To just want to call people by their names?

[Geckos48]

Okay I know a group of women who, though I speak to very few of them, wish to be called by their 'fairy' names

One of them who I am stil in contact with, is insisting that I call her by (an obviously made up) name that she has chosen for herself.

I find this hard for a number of reasons;

1. I don't think of her as a 'pixie' or a 'fairy' or whatever so when I am talking to her it is natural to call her by the name I have know her by for around 10 years.

1. I don't know that that this perpetual childlike image these women are portraying is necessarily something I want to support either directly or indirectly

3 I just think it's a bit weird (if I'm honest)

I had a conversation with her last night, which felt a bit tense to be honest and it came up that she wants me to call her bluebell or whatever the hell it is.

AIBU to just not do this? Knowing it will likely end whatever friendship we still have? We are very different people now, she gets her political views from Russell Brand and 'doesn't appreciate debate' so I've already had to hide her posts in Facebook just because I can't stand to see her writing about stuff she doesn't quite get and being unable to justify it in any way.

Also, we are all hurtling towards our thirties now, is rather disparaging at the dreams and ideas we have regarding buying our own property and instead focusing (still) on travelling and living in the moment

I wouldnt be able to stop laughing

Oh apparently life isn't at all hard if you just think positively and sparkly about every single situation.

If you think sparkly? Fucking hell.

I am so unimpressed by my fairy name:

My fairy name is
Fidget Willowspider
She casts weird dreams. She lives in rotting woodlands near poisonous toadstools. She can only be seen when the dry seed cases pop. She wears red with white spots, like toadstools and has delicate green coloured wings like a cicada.

I should own up to the fact that I have 4 pairs of fairy wings (left over from my teens), which I do wear on occasion: Only for fancy dress or festivals though.

I do know some people similar to this in real life, but have defriended now. They are rather cliquey and flirt with every man they come across. Having said that, even they don't insist on everyone else calling them fairy names.

Yes they are very 'jump on your man' I have to say, a couple of them particularly.

When I first got together with DH one of them used to ignore him, literally refuse to speak to him because he wasn't cool enough for her or whatever, then we hooked up and at a mutual friends house she answered the door to him and flung her arms around him in a dramatic fashion and pressed herself up against him.

His face over her shoulder was an absolute picture.

They are very very flirty, which is rather odd for a 29 year old dressed up in 5 year old fancy dress. What is equally odd is how many men seem to dribble over them blowing bubbles and whatnot.

I have another friend who does faery burlesque and for some reason that doesn't bother me at all, she does it as a woman and has a stage name but calls herself by her normal name the rest of the time.

I am glad though, that people agree it doesnt sit right, I was told quite clearly I was BU not to call her by her faery name and that if i didnt it showed what a negative person I am and that she needs to fill her life with 'positive sparkly people' Of course when she was stranded and needed a lift home, place to stay and some food to eat she was more than happy to come and see us, knowing full well that I was no way on earth ever going to call her by her faery name because I have said exactly the same thing to her friends.

I feel a bit used to be honest, treated badly by someone who talks of sparkles and positivity but used my good nature to basically use me and then bring up something she knew we disagreed on and make that a decider in our relationship.

You may want to find her some arse sparklies, to make it easier when you tell her where to shove them. She sounds horrendous.

It actually all starts to sound rather creepy and unnerving ... like in those American high school movies about the evil "it" group. Urgggh

Couldn't resist a fairy name change

If fairy dust is cheaper than petrol, I might well be persuaded into this whole fairy thing.

I'm sorry OP but all I can imaging is five you you sat in a coffee shop, them all dressed as 5 year olds faeries and you all casual in a mumsnet scarf

Oh, and My fairy name is
Cherry Agaricglitter
She brings hallucinations. She lives in fruit orchards and vineyards. She can only be seen in the light of a shooting star. She wears red, cerise and purple berry colours and has russet-coloured wings like a brightly coloured butterfly.

fairy.namegeneratorfun.com/

Do it!!I'm Columbine Winddancer.

OP, everything you say about these distinctly odd women made me think of something mentioned on another thread ages ago - Folie à deux. Because to me they sound completely delusional. I am impressed with your ability to not scream 'Get a life you sad gits!' at them. And the ability of your local Costa's staff to keep a straight face.

PS : My fairy name is Petal Agaricfrost

Fairy burlesque.

I want to see that.

Do you, LR? I want to run away screaming from it!

Actually, on reflection, Doctrine, you're right.