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AIBU to think this girl needs a slap

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 22:30

This girl who use to hang around with us was always around trouble stealing, running away, violence, drinking, smoking, drugs you name it she did it.

I kind of moved on and she moved to a different area we had each other on Facebook but don't speak. She got pregnant and proclaimed it was going to be the making of her Hmm well it wasn't unfortunately she was constantly telling the Facebook world how SS were on to her and were going to "kidnap" her baby. She had and was given a chance and after a few photo's of her changing the child with her feet holding the bottle in it's mouth with the caption "you bitches can't multi-task like me" status of how she had to go through DNA because she'd slept around and drug test because she was taking her child to be around people whom do drugs she got miffed at the world because SS took the child away.

She still see it but lashed out at everyone with a child on Facebook stating she resents them because SS are C**t's and stole her baby Hmm they don't know what they're doing even one remark about how all the SS are is a paedophile gang leader taking and giving children to paedophiles?!?!

She's now telling the world of facebook how at her next contact she's just going to take the child and run because nobody will stop her and despite having no job, money or home she can provide better than these "paedophiles Hmm because it's going to be adopted yet she constantly refuses any help

AIBU to think that maybe if she didn't constantly accuse the SS and fill her Facebook full of shit like this she may have more of a chance I try to hide her post but some just creep on in

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LimitedEditionLady · 04/01/2014 23:32

I think you started the thread for attention.Are you bored and lonely?

KellyHopter · 04/01/2014 23:32

Op you can't win.
The vast majority of people in rl would feel the way you do but a magical thing happens when these thoughts are expressed in an op such as yours.
Suddenly it's all bleeding hearts and pointy fingers.

What kleptronic said, basically.

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:33

Kelly

I don't mind it was just a way to get some frustration out didn't word myself very well lol.

Thank you though

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:34

Limited No sorry I'm not.

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LimitedEditionLady · 04/01/2014 23:35

Well im sure the op didnt need someone to tell her that she thinks she is not being unreasonable.

Birdsgottafly · 04/01/2014 23:35

"Vamp I haven't had a particularly good childhood i didn't steal or take drugs. I also never ran away."

There wil be people who have had much worse childhoods than yours, but who are doing a hundred times better, it is pointless to compare yourselves to others and when doing so try not to be to smug.

You don't know what she is going through, or why, so stop thinking you do. She doesn't parent the way you do, you cannot know what thoughts or feelings she has about her child.

You need to mature and learn a lot more, before you can start to judge the reasons behind her actions.
She has made bad choices, for whatever reasons, but unless she accepts the intervention of CAHMs, she will not realise this, or why, for a long time.

You couldn't help, she will need and has needed professional help.

Re abduting the child, the room that she has contact in, wil be code locked.

Coconutty · 04/01/2014 23:38

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wobblyweebles · 04/01/2014 23:38

KellyHopter put it much better than me.

OP I am related to someone like this. She didn't have a bad childhood. I don't know why she makes stupid decisions, but she's been an adult for nearly 20 years now and her decisions aren't getting any better. I do want to slap her some times, especially when I see her poor children not getting the things they need because she needed a new dog or a night out on the lash. I have stopped trying to help her because the help is simply abused.

The best thing you can do is unfriend.

VoteYes · 04/01/2014 23:43

Think the OP is bad form if I'm honest. It is exploiting someone else's pain. She may be in the wrong for a lot of things she has done but she is dealing with a lot of judgment from outside sources at the moment and really doesn't deserve to have a friend (FB or otherwise) splashing her business all over a public forum. You have been very specific and if someone who knows this woman or she herself reads this then it won't be all that difficult to figure out who it is about. I really think that a public slaughtering is really the last thing she needs.

If she isn't your friend and you don't want to see her posts remove her as a friend. watch and not fall of your high horse

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:49

Vote If you read I've already done that :)

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VoteYes · 04/01/2014 23:53

You really are quite vile. Your "friend" is much better off without nasty people like you in her life.

I've also reported your post due to how identifiable this poor woman is. It would appear you have a lot of growing up to do yourself.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 04/01/2014 23:54

vote and it's not vile to call social workers paedophiles no?

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 04/01/2014 23:55

why don't people stop all this 'troubled, vulnerable, poor girl' shite because i would be prepared to bet you wouldn't be saying it to the woman in question.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 04/01/2014 23:55

not saying OP is right but neither is her 'friend'.

LittleDoris · 04/01/2014 23:58

I am sure that if this woman posted on here she would be told that she was wrong. She would also probably be directed towards some support services.

But she hasn't posted on here.

Joules68 · 04/01/2014 23:58

The friend could have MH issues the op isn't aware of, any number of reasons for her behaviour

Op sees a snapshot and declares the woman needs a slap

VoteYes · 04/01/2014 23:59

Have I said once that that is acceptable? Quite frankly this woman that is being vilified on this thread may have mental health issues, we do not know.

I am not condoning any of the alleged behaviour by this other woman but since she isn't here to defend herself I for one think that the the actions of the OP are disgusting. She has written a post which makes the woman she is publicly attacking identifiable to anyone who stumbles across this thread who may know her in RL.

ashtrayheart · 05/01/2014 00:02

Yanbu but this is mumsnet Wink

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RalphLaurenLover · 05/01/2014 00:02

She DOESN'T have MH issues. other posters are right you're all very quick to give her some diagnosis for her stupid behaviour.

Vote Thanks for your kind words, I'll cherish them forever Thanks

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RalphLaurenLover · 05/01/2014 00:03

ash why thank you Wink however the vast majourity shall agree because they're all so quick to diagnose her with something.

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LimitedEditionLady · 05/01/2014 00:04

I havent once said the said woman isnt out of order,i am talking about the thread started.Im not commenting on the woman because the OP isnt even friends with her shes just telling someone elses horrible story.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 05/01/2014 00:04

even mh issues don't excuse neglecting your child.

VoteYes · 05/01/2014 00:06

Have I said she does? I am saying she may have. And if your description of her is accurate I would be inclined to think there are underlying issues with her.

Your retorts scream of immaturity yourself. Who needs enemies...

LimitedEditionLady · 05/01/2014 00:07

Im sorry but you dont know if she has MH issues or not OP.You cant possibly know that.

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RalphLaurenLover · 05/01/2014 00:08

Vote

[Thanks] thank you once again. You're obviously like a wise owl and so full of maturity and information.

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