to not think my new baby girl is beautiful?

[Monkeyandanimal]

Am i missing something? Surely i'm her mother, the hormones should be blinding me into seeing her as a beauty. Yes she's cute, she looks like a baby bird, all baldy with a few fuzzy bits on top. I love her to bits, she's a dream baby, way easier than her two big brothers were. But she's not pretty. I know she will be! Am I an unnatural parent for seeing her how she is!?

My DD was like a bulldog when she was born - i was a bit :( for all of about two minutes :) She was massive, with a screwed up face - she is seriously beautiful now, at 8 and I look at her and worry that she is almost too pretty and not want to leat her out of the house when shes older!

My sister looked like what I can only imagine Phil Mitchell will look like when he's in his 80s - but a teeny tiny version. She was stunning when she'd grown a little.

I looked like a gorgeous little doll - but this meant everyone expected me to be like that forever and the expectations were too high - especially when I became a little bruiser! I still got the "what happened?" looks from relatives well into my teens! Hahah.

YANBU

DO NOT feel you're an unnatural parent- of course you aren't, you are just being honest.

DD1 was not a beauty at birth, everything was so long and pointy! People would coo and ahh at how georgeous she was and I was thinking "what cant I see, she looks like a long pointy thing". She's now a stunning 23 year old, who's been model scouted a few times.

Just keep cuddling her- I'm very jealous

My mum once told me my brother looked like a cross between a potato and a goblin when he was born.

By three months though, he was beautiful! And had blonde curly hair and huge blue eyes until he was about six.

She doesn't have to be pretty and you have know way of knowing that she will be...but what does it matter?

MY DS2 was the last turkey in the shop when it came to scrawny and even the Midwives said he looked like Rod Stewart

He's now a scrawny, gangly, scruffy teenager and I still love him to bits

'no' way of knowing

YANBU!

Babies are beautiful by definition, not by actual appearance.

YANBU. I didn't think my DS was ugly, but he was nothing special tbh

Around the 8 week mark he started to look like a proper person with defined features and I started to think, oh he's actually quite nice looking.

All uphill since then! He's gorgeous now

My very first thought when I saw my first born was "Omg he is huge!" Quickly followed by "Oh dear. He isnt very pretty."

Both my babies were funny looking things when they popped out.

By day 3 ds1 look stunning. But it took a little longer for poor DS2. Good few weeks rather than day.

Now both of them are gorgeous.

Though obviously I loved him even when he looked like Kim Jong Un.

When DD was born she looked like Heather Trott from Eastenders. I remember telling myself that she was my daughter and I loved her regardless!! My first DD and my DS were beautiful straight away so it was a bit of a shock!!

She is quite possibly the most beautiful thing I have ever seen now- she's nearly 6 months.

DS looked like a Ribena berry Huge, bloated and purple. After a 60 hour labour to get all 10lb 5oz of him out, I hadn't even got the energy to hide my feelings

DD looked like voldermort
I was besotted but still very much aware that she wasn't "beautiful".

I think the majority of newborns are fairly ugly until they start getting their features and they're the most gorgeous little bundles!

Okay I worded it wrong. I do not think the OP is an 'unnatural mother' I mean I don't think it's natural to think about looks especially with babies.

Sorry OP for if I sounded unpleasant and congratu

• Congratulations (I can't even type gosh)

My first two things I said about DD when seeing her for the first time were "oh she looks like her father" and "why is her nose all spotty" . She is now 3 and the most beautiful child ever.

Oh, but i think it is very natural and normal to think about looks jimmy. Even with babies. Dd was a beautiful baby, i remember the doctor after her birth commenting about her looks and i thought he must have joking. When they put her on my chest i told them she was not mine, i honestly expected a wrinkley baby but one thing i can tell you op is i did not bond with her at all. I felt like someone had given birth and handed her over to me, why? I have no idea, maybe because of the not so lovely birth which ended as with an emcs.
By the way, you are very normal and congratulations...

Must have been joking..

My daughter was long and straggly with a mahoosive head....not at all pretty.

She is nearly 23 now and absolutely gorgeous!

Otoh, all the doctors told me how beautiful Ds was and I just couldn't see it. They swore he was the prettiest baby ( no acne, no crumpled up bits, that pale ivory skin you see on v sick children). Now I look at the photos, he was pretty.

6 months later I thought he was lovely and my heart still goes flip at the sight of thosr photos.

Haha no you aren't missing something - I had the opposite though! With dd1 I thought she was the most beautiful thing I ever saw - looking back now she was a small scrunched little yellow thing but I just didn't see it! I do remember thinking she didn't look like a little girl though - this sounds odd but one of the other mums in the ward had a little girl and she looked like a girl and dd didn't.

With dd2 I was just so worried she was going to be okay I don't remember thinking anything about her though.

agree with scaevola! mine were gorgeous anyway

My DD2 had pointy Spock ears when she was born. I was quite surprised by them as no one else in the family has them.

After about a week they unfurled and it turned out they were round after all, she must have been all squashed in there.

Thanks Jimmy, and all! I love these descriptions of less-than-beautiful babies! Very funny. Actually, mine is nearly 6 weeks now, so not even brand new.