To not like unexpected guests??

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Does anyone else get annoyed by people just 'dropping by' at their homes without any prior warning? I have several family members who will just turn up whenever they like, I would never do this but DM has the attitude that family should just be able to come round whenever. I mean, I'm usually happy to have people round for a coffee or whatever, and I understand that family want to see the DC's but am AIBU to expect at least a text beforehand checking if it's ok?? There's been times before where the kids have been having dinner/house has been tip/me and DP have been having a 'disagreement' and a family member has turned up in the midst of it! Surely I'm not the only one who finds this irritating?

Yes I hate it too, I'm not even that keen on my house phone going in the evening either, I prefer to communicate via the medium of text or telepathy

I hate it!! My sister calls round unexpectedly loads of times, usually at meal times.

I'd never do it to people - a text would let you know if it was convenient/

I think it partly depends on how you see your home and its purpose.

I see mine as somewhere safe (ish) to get away from everyone and everything. So visitors aren't exactly part of the plan.

Other people want their home to be a place filled with people and jollity and so I imagine they just want people to come round all the time.

I would go INSANE

I agree Rooners - I don't think I'm inhospitable or unkind to friends, but I know I'm an introvert and it's quite unbalancing to get a popper-inner. It sounds really lame I know but unexpected guests can throw me (not all the time) to the point I feel anxious

Popper inners at mealtimes are the worst. I have an annoying popper that does this on purpose. I'm not his fecking mother. One of dh's single friends always popped in at 7ish after he'd been to his parents for a Sunday roast. Selfish shithead manchildren.

Don't make the mistake I did of giving parents a spare key. Even if I try to pretend to be out, they waltz on in anyway

Either you are one of life's popper-inners or you're not. The two will never understand one another.

YADNBU. I HATE it when people just drop by. I find it so rude. I would never dream of turning up at someone's house uninvited

YADNBU

I bloody hate it.
In this day and age you have so many ways to contact people and you just want to turn up uninvited?
Then they moan if you weren't in like you're supposed to be a mind reader, or something.
Plus it's always someone you can't stand the sight of even if you've invited decided you can put up with them .. Yes exp nephew you arrogant little arsehole who only turn up when you want your bike fixed for free... I'm looking at you and thinking you're the best reason for him now being an ex...

I hate this. Luckily it doesn't happen often but my parents had an open house policy and people were forever dropping in. When I was home alone I used to ignore the door in the hopes they'd go away. Came unstuck once when one of my mum's friends let herself in with her own key (to our house!) and found my sitting in front of the tv - ignoring the door!

YADNBU hate it the PILs are serial popper inners always as I'm putting the hours to prepare Sunday roast on the table. Cue the DCs refusing to eat and DH inhaling his in under a minute so as not to appear rude! They just walk in as well no knocking or out I'm going to take to doing naked Sundays to make a point!

I love it but then I am really happy to tell visitors that it's not a good time to visit if it isn't IYSWIM
I am happy my friends feel comfortable to call around uninvited.

I hate this too. Thankfully it very rarely happens now. I'm not one to hide my feelings and I fear I've frightened them all off

I absolutely LOVE it when someone pops round for a quick cuppa/chat. Doesn't bother me at all. I wish they did it more often. Sundays are for family and friends. They don't have to call/text, just pop round, I'll find a biscuit and a cup of coffee.
I am genuinely delighted. I am a feeder, stay with me in the kitchen and while you're drinking your coffee I'll whip up a meal if some sorts, you have to eat something!
Equally, you might find me in the middle of ironing, in which case you know where the kitchen is, make us both a cup, I'll finish this off. Or be asked to lend a hand with assembling pieces of furniture, painting, washing the car. I really don't mind.
Can you tell I used to live on a street full of relatives? DH calls this 'your latin weirdness' but tolerates it in good humour due to lack of choice.

It doesnt bother me on the whole. I like company and if im busy i get them to brew up.

Odd times its been inconvenient.