To just want to call people by their names?

[Geckos48]

Okay I know a group of women who, though I speak to very few of them, wish to be called by their 'fairy' names

One of them who I am stil in contact with, is insisting that I call her by (an obviously made up) name that she has chosen for herself.

I find this hard for a number of reasons;

1. I don't think of her as a 'pixie' or a 'fairy' or whatever so when I am talking to her it is natural to call her by the name I have know her by for around 10 years.

1. I don't know that that this perpetual childlike image these women are portraying is necessarily something I want to support either directly or indirectly

3 I just think it's a bit weird (if I'm honest)

I had a conversation with her last night, which felt a bit tense to be honest and it came up that she wants me to call her bluebell or whatever the hell it is.

AIBU to just not do this? Knowing it will likely end whatever friendship we still have? We are very different people now, she gets her political views from Russell Brand and 'doesn't appreciate debate' so I've already had to hide her posts in Facebook just because I can't stand to see her writing about stuff she doesn't quite get and being unable to justify it in any way.

Also, we are all hurtling towards our thirties now, is rather disparaging at the dreams and ideas we have regarding buying our own property and instead focusing (still) on travelling and living in the moment

Hilarious!

Just showed DH the thread and he is giggling because we always always always see them in Costa with oversized lattes and glittery faces.

Next time we see them I think we will just explode with laughter and have to run away.

Moth Beamfrost. That is my fairy name.

Who knew?

Also I have had her posts on Facebook hidden for some time. They aren't at all interesting.

I love fairies, don't pretend to be one though. Anyway, a few years back mum and I used to play a fairy game on facebook I .think the game linked to that name generator, I had a not fairy called Thorn Hailtree, IIRC.

Using my name, and being female, My fairy name is Fruitpip Snowglow

She brings peace between enemies. She lives in stony places and tumbling wastes. She can only be seen in the light of a full moon. She wears a heather-coloured dress and has shining pale blue wings like a cicada.

I'll admit, I quite like it, and have been told more than once than I'm a good peacemaker.

I'd be seriously tempted to use the fairy name but fall about laughing every time.

Ponders why my local Costa is full of screaming kids and grumpy parents...

So my fairy name is Hemlock Hailfilter! I think I'm deeply offended.

the go to costa dressed as fairies

spiderlight Mon 06-Jan-14 09:37:46
I am Moth Vineshimmer

OY! I am Moth Vineshimmer.

[invites spider light outside for a bout of fairy fisticuffs]

On the picture on the Facebook page I love the woman with the buggy who has her head down and is blatantly just trying to get past as quickly as possible before someone sprinkles her with fairy dust.

Fucking hell. I've seen it all now.

I'm Heather Goldtree

I am Meadow Corndancer, a lovely hippie fairy name. I live where the wild flowers grow and bring bounty and fruitfulness . Which is nice considering my Mumsnet name above means hairy caterpillar.

Don't worry about the Jobcentre. Come in and ask for Petal Reedtree

I love the way when you go on the fairy name generator, a pop-up ad for addiction therapy appears.

but when i go on it, an ad for 'online helpdesk software' ad comes up echt

Nah

I much prefer My Star Wars name:

Baten Fodblie
A Droid Dealer from The Haruun Kal Sector

Bollocks to this gossamer wing'ed shite. I gotta sell some artoo units. Wanna buy?

Heather Windshimmer.

I am an 80's lipstick.

They have every right to ask to be called whatever they like. If you don't want to do it, don't bloody speak to them - you clearly don't respect (or even like, by the sound of it) them anyway. And btw, I agree, it IS WEIRD!

well, I can't call em 'twinklebottom' or whatever it is, I just end up second guessing every conversation because I just dont think of them like that.

The one I was speaking to earlier has made it clear that she doesnt want to speak to me if I can't call her by her 'new' name which is fine.

I think it is quite odd she doesn't want to speak to you if you don't call her by a made up name. Is she legally changing it?

Bindweed Windfilter here - might not name change yet. So distracted that I had to re-sort the washing. I now know where my washing and cleaning fairy is - having coffee in Costa.

she talked about legally changing it but I said to her then that when you change your name by Deed Poll and then you travel to other countries you make your visa application massively longer because they want to know why you've changed your name.

I hope she doesnt, it will make life loads more difficult for her

Meant to say that if she changes it by deed poll she will need to be known by her new name. Probably easier to ease out of the friendship with just occasional updates for us!