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AIBU?

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To just want to call people by their names?

290 replies

Geckos48 · 06/01/2014 08:49

Okay I know a group of women who, though I speak to very few of them, wish to be called by their 'fairy' names

One of them who I am stil in contact with, is insisting that I call her by (an obviously made up) name that she has chosen for herself.

I find this hard for a number of reasons;

  1. I don't think of her as a 'pixie' or a 'fairy' or whatever so when I am talking to her it is natural to call her by the name I have know her by for around 10 years.
  1. I don't know that that this perpetual childlike image these women are portraying is necessarily something I want to support either directly or indirectly

3 I just think it's a bit weird (if I'm honest)

I had a conversation with her last night, which felt a bit tense to be honest and it came up that she wants me to call her bluebell or whatever the hell it is.

AIBU to just not do this? Knowing it will likely end whatever friendship we still have? We are very different people now, she gets her political views from Russell Brand and 'doesn't appreciate debate' so I've already had to hide her posts in Facebook just because I can't stand to see her writing about stuff she doesn't quite get and being unable to justify it in any way.

Also, we are all hurtling towards our thirties now, is rather disparaging at the dreams and ideas we have regarding buying our own property and instead focusing (still) on travelling and living in the moment

OP posts:
mrsjay · 06/01/2014 08:51

are they 5 or in Made in Chelsea they never seem to have real names, god sake drop these immature airy fairy people like a dead fairy Grin

Binkyridesagain · 06/01/2014 08:52

It could be worse.

She could be asking you to clap your hands, whilst repeatedly saying 'I do believe in fairies, I do, I do'

NinjaBunny · 06/01/2014 08:54

Okay I know a group of women who, though I speak to very few of them, wish to be called by their 'fairy' names.

Shock Hmm Grin

Share. Share the names.

I can't help you until I know exactly what mad names Jane/Mirriam/Susan have chosen to be called.

List them, please!!

StatelyAsAGalleon · 06/01/2014 08:54

Just tell them "There's no such thing as fairies..." and see what happens to them.

If they're offended - problem solved. If they start staggering around clutching at their throats, problem also solved.

Or you could point out how creepy it is.

ToniViolin · 06/01/2014 08:55

I would unapologetically rip the piss, mercilessly and constantly, and I would enjoy it :o

Notaddictedtosugar · 06/01/2014 08:55

Is there any reason you want to keep this friendship going? It doesn't sound like it. In which case YANBU!

mrsjay · 06/01/2014 08:55

She could be asking you to clap your hands, whilst repeatedly saying 'I do believe in fairies, I do, I do'

Grin

If they're offended - problem solved. If they start staggering around clutching at their throats, problem also solved.

mrsjay · 06/01/2014 08:56

is there some sort of fairy cult thing going on that we don't know about sounds like a future channel 4 programme TBH

Geckos48 · 06/01/2014 08:59

They are between 28 and 31 and they call themselves

Bubbles
Trixie pixie
Star
And
Avalon.

I don't give a shit about being outed at this stage because I really really just don't think I can stomach it.

OP posts:
Trills · 06/01/2014 08:59

Fairy names as in call me Titania?

Or as in I am princess twinkle-toes?

mrsjay · 06/01/2014 09:00

OH stop it Bubbles

AgathaF · 06/01/2014 09:01

How bizarre. Proper grown-ups pretending to be fairies?

AmberLeaf · 06/01/2014 09:01

They sound awesome.

NinjaBunny · 06/01/2014 09:03

I have an actual fairy name from a Shakespeare play.

But it is my actual name.

Asking someone to call you Bubbles is a bit bonkers.

Confused
MrsSteptoe · 06/01/2014 09:04

WWKHD?

(What would Katie Hopkins do)

This thread is fantastic.

BettyMacdonald · 06/01/2014 09:04

GrinGrin Can you all call me Princess TwinkleToes from now on?

OP YANBU. How very very odd. Why do they want fairy names anyway? Hmm

Notawordfromtheladybird · 06/01/2014 09:05

Are you allowed to do it in baby talk?

mrsjay · 06/01/2014 09:05

I know somebody with a fairy(like) name but like Ninja it is a given name

exWifebeginsat40 · 06/01/2014 09:06

google 'manic pixie dream girls'...so QUIRKY.

ugh.

Ullapull · 06/01/2014 09:07

What is a fairy name? I don't get it... YANBU I think.

anonacfr · 06/01/2014 09:07

I want to be called Avalon!

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob · 06/01/2014 09:07

Is it for religious reasons?

LoonvanBoon · 06/01/2014 09:07

Please tell us more, OP. Do they actually believe in fairies - with wings etc.? And think that they themselves are fairies? Do they expect everyone who knows them to call them by "fairy names"?

mrsjay · 06/01/2014 09:08

so when did they decide to make up the cult of fairy what is it all about did they sit in the pub one night and think it would be a hoot to be fairy's have you noticed any woodland creatures falling them or some sparkle as they walk,

mrsjay · 06/01/2014 09:09

Is it for religious reasons?

Fab worshiping at the alter of tinkerbelle