Scalded son, mother punishing grandparent, is this reasonable?

[vr6lee]

My mother had an accident with my son, to cut a long story short the kettle ended up being pulled from the worktop by my son while in her arms, this ended up scalding the bottom of his leg and top of his foot ending in a skin graft.
My mother is devastated and has really struggled with whats happened. But my girlfriend is not helping at all. She has said she doesn't want her near my son again and will never look after him again. I have talked her round and my mun has been able to see my son a few times. There is tension between my girlfriend and my mother now so I have offered to take my son up to my mothers so she can see him as she really does love him to bits. But my girlfriend has poo poo'ed this and says the only way she is seeing him is at our house when she is present.
I think this is undermining me as a father as I have said I would be present at all times just to ease her mind, but I can now only come to one conclusion and that she is doing this to punish my mother by making it as difficult as possible for her to see her grandson.

My question to other mothers is do you think this is fair behavior or is she being very harsh.

Thanks in advance for any opinions.

Lee

[cansu]

Unless your mum has form for being flaky about safety, she is being unreasonable. Yes I totally understand how she feels, but it was an accident and I am pretty sure your mum will be very very careful from now on. Ask her how she would have reacted if you had been holding your son at the time. She is allowed to be protective and cautious about leaving her in sole charge, but you absolutely should be able to take your ds to see your mum.

[WellErrr]

Funny, I was just wondering that the other day Imperial. I've no idea though.

[AdrenalineFudge]

Imperial I was thinking exactly the same thing. She was the first person to respond to my first ever thread when I initially joined MN. A thoughtful, considerate poster with a sense of humour and great energy. I think she abandoned ship tbh as I'd like to think it would have been quite clear from posts if she was under a new NN.

[SauvignonBlanche]

Why would anyone expect an update after two fucking years?

[Iknownuffink]

Because google sometime direct people here to old threads.

It has happened to me umpteen times.

[LordoftheTits]

Argh, this is a daily occurrence now

[ohtheholidays]

I'm not surprised honestly I think I would most probably be the same OP.

That is an awful awful thing to happen your poor little boy he must have been in so much pain,I hope he's doing okay now.

I think the only thing you can do is give your girlfriend time.

[ohtheholidays]

Oh bollocks,I only read the first page.

[LordoftheTits]

I think the only thing you can do is give your girlfriend time.

The thread is two years old if that counts?

[HeffalumpHistory]

Fucking hell!! Read half a thread before I saw the date
What's with all the zombie threads being bumped this week?
There's a big fuck off zombie next to the comment box to alert you

[didyoureally]

You sound like a great dad, well-informed and hands-on - unlike a lot of the dads who are discussed on here! and I think you are to be commended for trying to make sense of the situation. I understand the shock of the terrible accident, but can't help feeling that it would have subsided by now rather than escalating. Given the history between your GF and DM, I think that your GF is possibly prolonging the situation as the burn has given her a valid piece of ammunition against your DM. It must be so hard for you in the middle of all this. I think they both need a good talking to so that you can move forwards positively. Do you have any sensible and impartial friends or relations who could have a word with your GF and DM? (individually probably best!)

[AmyGMumsnet]

Hi everyone

Thanks for your posts - just wanted let you know that we've now prevented this thread from appearing in Trending

[Teddy1970]

My MIL fed my baby boy food heated straight out of the microwave, didn't test the temperature and he burnt the inside of his mouth quite badly...I was livid, I couldn't really think about her feelings at the time because I was so angry at her lack of common sense, It's not as if she doesn't know, she's got three grown up children of her own and 5 grandchildren. Once I'd calmed down it was fine, she double checks any food now! I see where your GF is coming from, but she needs time to calm down and perhaps have a chat with your mum about it?

[Teddy1970]

Same here Heffalump Doh!