To just want to call people by their names?

[Geckos48]

Okay I know a group of women who, though I speak to very few of them, wish to be called by their 'fairy' names

One of them who I am stil in contact with, is insisting that I call her by (an obviously made up) name that she has chosen for herself.

I find this hard for a number of reasons;

1. I don't think of her as a 'pixie' or a 'fairy' or whatever so when I am talking to her it is natural to call her by the name I have know her by for around 10 years.

1. I don't know that that this perpetual childlike image these women are portraying is necessarily something I want to support either directly or indirectly

3 I just think it's a bit weird (if I'm honest)

I had a conversation with her last night, which felt a bit tense to be honest and it came up that she wants me to call her bluebell or whatever the hell it is.

AIBU to just not do this? Knowing it will likely end whatever friendship we still have? We are very different people now, she gets her political views from Russell Brand and 'doesn't appreciate debate' so I've already had to hide her posts in Facebook just because I can't stand to see her writing about stuff she doesn't quite get and being unable to justify it in any way.

Also, we are all hurtling towards our thirties now, is rather disparaging at the dreams and ideas we have regarding buying our own property and instead focusing (still) on travelling and living in the moment

She's still friends with DH on Facebook so if you really need to hear the latest Buddhist quote on living life to the full or what not then I am more than happy to update you!

These people sound bizarre.

Having a "stage name" as a children's entertainer is one thing and perfectly fine - the wackier the better. But, let's be honest, very few of them want to be known as Bozo The Clown or Crazy Barry or whatever to their mates down the pub.

echt I had a stanna stairlift advert ?! I'm in my 30's !!

My fairy name is
Heather Snowwitch
She brings peace between enemies. She lives close to ancient monuments and stone circles. She can only be seen in the enchanted moment between sleep and waking. She wears pale blue like the sky and has shining pale blue wings like a cicada.

well... who knew

hours of fun if I was a man I would have been thorn moonstrap

Thank you for the link Geckos I liked her poem and I agree with it. I listened to a few others the 'Campaign Against Page 3' was good too.

I am North Willowglow! I quite like it really. Kind of fiesty but also mellow.

How much does it cost to change your name by deedpoll?

Oooh, I'm going for a job interview tomorrow! I've got the business skirt and the jacket and the new haircut- a fairy name was the one thing I was missing!!!

Watch out HoD, here comes Buttercup Heartglow! She casts love spells (I am sure you can do with a few of those around your department). She lives in clover fields where fairy rings grow. She can only be seen in the light of a full moon (ah, possibly inconvenient if you want me to do conference presentations). She wears bright clover green and has colourful cerise wings like a bright butterfly (well, perhaps a navy skirt and jacket was a little unimaginative...).

I think you are missing something very important Geckos. They are Faeries, not your common or garden fairies.

Its really cheap to change your name by deed poll!

They are great children's entertainers but one of the ex boyfriends once told me how weird it was that he had to keep calling her by her 'name' even when they were intimate. Poor guy seemed very put out by it!

In true 'faery' style she broke his heart. Textbook

I'm Olive Heartfly which sounds like a Mediterranean pest.

Briar Vinewitch here - which makes me sound prickly, clingy and vengeful. Not my idea of faerie (or even fairy) attributes!

Jesus Christ why did I do dry January? Sorry WTAF?

I think my DH is going to divorce me after I told him;

Your fairy name is
Cuckoo Quillsplatter
He watches over the birds.
He lives where bracken and curling ferns grow.
He can only be seen when the bees swarm and the crickets chirrup.
He wears leafy bracken-green and has lemon coloured butterfly wings.

These women can't have enough to do and need a bite of a reality sandwich surely. Disengage for your own mental health before they adopt a name for you! The ancestors of these women, who kept the factories and farms and everything running during two world wars must be spinning in their graves!

I wish they would keep Buddhism out of it, I can't see the Dali Lama putting on a pair of ears, fairy wings and dancing about in a petal inspired tutu.

I would quite like to, though

Geckos48. 'Change their names by deed poll' It would be better to change their names TO deed poll than some made up name faery name.
Self indulgent weirdness abounds nowadays though it seems.

My friend is on the peripherals of one of these faerie groups - there really are grown people who fuck about in forests playing tinkerbell at weekends. But I suppose it's no different to historical society re-enactment style things.

If anyone needs any faerie or elf ears - I know a lady who makes them!

I had a hard enough time calling my Auntie Margaret "Margo" when she changed it after getting divorced.

Tell her you'll happily use it if she doesn't mind you sniggering every time?

Ahh, such a happy snort I've been having. Thank you all for the amusement, from Rain Catglimmer.

Did they really write a poem about pretending to be dave?

Which Dave?

(Oak Catwand. Unimpressed.)

Arf @ changing name to deep poll!

Yes I suppose it is similar to reenactment except they have absolutely no historical, ecological or spiritual base for it.

It is literally just grown up women in a field taking about how pretty, cute and sweet they are.

Never heard of this grown women playing fairies.

Can't imagine it in my group of friends, life too fucking hard to be honest.

Rather be a Witch me.