too find that really funny...Jeremy Clarkson committing career suicide by posting offensive photos.

Sadly, she probably found the actual photo funny.

Nope, I would call her out on it, each and every time.

I always do,

I can't stand it when people don't tell people that they are being out of order,

If every time she said something hateful, everyone told her she was being vile, eventually she would have a word with herself and change her thinking.or disappear off to the far side fuckty fuck

A wise woman once said, "If you haven't made a few enemies in life, then you are a coward."

Just because it's something you don't find funny, doesn't mean she isn't a nice person. She can post whatever she likes. Defriend her if it bothers you that much.

Just because it's something you don't find funny, doesn't mean she isn't a nice person

Umm, yes it does if the stuff is homophobic / racist, that pretty much excludes being 'nice'

Suzanne are you huffing glue??

Thanks for the input sensible people .

I'd be offended at having to look at a pic of Jeremy Clarkson regardless of the caption.

Delete her, she's a wanker

Yes Suzanne, please catch a grip.

I agree that you should say something. My God, people shouldn't expect to be able to put stuff like this on what they show to parade themselves, without expecting to be challenged by comments. It doesn't need to be something provocative but by just de friending, you aren't explaining what you're objecting to.

I'd add a link to Ash Beckham who has a speech that is really light hearted & shows how the use of gay as any pejorative term is wrong. There's no hot headedness about it & it you could just post it with a 'thought you should have a look at this ;)' type comment & see what happens from there. There are a lot of 'people pleasers' who will sponge up whatever one other person has told them & if nobody challenges things that they find unsavoury, how are ignorant people going to get educated? (There are a lot of ignorant but lovely people)

Btw, I never liked JC but took a violent dislike to him when pregnant with ds-4. Cannot look at his ugly face or hear his ugly voice. Don't want vomit anymore but can't abide him.

She sounds delightful. Just unfriend and steer clear. People like that can't be taught to be decent unfortunately.

Help!

The Mumsnet PC Brigade are marching towards my castle with pitchforks and flaming torches!

I reckon she's been 'taught' to be a bigot so she can be 'taught' to be decent, maybe. I'm a reasonable person & my opinions are constantly altered by things I read especially from people I respect.

Half boy?!

WTAF?

Defriend the twat.

evelyn. I used to try and change people's opinions on matters like these but in 90% of cases it just couldn't be done. Rather than considering what I had to say I was written off as a snob, patronising, PC brigade, stuck up, out of touch, stupid. I made a decision a year ago that unless I really thought that my opinion would matter to them, I just cut the bigots, racists, homophobes off. My life has been so much more pleasant since then.

I'm going to print out a copy of that photo, tippex over the 'gay' and write 'miserable' in it's place.

Then I'm going to point it at a few heads on this thread and put the pics on FB.

suzanne. Do you have any gay friends/relatives? Or are you gay?

SuzanneUk. WTAF?